Do you hold in your anger or do you let it out?

I usually let it out. I dont really like holding it in because then my anger just gets too unbearable.

the way i deal with anger is i let it out in tears i dont know why when i argue with my mom or hubby over stupid things or what not i always burst into tears

Hey friend, i am having the problem with my anger i can't control it in anyway and i just throw it out on the other by breaking things and abusing the source for leading me towards the anger. When i got angry , i don't care for anything and most of the the time i break my own things which otherwise i cant even think to break. I broke my cellphone twice in the anger and some other things like my bat etc etc.So for me it is the worst thing and so as for the others too. I really tried many times to control it out but only upto a limit but after that i just go mad then i cant control the things. I have lost so many things just because of my anger specially my loving girlfriend.So i think we really have to control our anger and should remain calm and compose.

I sometimes hold it in and let it out. I hold it in if it is something insignificant that I know will just past, you know when you just wake up in a bad mood. I let it out if I know that it will build up though, so I never get really really angry, just a little pissed off.

Even though I know its not good for me to do... normally I keep my anger bottled up inside. Very rarely I'll let it out by screaming or crying, and punching walls or breaking things. BUT that's only when it gets to the point that i've bottled so much up inside that I can't take it anymore. Doesn't happen too often thankfully

Sometimes i hold it inside me when i can´t discuss with a person and in an other case when it is an important question where i can reach the problem and solve it i let it out.

I learned a long time ago that holding in anger would only lead to my getting ill. I suffer from depression on and off and the longer I bottle up my feelings, the worse I get. I hve to let it out now, any way I can. I would rather tell someone I am upset and would hope that others would tell me

when i was young i get mad easily but as i grow up i learned to control it little by little. i guess we need to release our anger because its not healthy to suppress it. holding on to your anger would make you unstable and stressed in the end it will lead to high blood pressure or even stroke. when i feel mad i release my feelings but i don't harm anybody nor i don't break anything, i release my anger by going to a private place usually my room and shout to my heart's content.

It depends on the situation in which i am. For example, in some situations getting is not going to help anyway i prefer to hold and sometimes i do let it out. For example if someone is taking u for granted u have to let ur anger out. But in business life u have to hold ur anger. There is other simple way of letting ur anger out i.e. be sarcastic.Use this as your weapon. This will lighten the moment as well will serve ur purpose of letting ur anger out.

I once heard it said that depression is anger turned inward. I tend to believe that. If I hold in my anger too much I start feeling really down in other areas of my life that have nothing to do with my anger. I do hate it when my husband holds in his anger but that is just who he is. I would not want him to express it inappropriately but I wish he would talk about it more. For myself, I prefer to talk to a good friend or my husband when I am angry. I very rarely outwardly express my anger at the moment I am experiencing it.

I'm the sort of person if i'm angry it's written all over my face.I'm no good at hiding my feelings.And sometimes i just vent can't help it,i dont think it's healty holding anger in to long,it just festers and get worse.My spouse has the habit of holding his anger in,and i have to poke and prod it out of him,then that gets me angry.I would perfer to get it out in the open and deal with it.

I used to let out my anger all the time but over the past few years have tended to hold it in. I guess I have become more mature, but sometimes I am unsure how to deal with the cause of my anger.and that is why I don't show it. I would like to work on this. Everyone I know would say if they got angry over something so I haven't had to deal with someone suppressing their anger.

It depends sometimes I hold my anger especially when I know that I would really say something bad to that person directly and if I know that I might regret saying it but there are really times that I let it out especially when I am really not in the mood or if I really lose my patience to that person or to something.

I let it out...but only when someone is keep on asking...and otherwise i hold it in....

I let it out when I am angry , same like you , I do yell and scream, sometimes through things or break things. Great you have learned to control that but I have to give a try.

Dear friend, I do become angry very soon. But as far as possible I do not let it out and try to solve the problems calmly and more peacefully. Still in rare cases my anger comes out and the situations turns more mess. Still as far as possible I just try to control my anger and keep it within.

I Hold my anger as long as I can. That's is my personality but when it burst out it really explode. I telling words that really hurt. But physically I will not let myself hurt anyone. I'm not a violent one. I control myself.

When someone mad at me, especially when they are important to me, i can easily noticed it. There are some instinct that telling me what's going on especially when i offended them. Most of the time, i use to control my self when i am angry. My mom always tell me to control my self and be more understanding especially to my sister and brother because i am the older one. I apply it to myself but there are really times that i can't control it and all because i was really hurt emotionally. When i express my anger, i feel light and calm and definitely i express it all and let them know. But just like yesterday, i am angry, definitely yes.I feel that i need to do something to push it out inside of me. I like to yell, shout and get something and throw it. But i can't, i just cry and pity myself thinking that she disrespect me as her older sister just because of using friendster. I know i was wrong because of putting adds on her friendster and then she will treated me that way. We have no problem in accessing some accounts online because we both know our password and let her in to my account to.I thought it was all okey. she nod at me and that's it. Then i do nothing even preparing our dinner meal and let her do it. Then this morning, my head is really achy due to crying, i can't still forget the past day and we don't talk to each other, then i know i am too sensitive up to this day. My brother told me something that i can't accept, he was just say it because he did not take his dinner meal and don't like what my sister buy for dinner. I really feel disappointed with the words and feel disrespect again. I use to feel that always and tell them what i feel in a way like joke. Hey i am the oldest here, i am your sister. "ate niyo ako ate po ako pinapaalala ko lang" (I am the older just remind you) then i will smile at them. I know i am hurt that is why i just want to keep my mouth shut and silent.Until now when i remember what they do to me and while typing here, i feel that my tears will fall again, pity myself again and hurt again and so, especially when they won't even look at me. I know it will past like nothing happen to us just what happen most time before but still the pain will remind me. by the way thanks for the discussion, it help me a bit to ease the pain. keep posting!

I'll let it go, haha!~ Why should we get angry? Well, I mean it's easier said than done at times. But I always check myself. Many times anger is not something that someone has done but sometimes it's a reflection of what's lacking inside us. Something can trigger some of us more than other stuff - simply means it's a symptom of something not wholesome inside. I used to get angry a lot last time but less & less now

I have always believed in damage control so I don't really put more gas to the fire. The best way to do that is to be rational and just don't burst right then and there. I usually express my anger by keeping it all in and just thinking pleasant thoughts and listening to relaxing music.