Stop being so negative!

I have a "somewhat" friend that constantly complains and whines about everything. I often put the phone on the counter and let him complain to himslef. Everything negative in his life he has brought on himself. People that compain constantly, bring on their own misery. Why should we allow them to drag us down with them? Negative thinking begets negative results. It is so selfish of the cronic complainers to hurl their spew on us and take us down with them. I am more than willing to listen to my more positive friends that don't complain all the time when they have an issue and need an opinion or to just get it off their chests...but the ones that NEVER do anything about their situations and constantly complain get on my nerves and I won't allow them to poison my good energy. Instead of blaming everything and everyone else, these chronic complainers need to relfect on themselves.

It really does bother me when people are so negative. I have a few of those in my life, including my son. But then again, he's so Emo. It's very fashionable to be depressed and negative. LOL. They cherish each other's pain and share. Go figure. But others who are negative can really bring me down so I've had to limit my contact with them. I think we should have a "Stop Being So Negative" day. We'll greet each other with a smile all day and say, "Be Happy."

I try to just look at all there negative and just say wow makes my life look so much better. I dont let other negativity get me down.

I don't like people being negative when theres so much to look forward to. I'm naturally a positive person.

Hi whywiki.. Sometimes it does affect me but I always check myself on how's my outlook in life everyday. As much as possible I want to stay with a positive vibrations on everything. Whatever or whoever comes in my way, I dont allowed them to wallow the whole me.

hi whywiki, my husband has turned into a negative person. we had a big discussion about this late night (or one would call it a fight)he is always making little negative comments about everything..from the stupid sitcom that is on or the kids making too much mess! we have come to the conclusion that he has to put on a "happyface" at work, praise fellow workers,and be jolly all day long that there is just none left for me. i told him to stop for a cup of tea before coming home everynight and wind down a little or you will be in a room by yourself!

I used to work in a system that seemed to spawn negativity. After a while it wore me out because I had to work so hard to ignore it. It wasn't until after I retired from that job that I realized just how toxic it had become. I truly believe that it created physical illnesses in the staff. I know the stress was pretty deadly for me. I had to retire for health reasons that I fully believe was largely from the negative environment.

good topic i quite agree with u ! just stop being negative! life is choose by ourselves, once u chooes happiness then ur life would run sunshine, once u choose negative to life, then, life would be very hard. when my friends get negative, i would like to pull them out of the bad feeling, i am those guys who have a burning desire to bring them out of down. but, when i myself feel down, i need a long time to figure out!!

Know what can happen at work when you're positive about stuff, when you try to get people to look at the good side of things when they're complaining, say something nice every chance you get? People quit talking to you - yes LOl they do. You are NO fun at all when they can't complain to you, talk about negative stuff, rip things apart. Remember "Pollyanna"? That being said, I try to be positive, I can depress myself quite nicely thank you and have to try to be positive.

I hate being around negative people. They really bring you down and make you see the bad side to your own life. I try to surround myself by optimistic people so that I stay optimistic too. Everyone has bad things that happen to them but it's easier to get through them when you have a positive outlook.

I agree with you.. not enough people focus on the good things in their lives, because they're too busy bogging their souls up with negative energies and clutter. Ugh! That's no good for the spirit. A few years ago, after leaving nuckfuts and getting my life back on track, I started making some serious conscious changes in my life and my way of thinking. The way of thinking was the most difficult, I can't deny that. The negative way of thinking was so deeply ingrained in me, and I still struggle with it some days. I read "The Secret" for the first time last spring, and watched the movie last summer, and it truly moved me. It helped me to continue on my positive attitude, and in a sense, validated a lot of what I was already doing in my life. Little things like not watching the local news anymore, because there aren't enough "feel good" stories on it compared to negative goings on in the community, and remembering to enjoy the little things in life... laughing at my kids (yes, I said at them.. .it's not always with them lol)... being thankful for all that I have (friends, a safe city to live in, a comfortable townhouse I rent, the most AMAZING friends one could ever dream of having, etc.). I also remove myself from negative situations as much as possible... for example, when my mother starts ragging on me about how much I've ruined my life, etc, I often tell her that I am unwilling to continue in our conversation until she can offer "constructive criticism" over just plain "criticism". And if she doesn't stop, I hang up on her. Anyone who knows me, knows that I have an uncanny ability of seeing the positive in almost any situation. I definitely see the glass as being 1/2 full, and wish more people could do the same. Of course, I have my moments where I need to vent. It's my way of releasing some of that negativity out of my system, when the breathing exercises aren't working. So for people to talk to me on one of those days, they certainly wouldn't find me to be the most optimistic person. lol. But alas, I'm human, and have faults. ;)

