Dealing with friends who are sometimes unavailable via email and phone.
By whiteheron
@whiteheron (4222)
United States
April 22, 2008 1:08am CST
I have a very close friend who sometimes goes away without telling me or has silent retreats in which he does not return phone calls or emails.
I must admit that when he does this I get worried about him. I start wondering if he is okay and I miss him.
Do you have any friends who sometimes stop communicating with you?
How do you deal with it?
Do you tell him or her how you feel?
6 responses
@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
22 Apr 08
So you understand.. Hoping that both you and your friend remain in good health.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
22 Apr 08
well, this is life dear friend. in fact, i loose some of friend due to lack of communication. i am not sure why its happened but 
some people, in my subjective opinion, tend to forget their past relatives and it make us loosing contact with tem. in this case, e-mails and phones not enough and i also don't know what should i do for them
some people, in my subjective opinion, tend to forget their past relatives and it make us loosing contact with tem. in this case, e-mails and phones not enough and i also don't know what should i do for them@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Hi Plumwish... I love your name and have been wondering, how did you get it?
I am sorry that you have lost friends this way.
I am thinking that perhaps the only thing we can do when they disappear is trust that they are okay and send love, prayers and good thoughts to them, wishing their safety, their well-being and reminding them our love and friendship for them... letting them go then is okay if they have moved on.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
23 Apr 08
many thanks for your compliment about my nick name dear friend. i just make this nickname accidentially and its already being my brand name so far
yeah, its really sad to let some people go in our path life but something sure that i never forget them
@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Apr 08
i think there is a little catch in it. does the friend actually cares so much about you, a syou do to him?if so then its good, otherwsie i think he just do not care whether you are worried for him or not. i had a similar type of friend i found later who was just a cheat.
@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
22 Apr 08
He does care... I am one of his close friends. It seems to be something he just needs to do sometimes. I am always so glad to have him call or email... Perhaps they are more precious because of the hell of waiting for them.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
I have experienced this several times. In fact, I am currently in such situation. My best friend, based in London, often does this to me that I am already used to it. However, there are still instances when I feel bad about it. More often than not, when my friends do this to me, I just send them messages. Yeah, even if I know I wouldn't get any reply. I just make sure that they know how I feel. I am very honest with how I feel. That is why, everytime it happens to me, I make sure that they know how I feel.
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@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I should be used to it perhaps but I am not... It seems like it happens when other friends are not as available so there is a feeling then of lonliness or
it happens at a time when others have passed on so there is a feeling of concern for his safety. I do let him know every time too. I love emails.
Thanks for your kindness in responding. I hope that your friend contacts you soon and that this time he or she stays in touch from now on.
@jammy_ramesh (60)
• India
22 Apr 08
Hi,
Am happy to know you are concerned. But we should also have in mind that your friend might have a life of their own. Apart from spending quality time with you, they also have a family perhaps, things to do daily, their hobbies and interest to pursue, etc.
At times, they might just not wanna get disturbed. Having said that, it is important that your call and concern should be addressed as well. Advise your friend that you are just concerned and indeed you are treating them important in your life and hence the call.
Perhaps this should change their behavior.
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@karawro (21)
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22 Apr 08
I have friends who do this too. One in particular. I used to worry about her all the time. We have been very best friends for 10 years now. Unfortnately she lives 1200 miles away. I will call her and she wont answer the phone or return calls. I don't worry about her any more because I know that she is busy with her life and If I really need her, she'll be there.
Another person comes to mind. HE only calls me when he needs advise. I am all for helping people out, but I do worry about him when he doesn't get back to me. (he is disabled and ends up in the hospital a couple times a year)
I ALWAYS tell people how I feel. I know that my good freinds will be there when I need them. I am sure that your's will too. Tell him how you feel. Definately.
