Do you bother by your colleagues' wedding??
By coffeesong
@coffeesong (163)
China
April 25, 2008 2:36am CST
I have worked in our company about 3 years, there are many colleagues in our company and most of colleagues are unmarried during they entered in our company.But it's the time to get married for them now, I got 4 wedding invitation letters for this month. As our country culture, when we received the invitation letters, we need prepare money and go to their wedding party for their wedding congratulations. If I have a good relationship with somebody, I will prepare the money and gift for them in advance, but sometimes I can receive some upexpected invitations, at this time, I will have a troublesome feeling, it's hard to decide if I need go their wedding or not? Hu......Do you have this kind of bothering? Please share your experience.
2 responses
@sharay (2769)
• India
25 Apr 08
I experienced the same situation in my office too..there always is one head person who collects money from everyone of us (who does not want to gift them personally) and give it along with our manager's contribution in a cover titled "Our Office Name" and i would just give money and dont attend their wedding, within a matter of a month, when i know nothing about them and even they dont know anythign about me, they just give the cards for a formality..if it all they become friends with you within that one month, u can go
@coffeesong (163)
• China
26 Apr 08
Hi, Sharay
Thanks for sharing your experience, I hope I will not receive any unexpected invitation in the future.
@hopebird2008 (81)
• China
25 Apr 08
This is a vice circle. I think your colleagues'situation is the same to you. The key way problem is who say "no"first. If you just bless them ,I think they will relax,too. So stop the gifts and money without bless, just bless with your sincere heart.
@coffeesong (163)
• China
26 Apr 08
Thanks for your suggestion, my friend. I will try to do like your suggesting way.
