standin up for yourselves
By Bethygrl
@Bethygrl (92)
United States
April 15, 2008 9:08pm CST
It is so frustrating for me to see people not stick up for themselves. I do and am proud of it. I have friends who let their husbands/ boyfriends walk all over them. It makes me so mad. They tell me how unhappy they are yet they dont' do a thing about it. Im tired of telling them over and over again. If they put their foot down then things will change, if it doesn't then they shouldn't be together anyway. In most cases, if you put your foot down, then the person will respect you more and the relationship will get better. Not true in all cases but most. Does anyone feel the way I do?
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3 responses
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
Hi there Bethygirl!
It is really sad how people know that they are being stepped on but they don't do anything about it.
Thing is that every person is different from each other and sometimes, the involvement of the people that you love and the current situation that you're in just complicate things that may prevent people from doing what they should do.
@renaud_tan (416)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
hahaha.. 
i think that your right but you can't really make someone like you cause everyone's different, but you can teach them how they can be more assertive in a kind of way.. help them out by not just telling them, but showing them how..
i think that your right but you can't really make someone like you cause everyone's different, but you can teach them how they can be more assertive in a kind of way.. help them out by not just telling them, but showing them how.. 
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Yes I do, and I have been like your friends also, so I know why they aren't listening to you. They are afraid if they stand up for themselves, they will either loose their husbands or boyfriends or it will become a physical abusive relationship.
I started to stand up for myself about 10 years ago. I was getting no attention from my husband and it seemed like all he wanted was his friends...I guess he was going through a mid life crisis? I don't know.
We got into a good fight and I told him exactly how I felt and it felt so good to do that and from then on, I have never stopped doing it. I knew I would not loose him, and I was not sure of the physical part, but knew I had had enough.
That is what it will take for your friends to listen and do it, they have to have had more than enough.
Good Luck
~Icy~
