How do you feel?

I thought it was just guys that were insensitive ~ but i feel the same way about my Mother. Of course i love her, she's my mum, but iv never really felt that she cares about me a whole heap, not really. She wasnt around much when i was growing up, because she was busy running a business at first, so my Nan usually looked after me. Then when Dad and her broke up, when i was 8 yrs old, she met this new guy, who, to ciut a long story short, ended up abusing me. Anyway, when it all finally came out, and i thought that she'd be there for me, she wouldnt belive what i said! She believed my now Step-Dad over me, and actually moved away with him and said she never wanted to see me again. I was about 12 years old at the time. A year later, i ran away, and when i was found, she started back into my life. Since then, after the hurt subsided a little, i tried to make a good relationship with her, and its much much better, but i always know that she she will always put her husband before me whatever. I hope one day i can feel my mothers love for me.. but right now, i often question if she really cares at all. xxx

Its really hard when people ignore our feelings. specially when they are the people who are very dear to us. i have a boyfriend and we're miles apart right now. i know he's so busy these days. i keep on sending emails to him just to keep in touch and tell him what's with me. im so sad because he didn't even bother to reply to my messages even ones. i don't know if he really cares about me at all. i don't know if he is really that insensitive that he doesn't get that i really miss him and wanting to hear something from him...

I would take this to mean one of two things. Either he's suspicious about you being happy, and slightly jealous, or he wants to hear you say that he makes you happy. He probably needs some reassurance, so how about your telling him how happy he makes you feel and how much you appreciate him. I think you're feeling a bit insecure as well, for some reason. He's trying his best, to my mind, and it's working, but you're not giving him the answer he wants to hear. Try it! Brightest Blessings.

Hello, Micky31. Yes, I have felt like that before. Not too long ago. It is horrible, because you stop living your own life to live the loved one's. Every single moment is not good if you do not spend with her. All you want is to be with her. And she doesn't care. She doesn't want you. She can't stand you near her anymore. Really, a hard situation. Now, you are married. What is the matter in your husband asking why are you happy? Perhaps he wants to know so he can be happy as well. Perhaps he wants to know because he will try to make you even more happy. You should just talk to him, there is no need to be worried. I don't think he would be messing up with you, unless you are doing the same to him. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

that is sort of unusal. I cannot quite fathom what he means, why ask why? Does he mean was I the one who made you happy or is he thinking maybe you are playing around, I mean is it a kind of jealous question? I have never felt that way about my husband for we were both lovers and bestfreiends and we shared everything. I could talk to him about anything. Did you ask him just what he meant? you should you know. he is your hubby.