how to get a 2yo over her terrifying fear of the potty

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This is my 4th child. I am no by no means new to potty training. For almost 4 years straight I was potty training one child or another (including 2 very stubborn little girls). But this is new to me. My youngest daughter just turned 2 last week. She is ready to potty train. She screams and cries whenever she pees or poops in her diaper to the point where she almost throws up. As soon as she feels herself starting to pee she starts freaking out and screaming, demanding to be changed and obsessing over her pants being wet (even though they aren't since she is wearing a diaper). The problem is she won't go near the potty. She is absolutely terrified of it. Even suggesting it causes her to hyperventilate half the time. Just now I had to pee really bad so I suggested she go up with me and try to use the potty. Surprisingly she agreed and happily went up the stairs, stood next to the toilet and peered in it (big improvement for her). So I go and she laughs and tells me what to do (sit there, get the "tissue", ie toilet paper, wipe, flush, close the lid, etc). She knows the process. She is a very bright girl and has been using complete sentences since she was 18 months, uses speech to express emotions, etc. So then it is her turn. Suddenly she panics and starts crying, runs to the corner and hides. I slowly bring her closer to the potty and let her stand near it until she calms down. We pour some water in, flush it, toss in a few tissues (real tissues). She calms down so I take her diaper off. This starts some real antics. What I noticed to day when I finally got her to sit down is that she doesn't like the seat. We have one of those little potty seats to put over the toilet. She tries to hold herself above it. I had to take her hands off the seat to get her to actually sit on it and that made her cry harder. Then after a few minutes of crying and finally calming her down enough that she could speak she said it hurt. I asked her where and she pointed to her leg where it met the seat. My first thought was that the seat was too hard (it's cushioned but not much). Then I remember how lately when we change her she won't put her but down on the carpet. She holds it up in the air and cries until you put a diaper on her. Something just isn't right. She won't let anyone touch her diaper area without crying and screaming unless they are using the wipes. Like one day she had this little hair in the crease of her leg (one of my hairs from the carpet). So I, of course, tried to grab it and she freaked out as soon as I touched her leg. Like completely spazzed, yelled, told me it hurt and I was barely touching her. No, she isn't abused. Not even a chance. The only people she is every with are me, hubby, my dad and the kids. She is never alone with my dad and he never changes her. My husband does most of her diaper changes (an agreement we have since he isn't working and I do everything else around here) but I am never far away. He is not abusing her. My older girls change her but her freaking out started before that. I have no clue what her problem is. She obviously has some serious sensitivity issues with her diaper region and someone at sometime (maybe even me) touched her in a way she didn't like and now she is terrified to have anyone touch her there. She really tenses up if you touch anywhere below her belly button. I don't know how to help her. Today she is running around in just a diaper and shirt. This is BIG for her. She absolutely HATES to not have clothes on. She will scream until she throws up unless you put clothes on her. So I am very surprised that she is okay not having pants on. I'm sure it will only last a short time before she asks for pants again. She won't even wear dresses any more because they don't cover her legs all the way. This is a whole other issue we are trying to deal with before summer when she will be wearing tank tops and shorts (which right now would freak her out). She'll be going in for her 2 year check up soon and I will bring it up with the doctor. She is really starting to worry me. I don't know how to get her over this fear of having her diaper off and of the potty. I wouldn't worry about introducing the potty at all if she wasn't freaking out every single time she pees. Every hour she starts screaming she is wet and demands to be changed. She is even waking up in the night screaming she is wet and wanting changed. We are all tired and frustrated and clueless on how to help her. It is just crazy because she is such a smart, articulate child and you would think she would understand. She understands so much that normal 2 year olds don't but just doesn't get that there is nothing to be afraid of when her diaper is off and she is sitting on the potty. (and again, no, there is no abuse going on...100% sure. I am with her 24 hours a day.)