Am I being a baby about this?
By Lora1966
@Lora1966 (30)
United States
April 15, 2008 6:17am CST
Just thought I would write and get some opinions of others about this situation.
I just recently came out of major depression thanks to medication. It was my weekend off of work and I was very exited to spend it with my husband, since he had worked 20 days in a row without a day off. Now here is what happened.
A man called and asked my husband if he would be interested in selling a camaro that my husband has, it has been parked for quite a while sitting outside. By the way my husband is crazy about cars. But anyway, when he hung up and told me, I said to him, "Gosh I would sell the damn thing, I would get the money, all it is going to do is sit there and rust." Now mind you I meant this in a excited way, like gosh, if it was me I would take the money. Well I could tell he did not like me saying that so I immediatly went over and said, "oh honey I did not mean it that way" He said no just get away in a calm voice, well I did not think anymore about it. We sat down to eat supper and could tell something was wrong. to make a long story short he ignored me the rest of the weekend, by Sunday night he finally told me why he was mad, I got very upset and cried for hours. I just could not believe he would ignore me over something so stupid even when I told him I did not mean it that way. My whole weekend was ruined because of this. I just could not do that to someone I love. everything was fine the next day but I did not apologize and neither did he. What do you all think about this? I know this all sounds silly but I got very upset over it.
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6 responses
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I would have been upset as well. It's a car that just sits there and you were just thinking about extra money. To ignore you the entire weekend over something so small is beyond childish. I'm not trying to down your husband or anything, but it was childish. He shouldn't have ruined the weekend over something like that. You two could have enjoyed the weekend together.
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@Lora1966 (30)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Yes! that is exactly what I was thinking when I said that.
That really made me question wether he really loves me or not.
Oh and believe me I cherish my husband, and he knows this. Well I won't put up with that sh** again. The next time he ignores me, well there better not be a next time is all I can say, I get upset just talking about it. lol Thanks for your response,
it really makes me feel more confident, I am not trying to be right, I am just trying to make sure that you all are hearing the same thing he heard, and if I was in the wrong in the way i was feeling.
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@kezabelle (2974)
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15 Apr 08
I think the only person being silly is your husband!He needs to learn that you cant ignore your problems but you should face them and sort them through especially with people you love. Ignoring you was a really childish thing to do
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@Lora1966 (30)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Oh I agree with you, it hurt me really bad, especially me just coming out of major depression, and I was so smackin happy that I was going to spend the weekend with him and then he goes and does that to me, oh boy wait till he gets home, I am gonna tell him.'Hopefully in a calm manner. lol
Thanks for your response
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@madlees (1377)
• India
15 Apr 08
Dear Lora,
Shall I tell you something? I feel he must have been very much attached to the Camaro. When you talked about it like that it affected him so much that he got upset with you. He is going to be quiet till his anger goes off or you have to do something to make him forget it.
Some get attached to their things and have sentiments over that. If you can try and make him see that you didn't mean it the way he thought you meant it, everything will be allright.
Try your best, and make him forgive you. It is nothing to ask a husband for forgiveness if you love him. Make him understand you. Nothing is beneath you.If I were you I would be after him till he forgives me, even if it is not wrong from mypoint of view. All the best.
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@Lora1966 (30)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Dear madlees,
Thank you for the response, but if the camaro affected him that much to ignore me all weekend, then I feel that goes to show me that he cares more about the camaro than he does me. That is the way it made me feel. I immediatly went to him and said. "Oh honey I did not mean it that way." But he chose to ignore my words and carry on in a imature fashion. well all I know is that I could never do that to someone I love. NEVER! Sorry but I was truely hurt over this, and I am going to let him know tonight, in a calm way. Thanks Again for letting me vent lol
Lora
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
4 May 08
I would have gotten a little upset too. It's horrible to have your loved one ignore you all weekend, especially when you're already in a fragile state as it is. I don't think you're overreacting. People in relationships need to communicate, not act like babies. If there was something wrong he should have discussed it with you rather than hurting you by ignoring you the entire weekend.
@jaivonra (9)
• United States
15 Apr 08
In the beginning of our marriage my husband would do the same thing to me...ignore me when he was upset about something. And YES it is very hurtful and annoying and childish. If you don't apologize and he don't apologize, you have to at least let him know how you feel. Write a letter if he won't talk about it. This is what I did and my husband realized how much it bothered me. But really if you don't discuss it then it will happen again and again.
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