Don't you sometimes feel that life is becoming monotonous? what do you do then?
By comfort55
@comfort55 (1574)
India
April 25, 2008 1:18pm CST
Now I don't have a job and household chores are not much since my kids are away hence there's not much to do. Today I met one of my neighbour, a young woman in her thirties, was looking very tired and stressed. On asking she said that she's fed up of her monotonous life.She has her job,household chores, looking after her kids etc. etc and no time for entertainment which consume her 24x7 hours. Her work,personal responsibilities has made her life meaningless. She has started feeling that there is nothing left in her life except responsibilities and only responsibilities. I suggested her to take a break for sometime to rejuvenate herself.
Here I would like to take suggestions from mylot members. Did this situation occur in your life anytime?what do you do to combat it? Your valuable suggestions will help this woman and many others who get fed up with their daily routine.
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8 responses
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I sure know how she feels! Only I didn't have all her responsibilities most of the time, I didn't have to work but a year when I was raising my children.
But I did feel taken for granted, tired and overwhelmed by doing the same things everyday. I just told myself that it wouldn't be forever! I took my "me" time when the kids were in school and if dinner wasn't gourmet, at least it was hot and nutritious.
Is her husband totally useless? Can't he take the kids for a couple hours while she goes away and does something nice for herself?!
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I'm sorry I was so negative. I know her husband must work hard but it sounded as if he wasn't letting her have any time to herself. I guess I was projecting my ex-husband's qualities on hers and I should have been a little more tactful in my reply and suggestions.
These are such difficult times right now, especially for parents.
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@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
I can understand Dragon,you must have gone through hell with such a husband.
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
No Dragon,her husband is not useless but he does not have a good job. He also works hard to make both ends meet. I do tell them that its a temporary phase and will pay you later but she says that its easy to say these words. We can just suggest her.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
25 Apr 08
Yes. My life is very monotonous at times. I feel like everything is repetitive. I just have to change my schedule up and take time away from everything and do something new to help me feel like I am not getting bored with life. I feel like nothing is left but work also sine I work seven days per week because we have to have the money. There comes a time though when you have to plan for at least a day off to yourself.
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@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
That's true stephcjh,one should keep atleast one day off for oneself as we are also human beings and our body needs rest to get energy for another week of slog.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
25 Apr 08
when i was a stay at home mom (my daughters are older now - 11 & 14 and i work part time outside of the house) i used to sell avon. not being the type to sit still and one that gets bored easily, it was something i enjoyed doing. i sold it for 10 years. i also had a ton of hobbies when i was home.
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@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
ya, I think this woman doesn't have time to pursue her hobbies also. She needs to take a break forcibly.
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@lexibethr (53)
• United States
25 Apr 08
I dont have any suggestions on how to break the routine other then to try a new hobby but what I do have to say is to be grateful for the things you do have in your life. I am a stay at home mom of 3 and for almost a year I was feeling the same way, as soon as I would wake up in the morning my thoughts would be oh hear we go again some old thing different day but at the end of march we had a fire and now everything is so chaotic there is no routine and we have no idea what the next day will bring and now everyday all I can think about is wishing that my house would be fixed and I can get back to the life I had
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
OMG! I feel sorry for the incident happened with you. You are absolutely right that sometimes we get thankless to what we accomplish and look on the side of the things which we dont have.I also read once that we stare at the door which is closed so long that the door which is open also starts closing. I wish you recover from the loss soon and may Almighty give you strentgh to do so.
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@comfort55 (1574)
• India
27 Apr 08
Thats a good way to change routine. I hope and wish this woman does something for her.
@Gollywog (1092)
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26 Apr 08
If you are able bodied and not disabled you should never complain???? I became disabled five yrs ago! I was devistated, I couldnt take my grandchidren out, have them stay over, take them for walks with my dogs? My life came to a halt! My health will never improve,Take up hobbies you have always wanted to try, share baby sitting so you and friends have free time life is unpredictable you never know whats around the corner!!!!!!! Be happy!
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
Oh Gollywog,I really feel sorry to know about you. Its like the story that a child asked his father to get him another pair of shoes. But when he saw another child with one leg only ,this child didn't ask again for another pair. Financial crunch is also a curse Gollywog.I wish this woman earns enough so that she can give some time to herself.
And my best wishes are with you Gollywog. May God give you strength to bear this devastation and you may enjoy life with your blessed grandchildren. Though its easy to say but you must pursue your hobbies if you can do within your limit,
to distract your mind.
@romelyn (19)
• Philippines
26 Apr 08
Whenever I feel life becomes monotonous, I go out with friends to have some fun so that I can take the boredom away from my system. Or better yet I do some things like surfing the net or have an eyeball chat on the internet to make myself entertained.
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@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
I wish this woman also takes out some time for herself. Thanks Romelyn for your response.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 08
Volunteer there are many places who are looking for someone to help in libraries and hospitals , in hospices and old folks homes and you get to feel really good as you have helped somebody. Hospitals need volunteers to show people whereto go, to answer p;hones, to deliver magazines and newspapers to patients and carry flowers to patients rooms. libraries need help in mending books and shelvingbooks. Also for your friend she needs to get someone to spell her with her kids and housework so she can get out and do something different. get a manicure, go to a movie, go to the library but get some help aneighbor or friend to watch over her kids for a couple of hours.
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
26 Apr 08
Very good suggestions Hatley, thanks!Thats a good idea to get help from a neighbour to take care of her kids for few hours in a week at least. I suggested her to call her sis-in-law who is living in another place and she can be a help to her.
