hope you could help me with this one
By athinapie
@athinapie (1150)
Philippines
April 23, 2008 10:19am CST
i was insulted by a classmate. she shouted in front of many people that my boobs were very small. i was so embarassed and i lost my self confidence since then. i may not be the sexiest person in the world but i really didn't deserve what she did to me. mind you, she didn't say it in a joke way. other people told me that she won't say sorry because what she said was true. that's what hurts the most.
i want to move on with my life and gain back my self confidence. what must i do? pls help me
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23 responses
@ckimkimkim (214)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
oh, my friends teased me because my boobs were small, well, i just laughed, because it's true and the reason why i have small boobs because i'm tall and very thin,, but in your case, it's just your classmate so if i were you i'll said to her that she's acting like she's uneducated saying such things infront of many people...
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@sherrylwatts (326)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I think I would ask her (publicly since thats where she embarrassed you) why she is so obsessed with your boob size! Like your body the way it is, there is nothing wrong with being small chested - most fashion models are!
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@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
24 Apr 08
I think that's a good idea. She'd probably feel a bit silly if you said something like "why do you care what my boobs look like anyway?"
@jskdjd (20)
• United States
24 Apr 08
That's a great response as far as I'm concerned. Kids in school are so mean sometimes. I handled it with the smile and ignore it tactic and I did gain respect from people who mattered, but it did take a toll on my self-esteem to not fight back by standing up for myself. I'm just sorry that you have to deal with it.
@TheProphet (46)
• United States
24 Apr 08
Gain self-confidence through mental improvement. Body measurements aren't the most important thing of a person. Mental capability far outranks it.
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@ahmedbadary (58)
• Egypt
24 Apr 08
Hi athinapie,
don't stop on front of this bcz real sexy lady feel it self and doesn't wait to hear this from her friend.
You can know you are sexy or not when u looks in man eyes.
Also sexy lady not with body only but her soul too.
So go on you are sexy lady in the eyes of the others.
Have a nice time
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@FanAtic08 (4)
• United States
24 Apr 08
Boobs are girls assets but there are two sides to it. Sometimes boobs are preferred big and some preferred small. Your boobs depends on your body frame, if you are a small person with big boobs most likely you will have a back problem because of the weight that you carry in your front. If I were you I'll take that comment with a grain of salt or respond to her like you have no care in the world and you like what you have and if she has a problem with you she should jump over the bridge. :)
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
24 Apr 08
other people told me that she won't say sorry because what she said was true. that's what hurts the most
I use to be very small chested and I can say that thats what probably hurt more...having peers and sometimes even friends NOT step up and defend or try to ease the hurt....
What shoudl you do? Realize that this girl is nothing more than a shallow, self loathing brat...ppl do things like that because their like for themselves is fake and only on the surface..You should just let it roll off your back because the BOTTOMLINE is this....YOU are NOT b00bs..you are a woman, an individual with qualities that are FAR MORE importnat and cherished than the size of your bra
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
24 Apr 08
If we all had big boobs, the chiropractors would be even more rich! Think of the back problems you are avoiding by having small boobs. And besides, I've been told plenty of times that anything more than a mouthful is a waste. Don't worry about what others say, most likely they're jealous of something else and will use that to draw attention away from it.
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
to all who gave their comments, thank you so much for cheering me up. i'm a bit stronger now. thanks you so much again. i appreciate all the concern.
@WhatsHerName (2716)
• United States
24 Apr 08
That girl is jealous of you, that's why she has to put you down to build her self esteem.
Chances are most people who were there know that she was wrong and don't have much respect for her. If they do, that's too bad.
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@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
dont mind her. she has nothing bettter to do in her life than bring people down just to cover up for her own insecurity. well, if i were you i would confront her and ask her what her problem is and tell her that your chest size is none of your business. if i were you i might lose my temper and insult her but dont do that, just keep your cool. dont let a negative comment affect you, especially if its not true. but if granting that what she said is true, just shrug it off. if you let it affect you, then she will be happy to konw that her comment made you feel bad, and you dont want that to happen right? so hold your head up high, and pretend as if it did not bother you. but it helps to look at her in a hostile manner to let her know that "its on"! (heck, if she wants a word war, you give it to her!)
@xlinzixx (510)
•
24 Apr 08
the only advice i can give you is to just ignore her. this girl is obviously a nasty girl to say that to you.she may also be jealous of you too which is why she tried to embaress you like that.just try not to let what she said bother you because at the end of the day i dont think it matters how big your boobs are anyway as long as your happy with your life.
@grasshopper5257 (438)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I am really sorry that you have given so much power to an insulting classmate, athinapie. I am wondering why you would give the power of how you feel about yourself to an insulting classmate? I realize that as we are young that we have a tendency to allow others to dictate how we feel about ourselves and sometimes their opinion sticks with us for years. But why? Is her/his opinion more valuable than your own? And why would it be? WE all have physical shortcomings,personally, I wish that my boobs were much smaller! As far as your classmates behavior, they owe you an apology, but I would not wait around for it to come. It looks like to me that their character is not only insulting but just plain rude. I would not choose this person to be a friend, would you?
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
24 Apr 08
Some people, like your classmate, need to belittle someone else in order to make themselves feel good. Some people might have laughed at her stupid comments, but I'm sure the majority thought she was just a loudmouth and weren't impressed by her actions.
Don't worry about her comments, be happy and proud of what you've got and who you are. There is more to life than a woman's boob size, and for a lot of guys, it is the personality behind the boobs that is much more important!
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
24 Apr 08
I wondered if you had remembered the Ugly Duckling story. I do not think you should be overly concern by what your bully classmate had said and let it worked into you. Physical appearance just isn't the only aspect of person. So what if you have the looks and boobs but one lousy heck of a personality that needs some over bearing to get along with. Remember, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, you are living for yourself not for others just be yourself - others may look down on you but you should never look down upon yourself. There is nothing to be embarrassed about one's shortcoming(s) even if you are lesser than being well endowed.
I believe you will understand that there are simply more things that one would look for in another person other than appearance and outward beauty. So do take heart and let that meaningless and baseless opinion of an insensitive cow.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
Hi Athinapie. I think that girl is more lacking in self confidence than you are when she humiliated you. For me people like that lacks attention and are not confident about themselves so they pick on others.
I know how you feel. Its so hurtful to be humiliated because of your body which I experienced when I was small. But look at it this way, you have a good heart than her and that whats matter. Most boys would prefer to like girls having a good heart and attitude rather than being rude and an attention getter. Cheer up and continue to be the nice person you are. Character and attitude is more important than looks. Ignore the girl and show to her you are unaffected and that will pass. Take care.
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@vianneyanzu (908)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
just forget about anything she told you..she must have insecurities that why she's making a big deal out of your chest size...
@rooter1204 (125)
• Makati, Philippines
24 Apr 08
i think she is the one losing confidence but not you. Maybe what she founds that what she gots better than you is simply just a bigger boobs than yours.
Anyway, this is nothing you should really care in mind, live in the way as you do for all these years you coming thru!