All Or Nothing
By someonesmom
@someonesmom (5761)
Canada
April 20, 2008 1:31am CST
Why is it that there are times in our lives when we have a lot going on, and then periods when there's nothing happening?
By this I mean, I can go weeks, and occasionally even months, with no interesting events to look forward to, and then they all happen at once.
Sometimes I have to choose between several outings, functions etc.
This was the case this past weekend. I attended two musicals (which I love to do), in two days. This also involved a whirlwind overnight trip to my sister's.
Now, this weekend ... nothing, except for my usual routine. I'm not even sure when my next 'event' will take place.
Do you find this is the way things go for you?
Have you ever had so much going on at one time, that you had to choose which outing to take, event to attend etc.?
Have you had similar functions going on, or to choose from, or have they been totally different?
What do you do for excitement, when things are too routine, or even boring?
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11 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 08
Lol I do not have special events any more apart from going to see my Kids at times
As for social wise nope not any more but I do not mind as I do prefer to stay in
I have always been like that
I used to hate when my X Husband (he was Army) used to come home and say there was a Function on in the Mess and it required Wifes to attend but one of the reasons I hated it was because again he had a chance to make me look stupid in front of his friends but like a good Wife I attended as I would never have dropped him into trouble
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
Hi gabs, 
My problem is, I spend too much time looking at my four walls, and my daughter (almost 17), has quite the hectic schedule, which is fine. I'm happy for her, but we almost have to make an appointment to spend time together. In the winter I'm especially housebound, as I can't walk too far. Now that spring's here, I hope this will improve.
I'm happy that you're able to go and visit your kids. It makes me sad to hear that your x husband treated you this way, but I am thankful that you now have a whole new life apart from him. Of course, you have your adorable little Gissi too. 
My problem is, I spend too much time looking at my four walls, and my daughter (almost 17), has quite the hectic schedule, which is fine. I'm happy for her, but we almost have to make an appointment to spend time together. In the winter I'm especially housebound, as I can't walk too far. Now that spring's here, I hope this will improve.
I'm happy that you're able to go and visit your kids. It makes me sad to hear that your x husband treated you this way, but I am thankful that you now have a whole new life apart from him. Of course, you have your adorable little Gissi too. 1 person likes this
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
Just wanted to add, thanks so much for sharing here.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 Apr 08
For me my health stops me from doing a lot of things, then it is the money factor if the activity costs money then I cannot go I simply do not have the money to go out and have a simple meal with anyone - times are that bad for me.
So about outings, as rare as I go out, yes it seems two things would be happening at exactly the same time and I had to choose one over the other. It just seems so ironic to me that two things I could go to come at once and the the 51 weekends of the year nothing comes up.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
These are two factors that affect things for me as well, winterose. However, every now and again, I will treat myself and my daughter, just because if I wait for things to be perfect, I could be waiting a long time. It seems to work this way with me too. Many weekends there's nothing happening, and then maybe half a dozen out of the year, everything's coming at once. Thanks for sharing.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Last year we had the opportunity to get together with family and friends on several occasions. This year I hope to gather up the people who mean most to me and have as much fun with them as possible. If there is no special occasion on the horizon, make it yourself. I enjoy planning get togethers and pulling the family together is wonderful. Every time we got together last year the comments were all positive. We all had a great time.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Hi Elusive,
That's wonderful that you're able to do this. I can tell just by what I've seen here, that you're a very good hostess, and great at entertaining.
As for me, I have a very small family, and often circumstances prevent us from getting together. I've suggested that my sister come here for the weekend, but she hasn't given me an answer yet, as she's not sure what's happening. We are very close, and it's always great to spend time with her (and sometimes her family). My daughter in law has a lot on her plate at the moment, so this prevents us from getting together as often as we'd like. Thanks for sharing here.
That's wonderful that you're able to do this. I can tell just by what I've seen here, that you're a very good hostess, and great at entertaining.
As for me, I have a very small family, and often circumstances prevent us from getting together. I've suggested that my sister come here for the weekend, but she hasn't given me an answer yet, as she's not sure what's happening. We are very close, and it's always great to spend time with her (and sometimes her family). My daughter in law has a lot on her plate at the moment, so this prevents us from getting together as often as we'd like. Thanks for sharing here.