I have definitely in my life come across these types of people. I think they are just out there to "pile up" problems onto someone else's and couldn't care less about the other person's plight. There are quite a few men and women alike in my workplace having this kind of persona and I just take a humorous stance with them. Like if they complain for a bit, I would listen intently. But if I really have gotten bored, I would humor them and divert to other topics. There's just too much stress for one day for me to be hearing more stresses from their lives, LOL. But I try to be the good guy and listen all the way. But nice guys finish last, and I've got to finish my work. So, I just have to turn them down when needed and sidetrack them.

it happens to me also. people talks like they are doing everything right and the whole world is against them. i used to tell them that it is not like that and its all how you view the world. i would tell them once and still they are talking like that, i just dont care. then i would be listening to them as if i am so interested in their speech. but, i will not be listening at all... i take everything positive. my blood group is b+, that itself shows that i am positive BE POSITIVE...

Yes it does bother me. . .a lot. I know I'm not the most positive person in the world, but I don't want to hear all negative all the time. It really bothers me when I tell someone "think of all the good things in your life" and their response is "I can't think of one single good thing"! Now that is sad! I saw on the news the other night where a preacher had designed a little inexpensive purple bracelet and encouraged his church members to wear them. Every time they said something negative, they had to switch the bracelet to the other arm. He said he wore out 2 or 3 himself switching them before he finally learned to "Quit Whining". It took him 3 months to break himself of the habit. His church now makes and sells the purple bracelets. It has become a great fund raiser, as well as helping remind people to think positive. I think it just becomes a habit that sucks us in and we sometimes need someone or something to remind us that life is good. LIVE IT!

Yes Negativity in life won't do us good. We should always look at the bright side to get more of that positive energy for us. Negativity just causes the environment to be gloomy and bad. If you have a problem smile at it and don't think much about it.Just think you can go through it all.

Staying negative in attitudes is never been on purpose.What could anyone prefer to carry on when nothing in day-today existence turn for the better? Negative outlook on things stem from a growing concern over ill happenings in life.

Hello whywiki, It really bothers me if people around me think negatively. I cannot stand that. I alway try not to think negatively about whatever happened in my life and stay positive. But if people close to you think otherwise, it is really hard sometimes. Life is too short, yes I know that. But sometimes, it is hard to avoid this type of people too.

I hate it, and it seems my fiance is a little to negative sometimes, which makes my stepson real negative. I try to tell him not to be. The main reason my step son is negative though is he got out of being with an abusive step-dad. So when my fiance is negative it rubs a little harder on my step-son and i try to show him that, but it's taking time. I try my best to be postive as long as possible b/c like you i think life is too short to shove it away being bitter, or negative, or anything like that. I want to live life as good as I can.

whywiki it sure does bother me and makes me feel so depressed.It is as if the person just took all the light out of the room and left you in a gloom.I have known people like that who can come into a room full of happy people having a great conversation and in just minutes fill the room with their dark thoughts and predictions of doom and gloom. and then nobody is even smiling. I do try to smile and maintain a pleasant outlook as it makes me feel young again.

Yes, I too tend to get negative when the people around me talk negative. But I wait for some time before doing anything like cutting the discussion short and instead I listen more attentively till the other person gets exhausted of his views. Then perhaps they would start seeing the positive.