In-Laws

United States
April 18, 2008 1:28pm CST
How do you deal with In-laws? I am a newlywed so I am new to this in-laws thing. I am blessed because my in-laws are great. They take me shopping, go to a vacation with them, dine out with them and cook with them. My little problem is, I do not talk to them so much. I also say hi/hello and a little chit-chat. Is that enough? I know that I should talk to them more than that but I do not have much to talk about.
3 responses
@kezabelle (2974)
18 Apr 08
It will get easier as time goes on if they are nice to you now then you have nothing to worry about! Me and my partner arent married but after nearly 7 years me and his mum still dont get on we sort of tolerate each other to keep things pleasent not only for my partner but for our children also and I dont wish to deprive them of a grandma no matter how nasty she can be! Be thankful they are good to you some people are not s lucky it can be really hard, now a days I ignore most of what my partners mother says especially to do with the children as im their mother and know best and in return his mum is slowly learning to respect the fact that im a good mum and can manage without her advice which isnt even delivered as advice more like a command! But really dont worry over time as you have been a family longer you will have more and more to talk about.
• United States
20 Apr 08
Thanks. You're right. Mother-in-law said that it is alright at first and also said that I will just adapt in time. Lately, I am not so shy anymore with them. I tried to talk as much as I can but of course, I do not want to annoy them also.
@madlees (1377)
• India
24 Apr 08
Hi, I have had a good relationship with my in laws be they Fil, Mil, Sil and Bil. They ahve always been friendly with me. What you have to understand that they like to talk , about themselves, about their son and other kids who were there, etc. Just take it that, it is their way of getting friendly with you. If they do too much it will irritate you but some will not understand. Till you understand them very well please be polite to them. The first impression you create will be the best one as far as they see. So be polite and don't talk much. Just losten if you can and answer now and then, later you can start and blast off . No one will worry that you talk too much. Understand each other , do not make a mistake you'll regret later. Ok
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
18 Apr 08
sounds like you got it made...i think as time passes it will get better with the in laws, i wouldnt worry too much. Hubby and i have been together for 22 years and married for 20 of them and i dont sit down and have lengthy conversations with my inlaws either...we are just too different (we talk but not about that much, just health, the weather etc...)