Am I wrong to tell her how late it is
@phillygirl606 (1112)
United States
April 22, 2008 9:53pm CST
Okay my sister came over here today with her son. She got here at about 4:00p.m. It is now going on 11:00 p.m. and she is still here. Do not get me wrong I love when my sister comes over with her son. But my son has school tomorrow, thank goodness he is already sleeping. But people need to wake up for work early as well. If it was the weekend I would not have a problem with her being here. I do not want to hurt her feelings or make her feel like she is not welcomed. How do I tell her in a nice way That 11:00 p.m. during the week is too late for her to be staying. I am usually in bed myself by this time during the week. And it's not like she does this every now and then. This is all the time.
6 responses
@hitsman99 (42)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Since it would be one of my siblings I would up and say " It is time for you guys to go, I have to get to bed as I have to get up in the morning". Be straight up with her. She will or should respect your position.
@phillygirl606 (1112)
• United States
23 Apr 08
She has a tendency of over reacting. She takes things the wrong way. She use to walk in my house at 9:30 at night right as I was putting my son to bed. Well when I mentioned to her that it was kinda late for her to just be getting to my house she got real upset. We argued for over a week. I thought I was really nice about it but apparently I had really hurt her feelings.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
23 Apr 08
wow...that's is quite hard not unless if you are sure that with all your honesty , your sister will take it openly! Maybe, for you and your child's sake, you have to be open to her that, why not coming saturday or friday night so that, it will be more fun and no worries about Monday!
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
23 Apr 08
Tell her. She probably doesn't even realize that you just want to go to bed. There is nothing rude with you telling her the truth.
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
23 Apr 08
well if i were U i would let her know that what she is doing is getting on your nerve. she is disrespecting you and your house. you don't mind her coming over to visit. she has to keep in mind u have work to do the next day and other priorities. you do have a life, and its does consist of her consuming your time. i have to wonder if she has one. as for as i know anyone who has child, a place of their own. they have responsibilities.
you are not wrong in tell her how late it is. telling her in a nice way i think is not going to work. you need to put your foot down. if she was my sister, i would tell her she can't have it her way and stay at my house late. she has a home of her own. she should spend more time there than my house. visiting is fine, but don't over do it. its your house, you pay the cost to be the boss. its up to u set some boundries to make her respect you. if u dont do that she will continue to disrespect you. i dont know why u are so quick to take her feelings into account. she is not doing that for you. it doesn't matter if she is family or not. there has to be some rules. Do you think she would like it if you did that to her?
i find that telling people in a nice way, people dont take you seriously at all. they take you as a joke. sometimes you have to have an attitude, for them to take you seriously. when you tell a person how you feel about something that they are doing. if they get an attitude because of what you said. then you know its their problem. they can do two things. they can stay away and be mad. they can realize what they did to make you react the way you. they will start respecting you and your wishes.
the reason why she does what she does is because you're allowing her to do it. she thinks just she is family she do it and get away with it.
i hope what i said makes a difference. have a good day.
