Why would people tell me this?

It is your decision to have more kids or not. but may be these people have problem raising their kids so they think they 3is too much or may it is a finical burden for them. I know they have their own reasons to say that. However, Its your decision to have more or not. thanks for the post.

Are the People telling you this Friends or Family, or People Whose opinion you might value? Do they have families themselves? Planning and Raising YOUR Family is a decision for You and Your Husband alone-it's no business of anyone else! (Unless you believe in China's 1 child policy..)

That's a tough one! I wouldn't know what to say to these people either. I know what I would like to say, but that's probably not the best idea. It always amazes me when people feel the need to put other people's life choices down. I'm sure that if you took a good look at their lives, there's probably a lot that you would want to say to them! You just keep on being the best mommy you can be and try to ignore the thoughtless comments of others!

You should say "Really...I think the world could do with more children that have loving parents (significant look).....don't you?" or "I just adore the ones I have already, I think I could have a dozen" Who cares what they think, there is this notion in society that 2 kids are enough - have what you feel comfortable with and the amount for which you can financially provide. You love kids - wish there were more people in this world that felt the same!

just tell them thank u but it your chocie . u are a good mother. some people just to nosie

People are often unkind, and cruel in this world. I wouldnt take things personally from people, often times as well people will start putting others down, just to boast themselves up. I reccomend putting aside the views of the people whom are putting your parenting skills down, and just cont. to be the great mom that you are.

Don't let it get to u . Just listen to them , but don't take it to your heart. Do whatever you want , afterall it's your life. ~pinks~

Some people think they know what's best for others without really thinking that you also have your own decisions and priorities. We get unsolicited advice all the time, and some really get into our nerves sometimes. But don't let this get into you. Maybe they are just concerned that with the current situation of the world and the economy, it's really hard to raise children and support their every need. But as long as you know that you are doing your best to rear your children well, then you can, by all means, bring another child into this world if you so desire.

It is entirely upto you and your dear husband how many kids do you want. No one has any right to give you unsolicited advice. Having kids and bringing them up is entirely your private affaris. It is upto you how much you can manage. If you feel that you can manage say upto 5-6 children, you can have 5-6 children, of course, with reasonable gap between them. I suppose you are very energetic and sound and you are also financially very strong, so there is no harm in having more than 3 kids. Enjoy your life with kids. No one can give you more happiness than your kids and seeing them grow in life. best wishes and best of luck!

It seems strange to me that people would tell you this. Unless you asked them for advice about it, it really is none of their business. If you feel they should keep this advice to themselves then you should tell them so. Or just pretend you didn't hear what they said, nod and smile, and then walk away.

Well maybe they are just telling that because they know how hard life now, But if you think that you want to have more children then go on. But before you decide to have another one think of it very well, you need to consider many things like financially capable in having more children. Taking care of them it is more harder if they are many, I know you love children that why you want more. If you think you are prepared enough the nothing to worry about just don't mind them they maybe concern and nothing foul to say. Maybe you just get it wrong that why you say that thy are saying that to you. If you think that tree are few then have another one then.

Tell them you might not NEED anymore, but you may WANT more. There's a big difference between what you need & what you want. When they say, "you don't need anymore kids" answer with, "and why is that? Am I not a good mother?" Or tell them it is not up to them to decide what you do or don't need, it is your choice! Some people! You don't need to explain what you do or don't do, either. It's your life. If you wanted to smoke, drink, go to the club, whatever, there's nothing wrong with that, as long as you take care of your kids, which you do.

It can be offensive when people keep telling you how to live your life. If you are a great mom and you feel comfortable having more children then that decision lies between yourself and your husband. Some of us struggle with having and raising one child while others have and raise six children with more efficiency. You know who you are, what you and hubby want, so allow the rest of the worl to be what it is ...outsiders. They may really mean well because of your age but that doesnt make it feel like any less of an interferance. The ultimate decision lies with you.(lol)

really? people say that? i mean three kids is not that many. it's already enough but they don't have any right to say that you shouldn't have kids anymore. who are they to tell you that anyway. it's a matter that is between the family. opinions are okay but not to the point that it would affect you. don't worry about it... you're doing a good job as a mom. keep it up =)

just tell them that you like to have more kids and they should really take their suggestions or comments somewhere else. ofcourse you would not tell them like that way, but you should tell them that in a respecful or tactful manner. you don't want to cause a fight with someone just because they made a comment of your having enough kids on your own. i don't really care how many kids parents have, as long as the parent can take care of their kids financially. i know it's hard to raise kids. i came from a big family. i have two brothers and two sisters. all in all we are five sons and daughters in my family. it's hard growing up in a big family because, we the sons and daughters have to compete for our parents attention and love. sometimes, parents have lots to do in their busy life that they sometimes neglect giving the essentials for their kids. sometimes, i wish that i was the only son in my family so that i am the only loved one, but no matter how i want that to happen, i would be lying to say that my siblings have not been the greatest gifts in my family.

Hello dear cream. I have to say that you are a very nice mom and wife to the family. I understand how you feel when someone keeps telling you this and that. In fact, I do not like nosy people and I would like to stay away with them to avoid hearing their gossip. I hope that you are not hurt by their remarks and wish you to live the way you desire without getting affected by other people. Please enjoy your life, my dear friend.

I would just ask them why they think they know so much about what is right for you? it is none of their business and you do not have to jusify yourself to them. I am a single mom with 4 kids. My 3rd was a surprise. I was single and almost 40. I got pregnant on the pill. You would not believe the remarks I got. Still, I raised them all just fine and on my own and i worked and was not on welfare. My last one is now 14. I don't get a dime in child support but she is well taken care of and I'm not getting welfare. People do judge but as far as I'm concerned...it is not their business. I take care of my own. The issue you have is between you and your husband only. Anyone else...it is none of their business and you should tell them so. I know a lady that is over 40 and pregnant with her 9th child. She is a grandmother. She seems happy so who am I to question her. I will say that I think they have the coolest family.

I am still single and it is not right time for me to have a baby currently.Actually I have some kind of shapeless fear for that,because I know so little about supporting a kid but only knowing that it must be very hard.But I have a feeling depth from my heart that I will got my way someday.And you are so great for already keeping 3 kids. So no need to care about whatever other people say.Reply to them"Thank you for your opinion" and move on.Do whatever makes you happy and whatever you want.

Maybe you should ask them that why they tell you this, to find reason. If it is good for you, think about their advice.