Funky Mood!!!
By skinnychick
@skinnychick (6905)
United States
April 14, 2008 2:15pm CST
In keeping up with my funky mood, I have been doing a lot of thinking.
My head is about to explode and I have a lot going on.
But all that is going on right now with my life has popped a question into my head.
I have been having trouble trying to answer it (just when I thought I had all the answers) and thought maybe I should see how other's view their lives.
So mylotters:
Do you focus more on where you have been or where you are going?
Are you completely happy with every aspect of your life and wouldn't change a thing?
I keep trying to focus on where my life is going and for some reason I can't stop dwelling on where my life has been. I thought I had gotten good at getting past my past and focusing on my future. Now I'm not so sure.
I think my problem is that I'm letting my weaknesses from the past creep into and destroy my strength for the future.
Does anyone else have this problem or can you just focus on the future without letting your past interfere?
If you are happy with your present life I would like to hear about that as well.
Thanks very much for sharing your stories in advance.
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9 responses
@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I dwell on the past at times, so much in fact, that I have to literally shake myself out of it. I hate that about myself. I try focusing on something positive but it just doesn't work. I will put on inspirational music sometimes to try avoiding negative thinking. I would love it if my life were better than it is now, especially financially, but at the same time, it could much worse.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I'm trying to keep that focus...there are people definitely in worse positions than Iam in. Thanks for stopping by!
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
14 Apr 08
SkinnyC, It is very hard to keep focused on the future if your life is constant turmoil. Sounds kinda Like you are beating yourself up a bit here. Don't be so hard on yourself. You need to try and take a couple of deep breaths sometimes then allow yourself some breathing room to maneuver your way into the future. Although it is very easy for us to tell you you are going to be okay and everything will work out just fine, I know how hard the struggle is to keep walking and muddling though when all your legs and feet want to do is rest and give up.
No I am not always happy, there is always room for improvement in my life, I have over the years learned to be content with my station and my lot in life. My life for good or bad is what it is and it serve no purpose to wish and earn for more. I am fulfilled for the most part and I enjoy each day I am given
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I usually am so happy to and that is what is distressing...I will snap out slowly but surely. I have to remember the universe and that what will happen will happen and all will be fine.
Thanks for reminding me of that! :)
@itsmepinky (1300)
• India
15 Apr 08
To tell u the truth tell me a single preson who is happy with his/her life. It depends upon us how to make our lives worthwhile. Do not think about the past too much and spoil your present and future. Enjoy the good things while they last. Everyone must have had some or the other problems in their lives , but that doesnt mean we stop living our lives. Look beyiond your all these things and i am sure life will be much more happier and peaceful
~pinks~
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
15 Apr 08
That's great advice- thank you!!!
I also like your screen name, very cute!
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Well, I think that it is really difficult to look back and walk forward at the same time. (LOL) Seriously yes, I can look back at old things and remember them. Life is a mix of good times and difficult. That's life after all. I do try to focus on the present rather than look anywhere else. That helps me stay on track with any future goals.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Sounds to me like the present is where it's at!! Thanks so much!
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I am guilty of this too. I let my past dictate my future so much. I am so afraid of letting the same things happen again that I am constantly re-living it anyway. It is miserable but I can't seem to control it.
I am trying though. Some days are better than others. Right now I am really working hard on focusing on the future without the stains of the past.
I think part of my problem is that the past never really got resolved; just swept under the rug. So when I go to clean, it is all still sitting there.
I need to learn how to throw it away for good.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Nice analogy and I have to learn how to do that again myseld, though I thought I alerady knew how. Sigh...
Thanks for the comment!
@Spring100 (26)
• China
15 Apr 08
Yesterday,with mistakes and cares,faults and blunders,aches and pains.
Yesterday has passed forever beyond our contol.
All the money in the world can not bring back yesterday. we can not erase a single word said.
Yesterday is gone.
Let us,therefore,live but one day at a time.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
15 Apr 08
VERY NICE!!! 100 percent true. Easier said than done but thanks for a beautiful post!! :)
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I myself try to live in the present!! I look to the future also, but one day at atime is the best way for me to live!!
I have things in my past also, as everyone must, that i just keep remembering and think about even though iw ish i could just get past it..
Is that the same as you ?
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
14 Apr 08
This is a really complicated question. Hmmm.
I don't so much focus on my past as try to integrate it into my present in a way that has positive effects. I can't forget the past, and I can't help some of the ways my memories affect me, so instead of trying to "put the past away", I try to make it a part of my life in ways that help me rather than harm me.
For example, my obsession with certain charities and volunteerism actually comes from negative parts of my past, but it's a positive part of my present. It's a way of dealing with things that also helps others.
As for where I am going, I try not to think too much about that at all. I have no guarantees I will wake tomorrow morning, so today is the day in which I live.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
14 Apr 08
This was a great answer.
I need to figure out how to use my past effectively in that manner. That has been the hardest part of trying to figure myself out.
I want to say I'm over my past and I thought I was but then my life goes upside down and it pops back up again. I wish I could just put it behind me but maybe I'm not supposed to. Maybe I'm supposed to use it maybe to gather some strength or something. I have to think on that and thanks for making me see it a different way. XOXOXXOXOXO
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Apr 08
I have dwelled on the past and got myself into a state of depression over that. now that I found mylot I havesomething to do with all my free, retired against my will, time. I no longer dwellon the unpleasant past but now on my pleasant todays. I can not live in the past nor the future so all I have is today. today I am really happy and looking forward to tomorrow.
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Thanks for the uplifting answer. I too am looking forward to tomorrow.
Have a great tomorrow!
