What do you do when your baby is clingy
By trusko
@trusko (198)
April 20, 2008 7:23am CST
What do you do when your baby is clingy and if you leave the room for one second, she/he starts to cry?
My baby just started doing that and Im not sure what to do?
Like this morning I was taking shower (my hubby is away this wknd) and I had her in the baby bouncer. We have curtains in our showers, so she couldn't see me.
I was talking to her, but it didn't help/
When I looked at her, she was fine, but as soon as I pulled the curtains, she started to crt/scream.
I would appreciate any advice. I know it will pass, but in meantime it would be nice to know how to react.
Btw my daughter is 8 months (but was 2 months prem)
thank you ;-)
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4 responses
@kezabelle (2974)
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20 Apr 08
Keep talking! everytime you leave the room sing her a song or talk nonsense to her but let her know you might be out of sight but that you are still there for her peep back at her now and again so she can see you havent really left. Its best to allow them to cry but not run straight back or it will not get any better the talking wont help to start with but eventually she will learn that sometimes mummy has to be out of sight but that its ok make a huge fuss of her when you do go back and just keep on smiling, its hard when they go through the clingy stage but it will pass in time most children go through it
@cinderella2007 (2662)
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20 Apr 08
I think this is great advice and will try and remember it for when I have children and they become clingy. Though I think some parents make it worse as when out and about they tell their children to stay where they can see them so obviously child this turns round to the parent and the child wants to be where s/he can see the parent!
Its just one of those 'nightmare' child stages, you will probably laugh about it when child grows out of it!!
@histechnoangel (356)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Hehe my son is a total momma's boy. He like HAS to be around me. I started taking him on playdates and that helped. I dunno what to tell you (so sorry!) as my son is 1 and still clingy :P.
@trusko (198)
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21 Apr 08
I guess I just have to deal with it ;-)))
My cousin told me on the phone yest that her son was clingy until he was year and half or two.
Luckily my daughter is ok being around other people.
But I remember he wouldn't be ok with anybody but his parents.
Now he is 11 and he is so lovely, bit cheeky too ;-)
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
21 Apr 08
My daughter has become a bit more clingy now (22 months) than at the 8 month stage - honestly, i haven't found anything to stop it BUT try taking your showers & stuff when she's asleep - it makes life much easier & you don't have to worry about rushing or constantly checking on her whenever you hear her cry.
You may also want to try having 'grand-parent' time - that way, they can become a little more confident with you being away but knowing you'll be back - start it at 1/2 an hour to an hour & slowly build up the time that you are gone. It can help them to develop a relationship with someone else & also learn that just because you're gone, doesn't mean you wont be back!
It's hard i know but the more they can socialise, the more confident they will become & over time, you'll be able to do things without worrying about if they're going to cry just coz they cant see you!
Good luck!
@trusko (198)
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21 Apr 08
I wish I could do that. But I live in England and my family live in Czech. My husband's family live about 60 miles from us, but they don't come to visit.
We go see them sometimes, but they are not the typical grandparents.
My hubby's mum may hold her for a bit, but then she is off doing this and that. I wouldn't dare to ask her to look after Nia for an hour. She is looking after another grandaughter during a week and she needs time off over weekends.
I do leave my daughter with my hubby.
She doesn't mind to be around people. She is happy to be cuddled by friends and family.
I have my cousin coming to stay with me in few weeks time. So I will see what happens then ;-)
I realise that I have to start taking showers while she is asleep ;-)
I hope it will get easier for you soon ;-)
