Give me a solution
By jerryvikram
@jerryvikram (202)
India
April 22, 2008 8:56am CST
hi all. i am fully frustrated in my home. i have a younger bro. he gets all the credit. i am doing college and i am totally neglected by my parents. insulting me always. but my bro gets well wishes. i get good marks but he doesnt. i cant help crying for this. i dont like to live. somebody help me out plz...
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@teka44 (3420)
• Brazil
22 Apr 08
Hi my friend jerry. Don't care about what your parents said about you. I know what I say believe me. My whole life I hear from my parents that my brother is better than me. For a long time it make me realy sad. It is the why I'm gone out of my house and live alone with 17 old. But it can't help to solve the problem. I do all by myself without their help, graduate in college, pay my bills, buy my food pay for apartment I live and nothing of this made they admit my value. One day I said to myself: what they want? All I can do is nothing for them, so what? If they loves only my brother it is ok for me.Today I'm born again, born alone without anyone, without family. And from this day for now I only live my life, doing the things that are good for me. Do you want to know? I'm very happy doing this. No more stress, no more sad trying to be loved. If someone loves me fine, if not fine too. Live your life but get it for yourself. You will be happy to live you can believe me. I wish you a nice day and don't care about closeness minds.
cheers my friend 
@teka44 (3420)
• Brazil
24 Apr 08
Hi jerry. No,it is not easy but all can do. But it is what I did with my problem studing and working part time and many times down of money lol. None need to do the same. What I want to tell you is it: don't care about what the other people say about you because you are bigger than this. Don't try to get love from anyone because if they don't love you nothing that you make change this. Live your life,and for sure you will find someone that loves you without you need to do anything. I only tell about me to let you know that I can understand you very well. And what I'm telling you now is what I learned with life.
good luck my friend
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@jerryvikram (202)
• India
24 Apr 08
hi friend. sorry to hear about u. how brave u r doing well!!! congrats. but how can u manage ur financial problems? is it tough for u to study and earn same time?
Thanks for ur kind reply
@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
22 Apr 08
The solution is to stop doing what you are doing for recognition, and do it for yourself. You are the one getting the good education, which will lead to better jobs in the future. Your parents may not wish you well in the open, but they want the best for you as well. Even if they don't, you have to want the best for yourself.
Take pride in what you are doing. Recognition is meaningless. You have to do things for yourself, otherwise achievements mean nothing.
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@jerryvikram (202)
• India
22 Apr 08
thats right i have to live for me. but i feel so much inferior and how can i built up my confidence level? ill treating me is worse mentally.
Thanks for a solution
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Thank you for the best response, and sorry that I couldn't come up with something that will help you feel better about yourself. I couldn't tell you that anyway, its something that you have to come up with for yourself. Its different for every person, so its hard, impossible for me to tell you how to do that. I hope that you do gain confidence in yourself, and feel better.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
24 Apr 08
Hi jerryvikram, how r you? Well seems like there is sibling rivalry. May b because ur gud at all the things than ur brother like in academics and some others, ur parents r concentrating more on him? Its may b ur elder , so ur parents think you cud understand more ?? Just try to figure out a reason.If not just sit down with ur parents and have a nice chat telling them y they treat you indifferent.Im sure they wud have a reasonable answer.And dear "i dont like to live" is completely outta question, you hadnt lived life at all!
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@jerryvikram (202)
• India
24 Apr 08
its not to say my position here. i feel something wrong. to say truth i dont have any close friends in my college. i had 2 friends 2 years ago. they were so close to me but they seemed to play Double Role ie the say bad about me to others when i am not there. they pretend to act and get help from me (i am good at Programming and Multimedia). after that they dont care about that. so i hated everything. i just believe any one who talks to me. thats my great fault.
at home i dont it light the situation going here. anyway its the duty of the parents to help their children. my college is 17KM away from home(my home is well beyond the city.no transportation facity). i use bike to go inside city(4 kms from home) and keep the bike in my grandma home. then u need to travel in 2 buses. after that i had to walk 1.2 KM from bus stop to college. this takes me atleast 1 1/2 hours to reach college.
i asked money for fuel. cant they give the money once a weak? just Rs.50 ($1) is enough. but my bro is using bike to go to School(???!!!). he asks Rs.100 daily, they are giving him. wats wrong with me? i speak just words daily in home nothing more than that. so i started for earning money myself. this is 50% of my situation.
