Love or Mistake?

well, she can ask for divorce. it is her mother fault forcing her to marry him at the first place. she is not forced to accept this situation anymore. maybe there are institutions around that can help her. sorry to hear that.

Maybe if they hadnt been forced to marry but allowed to make their own choices their relationship wouldnt have failed, having someone force you to do something is the easiest way to make it crumble add a newborn baby to that and its not the best start for any married life really. I wouldnt say immature love is blind just maybe too idealistic but as you grow up you realise nothing ever comes easy, you have to work at it.

I believe all love can be blind or what a person believes is love. I feel for the woman but her family should not have been involved in the beginning. If someone feels forced to do something they often wind up hating it.

I have known several girls who are in the same situation with this! They have an option to live the irresponsible partner and start a life with the baby but they prefer to stay and embrace all the sorrowful events everyday! We made our decisions and partly made our life, it they are happy to be this way and if this situation inspires them in a way, we can't criticize them. Maybe they are hoping for a change on the part of the partner!

I don't believe in forcing people to get married because of pregnancy. Of course, God would prefer us to be married and not have a child out of wedlock but look at her now. She is most-likely depressed and doesn't love the man anymore.

This is really sadness.I feel sorry for the girl.Marriage is for duty.Immature love indeed is blind.But in real life it will be tortured by all the concrete affairs.And mostly money is in problem. So I suggest that girls should love themselves and help their bodies.If you trapped into marriage with an immature lover your last life will be the most terrible.

I would think it is a mistake to force two people to get married. I mean it seems like it wasn't her choice to marry this man. Its sad that her mother isn't at least helping her via emotional support.

Oh i really feel sad for them . Firstly they could have taken the necessary precautions to avoid the pregnancy. And i think her mom is responsible for her present state. S he should divorce that guy and move on with her life. ~pinks~

Immature love? Is it really? I think that the marriage was a mistake not the love.And I guess keeping the child was a mistake for this couple. Maybe they should have given the baby up for adoption or to older relatives or had an abortion. but love being a mistake, I don't think so. What is so sad is with the right help,your friend could have her child And go back to school. and her husband could get the help he needs too.But I guess it isn't going to happen.

To begin I would say that the parents were wrong to force a marriage if the 2 didn't want it. A baby doesn't make a life or a marriage and the life they are living is worse for that child than it would have been for the mother to have raised the baby on her own. I know it is supposed to be the "right" thing to do for the parents to be together but that isn't the way is always works out. The girls really needs to get away from the father of the baby since he is not helping and is bringing her down and I also think that her mother is very wrong to force her into a marriage and then not be there to support her when she needs it the most. I feel very badly for her but I would say that she needs to find a way to stand on her own 2 feet somehow and perhaps with friends' help or from outside agencies, she can put a life together for her and the baby and leave the rest of them behind her so she can be happy with her child.

for me ,actually, this is a mistake,love is based on material,maybe this made me material,but it's also the fact sometimes ,we may be into romantic and dosen't know what we do and make decisions without thinkingit's a lesson for many girls

love is blind.........till the person gets to know wat mistake he is comitin.....gettin pregnt is school days is definitly blindness!!!!

i would say this is a mistake people decide what they want to do with there lifes and she choose to stop school and marry a loser i would have finished school... but then who's fault was it for her to stop school her's her parents or her looser man.

Sounds like grandma wanted to punish the guy and ending up punishing the girl. Her parents tried to wash their hands of this mistake and ending up creating a loveless marriage and a grandchild that probably feels unwanted. The problem is she's alone in more ways than one. She should talk to her husband and work out a plan, I wouldn't even ask her mother for advice, she's done quite enough. Love isn't blind, justice is. Love is patient, kind.. you know the rest, does she?

Noone should ever be forced to marry. noone. Under no circumstanses. Nothing good can ever come from force. Hope your friend finds her way and that she will not have to spend her entire life struggeling.

This is a perfect example of why marriage is not always the answer to an unexpected pregnancy. Also this couple should have been mature enough at college level to not have been "forced" into marriage. Hopefully they will have learned and grown from this experience. I really can't imagine. I was on my own entirely when I finished highschool. I made some poor choices but they were mine.

You know I hate it when parents think they are going to teach their kids a lesson by making them marry someone just because the girl is pregnant. It's really sad that the girl doesn't have her parent's support. Now she will either have to live with this bum for the rest of her life or up and divorce him take the child an flee to a safe house. I hope she does the latter and gets herself back in college and finish what she started with her education. Amberina

They do say that. If I were here I'd leave him. Go to the court and file for divorce. If I ever got into a relationship like that I would leave. Some people dont leave their relationship early enough to fix the problem then it does make it harder to leave the person. So, I hope your friend doesnt get physically hurt in this whole thing.

Your story is so sad. I hope the woman will get to her senses and have strength in talking to her husband... I really can't give an advice on what she needs to do... but I pray that she will have courage to move on and be strong for her kids.

she might be staying with him b/c of how her mom is treating her and how he treats her. she might also not make enough to leave him. there should be shelters around there that will help her leave her husband. i don't know b/c thankfully i have never had to find one or even think about finding one. maybe she just needs a friend to lean on and find out if she wants to leave him and raise her child without him around. but yes i think that she made a big mistake