Mouthy kids, where do they get it from?

I don't know where it comes from but, I can remember that my parents put the fear of God in me and I didn't talk back to them more than once which was all it took me to learn my lesson. But, I have neighbor kids who have told adults off. One told a cop that he didn't have to do anything the cop told him to do when the cop told him that it is law that he should be wearing a helmet while riding his bike. That same kid told another adult that his parents and all their guests could park wherever they wanted to in our cul 'd' sac when they were gearing up to have 150 guests. Do you know how many cars it takes to bring 100 guests to a home? How many cars it clogged up the entire cul 'd' sac and about a 1/4 of a mile down the street in my subdivision? But, they could park anywhere they wanted to. Well, not according to the cop that was called on them. But, I have noticed both on tv and in real life how snotty kids have gotten when talking to their parents. I never would have talked to my parents the way these kids today talk to theirs. In fact, for fear that my parents could read my thoughts, I never would have even thought about talking to my parents in such a disrespectful way! I don't know if it is because of TV, movies, or just a new trend they dreamed up all by themselves. I just know it needs to stop.

Children become mouthy from not having firm, yet fair parental limits to behaviour in the homes and parents who do not set "time outs" for trash talk or who do not follow through on consequences for "potty mouth" when they hear it. If parents swear..it is not an excuse for a minor to join in. If older siblings mouth off, the parents have the job of providing more chores, taking games, privaledges, tkaing the child away form an undesirable group of fiends,etc...bringing the child closer into the family and talking to them about how bad this is to do. But teens can also be given time outs and, if they refuse to follow the family rules, that should be done. (Contrary to popular belief, kids/minors DO NOT have the rights to choose all friends, if they cannot behave with those friends. They can be introduced to a new group of kids easily ..possibly made to take a musical instrument and to take band..and bring grades up and told not to see the bad behavioured ones. And if they do not listen..they can be grounded until they get the idea!) Children , of course, do NOT like getting time outs. The sooner in life you can talk to your kids about appropraiate language vs, being mouthy, disrespecectful or trash talking, the better. The younger they learn, the less likely they will to do that later. At two or so..a simple loud "NO!!!" when you hear a bad word will work fine most of the time. Many parents use excuses..the older siblings or a parent says it and they hear. This does not excuse the parent's responsibility to the child to teach them right from wrong. No matter where kids hear mouthiness or trash talk..THEY/the parents are still responsible for what comes out of their mouth and..hey..if they insist, it may be time to take their favorite toy away until they conform or give them a longer time out until they tow the line!

I found that my eldest daughter, 7, got very mouthy when she first went to preschool at the age of 5. I'm guessing that she heard other kids saying things and decided to try them out at home. She came up with things like, "If you don't do such and such I won't like you anymore." She also began saying "No" and throwing tantrums. She had never done these things before and found out fairly quickly that they didn't work out as well as she thought they would, but it was trying there for a while.

Mouthy kids are a sign of disrespect, if they don't respect their parents and the parents let them get away with it because they think spanking their child will somehow destroy their lives, it only gets worse. They won't respect teachers, bosses, police officers and worse the laws that govern us. It's a downward spiral. I don't have kids that talk back, they know that when they do its going to be a quick end to their verbal outburst. Teach respect at a young age, it will do the world good. Nobody wants to try and teach respect to an adult, they will fight to defend their words.

I think they get it from our generation and how we talk to each other, kids are very observative and see us talk like this and think it is ok, also i think we joke around more with our kids and use phrases jokingly and they pick it up and they may not mean what they say they have only heard us say it and think it is ok to use it jokingly as well

my son who is five never used to mouth off to me b/c we taught him better but when he started school things like that started to happen and as the school year has progressed it has gotten worse but i know that he also hears his two teenaged uncles mouth off to my parents so i know he also gets it from them and also from the t.v. programes that he watches so he see's and hears it from a little bit of everywhere now.

My son was very docile but my daughter just about two seems to have a mind of her own only. She is not at all obedient and will make it a poitn to sleep in her brother's bed (at east pretend to) and eats with him from her plate. She copies everything he does and now is after me that she wants to go to school. In morning hse is ready with a toy bag on her shoulders to go to school and we have to distract her so that my son can slip out to catch the school bus. I can actually feel how difficult things are going to be when she grows up.

my 8yr old answers back a lot too and he is kind of desperate in the way that if you take away certain priviliges from him for bad behaviour, that doesn’t change him but makes him more rebellious. And then not all families teach their children the same manners and the values of different people are different so school is a big factor. we never watch mainstream commercial cinema so we thought that our son would be off its influence but no, he knows all the latest cine gossip that one can possible know and its all from his freinds at school. so for people like us (who think that children should learn better ways of speaking) our only hope is to be polite and respectful in our own speeches with them. Gone are the days when we could just scold, shout and beat them into submission.