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
21 Apr 08
believe or not... i luv my very routine weekend...
not that i dont appreciate excitement,.. a day-out, functions...
but i work five days a week, i only have weekends to do most of my 'housework'.. to cook, clean, all that stuff...
so i really appreciate being at home.. without 'activities'- and even with 'no activities' - my two days (weekends) are gone in a giff..
i guess the only 'activity' i would enjoy very much during my weekend - would be to 'eat-out'... ohhh.. what joy!!.. no need to worry about preparing any food, dont have to clean after...
i dont worry much about excitement because - i can get a lot of 'excitement' at work... (if you can call 'work-stress' and work-problems as 'excitement')... 
not that i dont appreciate excitement,.. a day-out, functions...
but i work five days a week, i only have weekends to do most of my 'housework'.. to cook, clean, all that stuff...
so i really appreciate being at home.. without 'activities'- and even with 'no activities' - my two days (weekends) are gone in a giff..
i guess the only 'activity' i would enjoy very much during my weekend - would be to 'eat-out'... ohhh.. what joy!!.. no need to worry about preparing any food, dont have to clean after...
i dont worry much about excitement because - i can get a lot of 'excitement' at work... (if you can call 'work-stress' and work-problems as 'excitement')...
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Hi 4mymak,
I can see why you'd look forward to your weekends, with your hectic and stressful weekdays. This used to be me, as well, at times, but that was years ago. I used to like to balance things between staying home, and going out. Nowadays I'm home a lot of the time, and it can get very tedious. I'm thankful that the good weather's finally here. I too love to eat out, when I do get the chance. What a treat, as you've said. Thanks for sharing.
I can see why you'd look forward to your weekends, with your hectic and stressful weekdays. This used to be me, as well, at times, but that was years ago. I used to like to balance things between staying home, and going out. Nowadays I'm home a lot of the time, and it can get very tedious. I'm thankful that the good weather's finally here. I too love to eat out, when I do get the chance. What a treat, as you've said. Thanks for sharing.
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
21 Apr 08
i guess there maybe some periodic principles, cause i have the similar feeling, not only once, but dozens of times.
in a period, i will have pretty much things to do, i feel full and think that life is good, wonderful, i'm enjoying it and making progress everyday. i will always find beautifl things and kind people around me. i'd be happy and smile all the time, no matter what i'm doing, who i'm talking with.
but it will not last long. after a period of time, this enthusiasm cools down, i feel depression, all my friends disappear, all the happy thing go. i turn to aware of the evil things in the society, and i'm lazy enough to learn anything to enrich myself.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I'm sorry that you're experiencing some of these ups and downs too. It can be really hard at times, but the main thing (for me) is to keep going. Things always get better sooner or later. Thanks for sharing, and welcome to myLot.
@kingkurt2001 (16)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I find that I have to take steps to create my own fun. I consider myself to have leadership qualities and I have never been one to follow in anybody else's footsteps. Ultimately, I live by my own decisions and make my own choices. When things become boring, I have to use my imagination to create excitement.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
That's a really good way to be. When I was younger, it was a lot less difficult to do this type of thing. I'm just feeling at loose ends these days, but I will be okay. Thanks for your response, and welcome to myLot.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
22 Apr 08
Hi weemam,
I am very fortunate to be able to do these things sometimes. I guess it depends on who you ask. Some people I know would totally lose it, if they had to spend as much time at home as I do. It's just that I'm feeling really restless this spring, and am looking for some positive excitement. I used to be on the go a lot, when I was younger. Thanks for stopping by. Take care. xxx
I am very fortunate to be able to do these things sometimes. I guess it depends on who you ask. Some people I know would totally lose it, if they had to spend as much time at home as I do. It's just that I'm feeling really restless this spring, and am looking for some positive excitement. I used to be on the go a lot, when I was younger. Thanks for stopping by. Take care. xxx
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I live a boring life it seems and I like it that way. I am usually trying to figure out what to do each weekend other than watching the darned tv.
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Hi minnie,
I don't think your life sounds boring at all, and with a new baby on the way, well that's just very exciting. I don't often have weekend plans either, so have to content myself with the computer, and yes, the t.v., at times. Maybe things will pick up a bit for me, now that the nicer weather is here. Thanks for your response.
