potty blues

we are still trying to potty train our two year old. It is really hard. We start it and then we stop it, I know that is not good but like I said it is hard to keep up with. A friend said that she used panties with her daughter cause she wouldn't go in the potty. After a few days of peeing and feeling wet she went on the potty. This approach isn't working for my baby so I am at a deadlock. She will go to the potty but she won't go on it. Pee or poop.

I feel your pain! My daughter is around the same age as yours. We are experimenting with potty training but she's afraid of the potty, too. The best advice I can give you is to get her her own potty, one that is her size. My daughter won't use the attachment I bought for the toilet but will sit for long stretches of time on the potty I bought for her. Also, there is no right time to potty train. If you feel she's ready, I would go ahead and try but I would be cautious because if your daughter is anything like mine, the more you push her, the less she tries. Let her watch you go potty, explain to her everything you're doing and in time, she'll get the hang out of it. Potty training isn't the biggest hurdle to worry about, so just relax. Good luck!

Each child is different, therefore, potty training each child can be different. With all three of my girls I bought a little potty chair and a bag of M&Ms. Yes, M&Ms, but not the peanut kind. The reason for the M&M's is a reward. Some say you shouldn't but it worked for my kids. When ever you go to the bathroom, take her with you and let her go when you go. Then when she does clap and tell her how proud you are of her. Let her take the potty "cup" and empty it in the toilet and flush. You might want to help so that nothing spills, though. Help her to wash her hands and then give her an M&M. Her actions say she is ready. Unfortunately for us, when they are ready we have to help them instead of waiting until we are ready. Be happy though, your daughter is reaching a milestone in her life! And remember not to get on to her if she doesn't go in the bathroom or if she goes somewhere she shouldn't. You don't want her to be scared to go. Hope this helps!

Every child potty trains in different stages, so there's really no point in time where you should definitively potty train. It's a good thing that she's holding it through the night. That may make life a lot easier for you in the long run. You need to let her know that removing her diaper in public is not appropriate and that she should let you know if she needs to potty. It's also a good idea to let her see you going potty at home or in a stall in public, so she knows what it's for. Then try sitting her on her special potty for 5 minutes or so, so she gets used to it. If she goes potty, make a HUGE deal out of it with praise. She'll be likely to want to do it again because she gets such a good reaction from you. And mostly, give it time. Nothing happens over night. Be patient with her. Be patient with yourself. And you'll both get through it just fine.

When my kids were little and a bunch of others in the daycare I had....very few would successfully train much before exactly 2. But once they were 2 or 2+ a day or 3 I would start if the parent was willing. Underwear work best. You may not be ready but the child will almost always be ready. They don't like making a mess. They don't like having to be cleaned up. So with a week or 2, of intense "YOU pay attention a LOT". I swear those messes you have to clean up get less and less and the childs successes get better and MORE often. You just take them in like ever 1.5 hours or so. Maybe 2 especially since your saying she's holding it all night long. She will be a great learner once you start. But honestly starting too soon I think is happening at 18 months. I wouldn't say Wait til her 2nd birthday but if she keeps it up... Consider at 21 months a 2 week intense potty training but remember just clean up clean up clean up. Don't even act disappointed. At first anyways. Just oh my we must clean up. Clean up we had a accident. Then go ahead and get fresh undies on and shorts/dress pants whatever and be ready for the next 2 hour or so interval. Plan a bit of less running shopping errands if at all possible and concentrate on the training at home. Easier to deal with since you probably don't need a diaper bag then if you just run a errand. About now when it's not a work day you probably could run out with her and have a small diaper/wipe travel pack in car for just such a need but drop the bag now for days your not working and she will begin to notice not so much "baby" stuff coming along. You will both begin to be freer to live life when she is all trained. Good Luck! God Blesses!

Have you bought her some underpants? Maybe get some she would like possibly Dora or something she is interested in that she watches on tv. When i potty trained my daughter i would tell her she is a big girl and show her how mommy is one and went from there. She wanted to big a big girl. You can also buy pull-ups. Just let her know you love her and ask if she wants to be a big girl like mommy. It worked for me.