What do you do when you run out of things to talk about?

United States
April 24, 2008 3:24am CST
I've run into this issue recently with the man I am seeing. We used to have so much in common, that we could discuss for hours without getting bored or irritating one another. But, now we're out of the "toast stage" (You know the one. The beginning part of the relationship where you go, "You like toast? Oh my God, I like toast! It's meant to be!"). So, now we've discovered that there are things one or the other of us is passionate about, and we'd love to discuss it with each other (since we're around each other regularly), but the other person either finds the subject terribly boring or just downright irritating. Am I alone on this? Does anyone else go through these periods in their relationship? And, if some of you do, as I'm sure I'm not the only one, how do you deal with those times?
6 responses
kezabelle
@kezabelle (2974)
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24 Apr 08
Me and my partner have been together almost 7 years of course in time you will run out of things to talk about. the first few months especially when you are learning all about one another are full of interesting conversations but I think as time goes by its ok to have times where there is only silence where just being with one another and not talking is enough you dont always have to fill the silences with talking just sit quietly and enjoy each other theres nothing wrong with that
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pangeacat
@pangeacat (619)
• United States
25 Apr 08
That makes a lot of sense, thanks. :) I just get overly paranoid at times, I guess. Must be that time of the month. lol
nengs10
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
I stand and do the stretching when this happens. It would be healthy to shake your body and move for a while after a good chat with someone. Also, singing his or her favorite songs together would also be a good deal.
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chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
Well i think every couple goes through these "silent times" one day or another. :) But everything will fall into place... i mean when you are together, you can just sit together and feel its the best conversation every without having to talk much... many things do happen in silence. hehe you can just look at each other and feel wonderfully happy without having to say anything...
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sharay
@sharay (2769)
• India
24 Apr 08
In my case, i dont start a conversation myself, only if the other person starts, il answer him and then the talk may go on quite interestingly but that depends on the topic the other person is talking about
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Chispa
@Chispa514 (871)
• Montreal, Quebec
24 Apr 08
You're not alone, I think every couple goes through that after awhile. Some just happen to go through them sooner than others. There's nothing wrong with that, its perfectly normal, but the key is to try to get that interest going once again, which alot of people find hard to do.
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kacq007
@kacq007 (141)
• Poland
24 Apr 08
yeah,sometimes I also have these kinds of times when I am talking veryy borking things ,but I think it's not only my fault but also a person with i am talking. This person don't direct in the interesting way so do I . In this time I must be ver upset,bored etc and the same the 2nd person..
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