I don't think your life sounds boring at all, and with a new baby on the way, well that's just very exciting. I don't often have weekend plans either, so have to content myself with the computer, and yes, the t.v., at times. Maybe things will pick up a bit for me, now that the nicer weather is here. Thanks for your response.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
20 Apr 08
hi mom! Like that saying it's either feast or famine...yes I think we all go through periods of time when so many things are happening it's like a whirlwind and you wonder how the heck you survived with so much going on at once...then are the famine times when frankly I'll get bored out of my skull with nothing really exciting to do...but one thing I will do is make a list of things I want to do for each day the night before...like besides all my computer work, and trying to resolve that check problem...I'm still slowly but surely doing my spring cleaning...I really want to do a lot of that...like tackle cleaning out all the kitchen cabinets one hundred percent, then tackle cleaning out the bedroom really good--And yes, don't worry..eventually I'll tackle making up a new place for us to hang out..really want to do that! Miss my old one!
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
20 Apr 08
Hi pye,
I'm really happy to see you here. Thanks so much for jumping right in. It's often Goodie who's my first respondent, but you beat her to it, this morning. She's likely still sleeping, but may be here soon. 
I do appreciate my friend's support.
Anyway, I was actually going to use the term feast or famine, but then thought it may be confusing to some. My mother used to say this a lot. I'm still feeling antsy here, as you can see by this topic. I can relate to all you've said. I am a list maker too, and the spring cleaning is something I must do. I could use my daughter's help though, with things that are too difficult for me to tackle myself. Still more junk to get rid of, and don't even ask me about my linen closet. 
Please keep me posted on that check situation. I do hope to hear some good news soon. I'm waiting patiently for you to create 'a new place,' but no pressure.
I'm really happy to see you here. Thanks so much for jumping right in. It's often Goodie who's my first respondent, but you beat her to it, this morning. She's likely still sleeping, but may be here soon. I do appreciate my friend's support.
Anyway, I was actually going to use the term feast or famine, but then thought it may be confusing to some. My mother used to say this a lot. I'm still feeling antsy here, as you can see by this topic. I can relate to all you've said. I am a list maker too, and the spring cleaning is something I must do. I could use my daughter's help though, with things that are too difficult for me to tackle myself. Still more junk to get rid of, and don't even ask me about my linen closet.
Please keep me posted on that check situation. I do hope to hear some good news soon. I'm waiting patiently for you to create 'a new place,' but no pressure.
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Things for us are constantly busy. It always seems like somebody wants to do something. Later today I have to go to birthday party for my niece...then tomorrow kicks off with pre-school, an afternoon at the park with an old friend & our kiddos - then it's my Dad's 50th birthday...I would love it if we had "nothing" to do!
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
22 Apr 08
This sounds very busy, and I can see where it'd be tiring too. I'd like to achieve a balance, and have more going on than I do, but enough time to take a break as well. I was always on the go, when I was younger. I hope you get your time of relaxation soon. Thanks for your response, and take care.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
20 Apr 08
When things are going on like crazy it can be like juggling spike covered bowling balls that are on fire. When things are mudane and routine seek that time to rest and relax, you don't have to be going 90mph all the time. If you don't take time to rest and the next wave of fun starts you might call it an early night when the night gets going. My wife is a travel nurse so when we pack and move its a whirlwind, when we get there we settle in and take our time adjusting. Then we get busy with what needs to be done and rest up before it starts again. If you get too restless you'll have less rest. I don't do anything when things are too routine, I rest, and I wait.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
20 Apr 08
"When things are going on like crazy it can be like juggling spike covered bowling balls that are on fire."
Wow, you really created an interesting and graphic picture in my mind, with what you've described here. This is definitely how I've felt at various times in my life. You and your wife have a really good way of handling these things.
Actually, a lot of my days are very routine, due to my circumstances, and I could use a bit more 'positive excitement.' Thanks for sharing here. Take care.
This is definitely how I've felt at various times in my life. You and your wife have a really good way of handling these things.
Actually, a lot of my days are very routine, due to my circumstances, and I could use a bit more 'positive excitement.' Thanks for sharing here. Take care.