Has anyone had this happen

trust me my dear you are better off without her. Just move away from her and stop waiting for her call. She has moved on to greener pastuers , certainly. I hope you find better friends and not likes of hers who are ungrateful and use you as step on ladders.

I can really feel for you here. I have a few friends that I have known for many, many years (since we were babies, literaly) and losing even one of them would hurt me very much. 18 yrs is a long time especially when you have done so much for her too. Perhaps she feels that she has moved on. I would have liked an explanation if I were you but I must admit that I am one of those people who will give her an avenue to come back to me but if that is the way she feels then so be it. I won't push our old friendship in her face. I would always think of her and hope that she is doing well but I wouldn't beat myself over it. I am sorry that you loaned her money and she hasn't repaid that, that is hard. Perhaps she can't repay it and now feels embarrassed. Perhaps she feels her friends now take up the role you undertook all those years, one thing I am sure about she will miss you one day but I wonder if she has the strengthh of character (that you seem to have) to come back to you and apologise and ask for your forgiveness? Only time will tell. I wish you all the best. And keep posting, you have many friends here too!

My first thought is that she is afraid now that she has a job you are going to want to be paid back for all the times that you helped her out. It sounds as if you have done all that you can do to let her know that you are still there for her. I would sit down and write her a letter and tell her how you feel then I would mail it to her and if you get no response you will know that at least you let her know how you feel about the situation.

well i guess she never considered you as her friend. it's obvious that she's only using you because she knows that she can take advantage with you anytime she wants and that's too mean

Oh dear, it sounds like she is avoiding paying you back. I am sorry she has used you in this way as it sounds like you've been a good friend. I'd stop contacting her, it is her loss losin the only friendship she has.

Did you say 18 years? If you were friends for 18 years then you should know her by now. Maybe you think she's your friend but the feeling wasn't mutual. If you didn't do anything to make her do that then she is not your friend, maybe never was.

It sounds as if you have done all that you can to try to make things right here. I couldn't say that she used you without knowing her but it does sound it. I would just chalk this up to experience and move on from it.

I haven't experience this kind of event with a friend. What I do think is that she could be going through so many things at this time that she doesn't feel like engaging herself in a conversation with you. Although, I would think that because you are "friends", she wouldn't feel like talking to you is a hard thing to do. I can say that you have done your part on reaching out to her, it is time for you to move on. Just let go of the thought that you have helped her to be where she is right now. Just let go and move on. After all the way things are, she doesn't even care. So why do you have to care?

Oh I am sorry to hear it. I think,you talk to her openly yet softly about it and ask her why she is doing like that. Or ask her other friends[in case,if she had any now] whether she is like that to them also. I think if she had no reason for that,I consider it pure betrayal.I don't know what else to call it,if she cuts the friendship of 18 years so easily with out any reason. In that case,just leave her.I think she doesn't deserve to be your friend. Cheers! Have a nice day Happy mylotting and happy earning

I'm sorry that you have suffered so much from the friendship with her. But you said you are friends for 18 years, I suppose you know each other well. If I were you, I would ask her for reasons. A friendship for 18 years is not a short one. I think pehaps she has some reasons. But if she really does not want to keep the friendship any more, I think all you can do is to bless her and remember the happy time you shared. Be happy.