Are you willing to give way to her??

Hello. I am here to answer this discussion, but I have to turn the story and the her is a he, right? LOL. Okay here I go. If my best friend has the "heart" for my secret girlfriend, then I would have to ask myself whether my relationship is more important than my friendship with my best friend. Whoever matters the most is the one which my heart would go for. Not that I would make away with the one that does not matters most to me, but I would have to make the choice be it whether I like it or not. If I love my relationship and would want to savor it, I just have to face the music and tell my best friend whether he likes it or not. And if my friendship is more important and I'm willing to sacrifice my "love" for my best friend, then I would request for a break up. Anyway, in this case, I would rather break my friend's heart and tell him the truth. That's because even if I give way to him, it doesn't have to be that my current girlfriend is "into" him and in that way, I would have broken the heart of 2 people because my girlfriend would not have been able to accept him since she is already in love with me. And my best friend would suffer too, in this story. So, I shall hold on to my reins and tell him the gentleman's way that that lady is mine. If he values our friendship, then he would remain as my best friend. If not, then I'll know what type of person he is then.

I wouldn't take either of those choices. First, I would have a word with my boyfriend; then I would tell my best friend that I wasn't prepared to ask on her behalf. If she likes him that much, she should approach him herself. I would tell my boyfriend that my best friend really liked him, and has asked you to do this favour, but that I didn't want to lose him, so I was going to answer "no" to my best friend. If you go trying to set him up with her, and he decides to try her out... how will you feel? I know I'd be very hurt. Brightest Blessings.

Tell her the truth, it's the best thing. The longer the situation is left, then the worse it will be.

I will not give up.Love is not a thing which can send to others.And Love itself is meant selfish.We love each other,and I also like my friend.But Owing to save friendship and give up love.It is not a fair thing to my boyfriend.For love is not my own affair and should feel my boyfriend's feeling. If I am in this situation I should tell her the truth.If she did not accept this and be hatred of me that means she did not regard me as her friend. And I do not think that is my fault.

i know that she's my best friend but i won't give a damn by setting up a date with her and my bf. i would tell her about that secret even if it hurts her. call me selfish but i'm also thinking of my own happiness in life and i know where i could put my boundaries for her as a best friend. i'm the kind of person who will fight for the one i love and i'm so sick and tired of sacrificing all the things for her. amen. haha just my thoughts peace

hey how about the idea of setting up the date with your best freind and boyfreind to know the that whether your boyfreind is loyal with u or not? its just an idea. my opinion is that you should not sacrifice your loveand tell the truth to your best freind.

oh my this is a tough situation. I will talk with my boyfriend about this too. i think my friend does need to know about it too and i will ask her for forgiveness that i did not tell her about it before she will or might be angry at me, but i will take that risk.

I guess you should tell your friend the truth. It'll be difficult and painful at first but it's for the best. Also, if she really is your friend she would understand the situation. Just my opinion.. Peace.

Fortunately....I have never been in a Situation such as this , But my thoughts would be Definately tell the truth! To All involved! Let the CArds Fall where they May. If they are truly friends they will fight to work through it! Where are my Boxing Gloves Da*&%! It's go time!

goodness!that's some difficult thing to think about. i understand why someone would keep a relationship a secret. i have a friend that did that for the same reason, that they are not ready yet to let people know. so to answer the question, first you must be sure that the boyfriend doesn't have feelings for the best friend. i think the girlfriend have to talk this over to the boyfriend first. tell him about the best friend and ask him what he feels about it. if he really loves his girlfriend, he'll stick to her. if not, be ready to get your heart broken, set him free, and let them be happy (being in a one sided relationship isn't the best option) have a talk with the boyfriend. ask him what's the best thing to do: are they ready to tell to everyone about the relationship or are you just going to tell the best friend. if you choose to just tell the best friend, i think the boy and the girl should both talk to her and explain the situation. i don't think that this is the moment to be little miss sacrificial lamb. even though you're the bestest best friends ever in the whole world, it's not right to give up true love for her. they will not be happy if you try to bridge them together because you know for a fact who the guy loves. Finally, if she's a friend she'll understand that you're the one the guy loves. she might be mad at first and feel betrayed but as the saying goes, time heals all wounds. she'll forget about it eventually and she'll find the right person she deserves ;)

no its best to tell your friend that the twoof you love each other so she will not be heart. she mayh be your best friend but if she really is she will realize after you are honest with her that she cannot butt in and take your boyfriend over as the two of you love each other but have not yet told your family. if she gets mad then shes not your best friend for best friends care for and respect each other. honesty is always the best policy.

if mine is a one-sided love, i wud deftnly help her with her love..but since my boyfriend also loves me a lot, i wud not like to sacrifie both our love for her sake instead i wud explain her all about our relation and being my best friend, i am very sure she deftnly will understand

Well for one things, I think if you can't tell your friends and family that you are dating someone, then there is something wrong with that situation. However, if it is a good healthy relationship, then there is no reason you set your friend up with the guy. But a truly healthy relationship should not go hidden.

I don't have situation like this before but i will try to answer you. I think i will tell her the truth,i will take the risk. you know the truth is truth even in the end it's taste bitter. I will explain her. She may be angry or even leave me now. But there is also chance that in the future she will understand because she is my best friend. Because the bond of friendship i strong. Love can be fade away but friendship can't, that is i believe. If i don't tell her the truth, this will be more difficult. It will hurt to me, also hurt my friend and in the end it will hurt the friendship. If it's happen than the friendship is no longer exist. Only fake that exist and it will ruin everything.

its really a hard siuation. i think it is tough. before that i have to admit to her taht i am already with that guy. i do not know whether nowadys people make such big sacrifices.

it's a hard decision. but i still go for honesty. i'll be honest to her that he is my bf..then i will see how she reacts.