my engagement
By babymar
@babymar (359)
Philippines
April 15, 2008 7:35am CST
time is really running fast...my engagement day is about to come....it's on April 27, i was excited but yet i also worried...i never thought that an engagement would be that expensive....imagine? i have to buy and expensive watch for my fiance and a necklace also for him....it's a chinese tradition...i'm 75% chinese.....i don't think its really practical to have an engagement party....most people don't do it, they just get married.....
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8 responses
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
16 Apr 08
thats true its quite too expensive to marry someone these days...and with all the customs and traditions,it all adds up to how much money you will have to waste just for marriage.why not use the money in business so the couple can get a good start for their own family....and get a simple celebration instead.i think it is only applicable to those who can and to those who are able to shoulder the expense of an expensive marriage....
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
18 Apr 08
why do oldies have these mindset to see their son's and daughter in an elegant wedding?dont they see that its just a waste of precious time and money.what happens to couples after that?im completely against it,thats why i had my marriage in a simple and solemn as possible,and we didnt take in material gifts,we told everyone to give a gift of money so we can have a good start for our life as married couple and for our future...so far it has worked wonder for us because the money we got from our wedding was invested in a good business that until now is helping us to achieve more for the future of our kids...
@babymar (359)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
yes, that's right...it's applicable to those who can....but we cannot and our parents still insist....we got really a headache because of this....it's expensive and of course who don't just waste money, we also waste time....imagine? we have to prepare all these gifts and we have to order a dress from a dressmaker....
China is a very big country, so it may be different in other places.
@4xmyworld (182)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 08
What i will respond to this can hurt so i should not.
Instead wish you a happy engagement day and all the best in your future undertakings.
Will talk to you further later on Forex.
Take care
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
22 Apr 08
I like the way that you have an engagement day. I have not heard of that before.
I see how an engagement could be expensive if you have to buy all those gifts, I hope you get some in return!
It is hard when parents have such strong views and are so heavily involved but it is a credit to you for honouring and respecting their wishes.
May you and your husband to be have a long and happy life together
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
16 Apr 08
Moderation is the key word here. As much as one does not see the significance of an engagement, I would tend to observe what the other party and party's family would favor and afford to have. It does not matter what race and / or custom you are, for love and relationship is about "we" and "us".
So I'd just like to convey my heartiest congratulations here and may the both of you find the happiness and joy in each other.
@sharay (2769)
• India
18 Apr 08
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! I hope it is not compulsory that u follow ur traditions, if u can afford to spend then u can, after all it is going to be once in a lifetime function, in case u think u r going to be put under some stress monetary wise, think before making the expenditure!
