did you ever taught of adopting a kid?

i have not thought of it.. but my mom did when we were younger. she said she wanted another girl in the family (i am the only girl by the way and though she could need another girl in the family when someone was asking her about a girl who will be given up by her friend who used to work for her back. she thought of adopting the child but then, she changed her mind when my brother said that she is not sure about the family of the girl and if in time they will / might come to bug us with the "truth" some people can actually do a lot of unpleasant things just to get money...

I would love to adopt a little girl and if I did I would treat her equally with my own children. I think that you older son would be kind to his adopted sister. My younger son is still a baby so it is difficult to say what he would think about me adopting a little girl. When she grows up I would help her trace her real parents if that is what she wants to do. If she had a close bond with them I would be happy for her. However she would always be my adopted daughter. I am a primary school teacher and my first teaching post was in a Catholic school. There were a few adopted and fostered children there. One boy had very naughty behavior. His older brother's behavior was even worse. They had a younger sister that was well behaved. The adoptive parents were so upset with the boys behavior, the mum once cried in my classroom after school and said it it wasn't for the girl they would have given up. One girl in that same class was adopted and she was also quite challenging. Some adopted children come from a background of abuse and they may be quite troubled emotionally.

I think these are legitimate questions that a lot of people have when they haven't been in the situation. I was adopted when I was only a few months old. I've never met my biological parents, but I hope to one day. I certainly won't push if they don't want to see me, but I'd like to get to know them if the feeling is mutual. As far as my parents (my mom and dad, who adopted me)... They already had a son of their own. They lost their second baby at childbirth, thus they chose to adopt. My brother and I were never treated unequally. That was never an issue. My parents love me the same as they love him and have never shown partiality. Likewise, my brother loves me regardless of the fact that I was adopted. I have a great family. There will never be any issues with any inheritance when my parents are gone. I think if a family truly wants another child, adoption is a great option. I believe people adopt because they do, in fact, truly want a child (or another child if they already have one), and I think the love that comes with that overcomes the possible issues you've mentioned.

Well, being adopted myself, I hope I can answer a couple of your questions. First off, I am 34 now, and I just barely in the past few months started my search for my Birth Mother... I found her! (my mom was not real happy about me looking, but it was something I needed!) After all of these years of imagining what she might be like, and picturing some mythical being.... Not so! It was pretty disappointing for me. But it did make me realize that I was very blessed to be put up for adoption, and taken in by my Mom and Dad! As far as discrimination with other siblings, I can't help. Both me and my brother were adopted, but the rest of my family don't treat me any differently than the other kids. One piece of advise that I can give is be open with the child and let him/her know that she was adopted from a pretty early age. If I was to find out when I was a teenager, I would probably still be in therapy! As far as the relationship that I have started with my birthmother, its not going to be much. She is not my Mom! Remember anyone can have a child, but it takes someone special to be MOM!!!! Let me know if I can help in any way! I personally think adoption is great!!