Where did these Mylot friends come from?
By Koalemos
@Asylum (47893)
Manchester, England
April 18, 2008 6:37pm CST
Like most members here I receive requests for friends and often add them, so the number of friends tends to gradually increase. It is not really practical in my opinion to have a vast amount of friends so I decided to sort out the list and remove the ones that are either inactive or tend to deal with different subjects to me.
I was amazed to see that I had around 150 friends listed and removed a few that I did not recognise. I discovered that I had 5 friends who had never even made a single post, which is very strange because I will not add a friend if they have not posted. I usually visit the profile page of members before adding them, so a member with 0 mposts would not be added.
Has anyone else got friends in their list that they do not remember?
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14 responses
@sweetpunch (915)
• Pakistan
19 Apr 08
Yeah I do as I added them on their request thinking that they might wish to talk to me but it was not the same.Does having more friends also increase your income if yes then probably thats the reason behind getting so many friends requests.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
19 Apr 08
No, the number of friends does not affect the income. Many new members tend ti try to gather as many friends as possible in the hope that it will generate a vast response to their discussions, but unless the discussion is of decent quality or interest then it will not work.
@sweetpunch (915)
• Pakistan
19 Apr 08
yUO ARE RIGHT THATS WHAT I HAVE SUFFERED FROM; LITTLE RESPONSES,WHAT TYPE OF RESPONSE HAVE YOU GOT OVERALL, I MEAN INCLUDING ALL YOUR DISCUSSIONS.WAS IT GOOD ENOUGH TO EARN YOU SOME MONEY:)
@Jemina (5770)
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9 May 08
I have hundreds of friends in my list but I only have a few who really participate with my discussion. I admit because there are far too many I can't reply to their discussions all at the same time. But I try to at least return the favor when one responds to my discussions.
Some people here just add friends so more people can see their dicussions. But they won't respond to yours. I find it annoying.
@Jemina (5770)
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9 May 08
That's right. I used to add friends a long time ago but in return I respond to their discussions so they will notice my activity and might lure them to come and take a look at my discussions too. But for some who just adds and not respond to any of my post, I don't turn on the notification from them. LOL!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Well, the other day I had to readd someone to my friends list that I sware was still on mine, and neither of us remember removing the other person either. So I am sure some people get added as well we do not remember adding either unless it is someone that is a referral of yours who has never done anything here. I guess in some ways we will never be able to figure this site out now will we.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Yes, as far as I know as well, when you gain a referral they become a Friend request. Maybe though now they become an immediate friend? Not sure as I have not had a New Referral in a long time. Maybe we will never know though either?
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
9 May 08
This does happen, and of course it can be a little annoying.
My confusion is that I had several members listed as friends who had never responded to any discussion and still had a rating of 0, which makes we wonder how they got into my list. I usually visit the profile page of a prospective friend to check the standard of responses and discussions, so I would not select an inactive member.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
1 May 08
After responding to this I decided to clean up my friends list. I went from 305 friends to 168 by getting rid of inactive people and people I hadn't heard anything from or seen around myLot.
I'm 6 days behind on answering my email alerts and would you believe it, I've seen at least 6 people posting whom I have crossed off. I feel awful now.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
1 May 08
it also happened on me either but there would come a time that i would check all of my friends especially those i'm not familiar with and i would delete them if i see that they're only just gaining friends and not participating in some of the discussions here. at least they should join other sites such as yuwie or friendster if they just wanna gain some friends and if they don't wanna participate in some of the discussions at all
@caribe (2465)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Hello Asylum, I haven't been active here for a long time and have just recently been coming back over some. Possibly the reason some of your friends have no discussions at all listed is because they were removed by MyLot for some reason. In that case it wouldn't show them having any discussions. It is like old times responding to your discussions again. I have many inactive friends in my list as well but I can't complain because I too have been inactive for awhile.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
19 Apr 08
I have no complaints about a member being inactive, and I was inactive myself for quite a few months. I appreciate your point about deleted discussions, but before I accept a friend I usually look at their profile and check a few discussions and responses to see I like the quality of their posts. If they only had a couple of posts then I would be unlikely to add them.
Thanks for the response, it is nice to see you around again.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 08
Lol no I know all my Friends on my list
But Like you I will not accept People with no or even one post and I check their Profiles out to
I have deleted quite a few as they have not been here or are just not active as such
I do still have a few on my List that have not been here a while and they will stay
@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
Yeah it happens. People request to be a friend and I just approve them. I have done some deletion for people who are not active. I have not done so lately.
If they are a bother to you then you can delete them but I think it's okay to have as many friends as you can.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
29 Apr 08
Hello there Asylum, as for me, I tend to accept friend's request without even thinking so much. I think from now, I have to be extra careful and check out their profile for inactivity and stuff like that for it could be the "danger" persons as described often in mylot.
On the other hand, I think having lots of friends here in mylot that we are able to get involved in their discussions is great and I truly enjoyed reading and responding to them.
Have a great day ahead of you and take care.
@Candee (530)
• India
9 May 08
It indeed very difficult to keep track of hordes of friends! And its quite justified if someone deletes friends with '0' posts or who hardly responses. Having said this, I am yet to discover the intricacies of this place. I am a newbie and would require some time get used to it. I have accepted some friends request and myself have also sent some. When I feel users having an interesting and sound responses and discussions I send requests. Like the way I sent you one.
And I kind of remember all my friends since I have just started, nothing to do with my memory. lol..
Have a great day friend.
@javaleira (372)
• Portugal
20 Apr 08
yes that happens to me beacuase eople put strange names o ntheir acounts an i start forgetting who they are...i end up deleting their name from my list lol
