what would you do if your mom told you its your fault your daughter cant count?

No, thank goodness, I don't. I wouldn't take it well. It's OK when parents and/or in-laws are offering some gentle, constructive criticism that's meant to help, but assigning blame isn't solving the problem. All it's doing is making you feel bad for no reason!

Well, I have 5 children and was just 19 when I had my first one. Needless to say, my mother thought she knew it all as far as what I should be doing , and what not to do...I was young, so I listened AND learned the hard way... Grandmothers tend to be overbearing I think.. That is totally understandable... When my 2nd child came along, my mother tried to "give me the same advice" as she did with the first....I simply told her that I appreciated her input, however, this is MY child, not yours...We didn't talk for about 2 weeks after that....Then I got a phone call one day from my mom, she appologized for being that way....She said she realized what she was doing, but not aware of it at the time... Since then, mom has let me make my own mistakes with my kids....I don't think that you are at fault here... When my youngest entered kindergarten, she could only count to 10....she couldn't even form her letters correctly either.... Now the school year is almost at it's end...when I went for conferences a few weeks ago, she can recognize her printed name, she can write her name, knows her colors and shapes, And she can count up to 40....So, just give her some time...it will happen...The only thing they are required to do for kindergarten anyway is, being 5 before Sept., and being potty trained.... They will be tested to see what motor skills they have, teachers are trained for this.. that's the whole point of kindergarten is to prepare children for their further education years.... Try not to lay blame on yourself, as long as you feel that you have done all you can as a mother to prepare her for kindergarten....then you have done your JOB as a good mother.....

My dear friend,there is nothing that you should worry about-your daughter will learn as she grows-it is just the beginning for her-as for your mom's criticism-just let it in through one ear and out through the other ear-without back chatting or trying to prove that you are doing your best-just ignore her criticism and you will be mentally peaceful-but do what your doing for your daughter-I mean what you think is right for her.God bless you and your family.

No, I havent. I'm glad I havent, and I'm sorry your having this problem. My daughter is very bright for her age. Although she did back track on potty training when I had my youngest. She was 14 months old and almost potty trained then wanted to be the baby again. I would sit down and talk to you mom and say that a child has a mind of their own. Things dont always go as planned and life is very spontanious. Good luck and I hope you work this out with your mom.