Mouthy kids need their mouths washed out with soap, so my mother would say to us LOL I think they pick it up from other kids around them mostly as well as tv and video games. One time I talked backed to my mom and I got slapped across the face. Never did that again!!

What do you mean lippy/mouthy? Does she speak bad words? As long as they are not bad words, let her. Yes, children of today are more liberal. I allow my kids to reason out but not to talking back. They learn this from television shows, playmates or from other family members. The minds of kids are like sponge, they absorb everything they see and hear.

Yes I agree completely, kids today don't seem to have any respect at all and most of it I blame on the parents. Yes kids see movies and things that show disrespect, but when they talk back to their parents what do the parents do? Now don't do that Jimmy, wait til we get home, go to the naughty chair. Right we are really teaching our children a lesson. I don't believe in abusing children, but I do believe that a fanny has more than one purpose. I have 5 grown children, and to this day, they will not disrespect me. My youngest will talk back to his dad, but you know why, my dear husband never believed in spanking, he would rather yell. We now have 5 adopted children, same thing, they will not talk back to me, but they do to hubby. They know mommy will spank their bottoms in a skinny minute, misbehave in the store, not with me, I don't say wait until we get home, I get them where they misbehave. Now before I get some bleeding heart scorching me, my children will tell you up front, I am their favorite parent and they love me with all their heart. It is because I love my children that I teach them right from wrong. I want them to grow up to be good kind people who care about others, not what I see in the high schools today, where kids will stand up and spit in teachers faces, curse them, and then laugh because they know that the poor teacher can't do anything. Is that the kind of children we want taking over in the future? Not me!

Hi friend, Unfortunately I think it is a lot due to the government tying our hands when it comes to disipline?? I am one of those people though that do not and have never listened to their child rearing ideas. This generation has been messed up since day one. These kids know, or feel they know, that you cannot touch or discipline them the way you want to. This is simply not true. My children learned the same way I learned. You get lippy, you get a smack in the mouth, or soap in the mouth. This is not going to kill them. Now keep in mind, this is a smack. This is not a beating. This is not child abuse. This is not using a weapon. This is not using abusive material in their mouth. I have three, almost grown children. I have always been so proud when other parents say to me, "how have you managed to have such well behaved and well mannered children? Believe me you don't need to use this method often. Usually once does the job. But if these kids know that you are just going to sit there and take it. For sure, they are just going to run with it. If you can't control them at 4 and 2, you are going to have major problems at 10 and up. Believe me, I am no expert. I just chose to follow my parents example and I think it has been the best thing I ever did. Good luck. Cheryl

My two girls are grown now but when they were younger they thought i was mean because i would'nt let them watch shows like Punky Brewster. Even other parents thought i was being awful but the child in that show had a smart mouth and lied constantly (which always worked out for the best) and i did'nt want them to think it was okay to be smart mouthed. That was'nt the only show they were not allowed to watch because of smart mouthed kids in it.Also kids now days dose'nt seem to realize that there is a consequence to every action. Children also picks up bad habits from other children-even 2yr. olds as i have recently found out!

My 2 yr old is mouthy too. But I know where she gets it from--her bubba is 15, sissy is 12 and another brother is 10. Monkey see, monkey do. It just seems all kids these days have no respect for us as their parents. We arent allowed to punish them like we were growing up and I think that has ALOT to do with it, if not EVERYTHING to do with it. Good luck :)

Children nowadays are much more clever than you think they are. I have a little boy aged 3 1/2 who speak like a big boy. He also knows how to use the swearing languages. I think the influence of tv and also they may copy it from us.

my daughter is just 15month old , even could talk some simple words, but sometimes she also resist us by action, for example, when we want to give her some pill ,so i think maybe some come form the nature , and other part come from the environment of course.

I think that the little ones like summer pick it up by hearing the older teens. My son when in his teens would really sit his dad off by lipping off with the f word which neither I nor my husband had ever used. Come to find out that seemed to be a favorite amog the kids in his class. But when years later I worked in our local library I was shocked to tears at the language young kids nine or ten used. swear words that we would havehad our moughts washed out for.So when I was rebuked for using a couple of damns I was disgusted at my rebuker for the kids had used much much worse swear words.

you are right most parents now days don't care what their kids are doing or who they hang out with. or even if the parents do care they are at work and can't do anything about what goes on and they just give up.when i was growing up my mom worked two jobs to support me and my sister but we were taught not to mouth off and if we did we got into trouble. my children know when i ask them to do something they do it right then and they are pretty good about doing it but there are times when they don't and they get things taken and set in a time out.they are for the most part good boys.