how long have you been married.....?
By BYOLA2871
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
7 responses
@mom4kids (657)
• Canada
26 Apr 08
I have be married for 7 years this June and we are still very much in love. I have learned like the others said, patience, compromise, time management (taking care of the house), how to be a mother, and how to cook, lol. My hubby taught me!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
26 Apr 08
thats a great husband you have ,my bay taught me that in every aspect of life there is always a need to share and communicate your pains and joy,i also have learnt tolerance of the other in-laws,marriage is a new stage in life
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
26 Apr 08
I have been married for 10 yrs going 11 this September. Being married really taught me a lot. It taught me how to be more patient, more understanding to my husband. Most of all, I learned how to budget my time to my husband and kids. I also learned to love and know my husband well.
Nice topic, Keep posting...
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
26 Apr 08
thank you for the encouragement i realise also that part of marriage is about giving up some things while you also learn some new things,to succeed you must be redy to learn and practise patience,understanding and in the area of finances co-operation is important
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@AmericanWoman (298)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I have been married 15 years in May 6, 2008
I have learn to bite my tongue, Use his money when I need stuff
(not mine), Go shopping when he's at work. Hide the credit card bills, Always answer the phone when he calls, act like everything he says is right. I've learned to except that everything that goes wrong in our lives is from my bad decisions and everything that goes right is from his "smart" decisions.
I have learned that I am a strong woman/actress.
@AmericanWoman (298)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Thank you for the happy anniversary. You are the first to say in many years!
My husband is selfish and shops for his self and gets mad when I ask why he didn't by me something. I love to give, years ago I realized I can't by him anything he did not ask for, because I have no taste. While on a holiday when he buys me something like it or not I am so happy he thought about me and spend's his time to look for something for me. I bought him a $300.00 watch one year and he said he don't like it and 3 days later he had a brand new watch on his wrist and I thought it was uglier than the one I bought him, that watch is still in the closet the one I bought!
So yes I have a strange person I call husband and he does not hug me. I have to hug him and that is far as it goes! I stay confused when it comes to our relationship. I wish I had someone who realy cared about me, and not his self!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
27 Apr 08
wow,happy anniversary in advance ,i hope am the first to say this?hahahahah!you seem to have learntboth negative and positive things but tell me is there some kind of misunderstanding in he relationship?if yes please use this coming anniversary to do a little brainstorming and try to see how things can get better,pray about it too,its necessary and you will see changes
@kelleydian (175)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I will have been married for 22 1/2 years. Our anniversary is November 16th. Has marriage taught me anything? Sure! And I'm still learning. I will try to think of all I have learned.... You are not always going to "feel" in love. You will fight and your feelings will get hurt. There will be days you wonder if your spouse still loves you only to have them turn around and do something that proves they do. Going through struggles is a good thing - it truly does make you stronger. Don't wait for your spouse to be romantic - be the initiator too. Those times when you look at your spouse and think how good looking he/she is or how much you love them - tell them don't keep it to yourself. Spend time together every day.
I know I've learned more. But I'd have to write a book and others have already mentioned some of them.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
27 Apr 08
yes its true that in marriage you will not always feel in love,infact there are times you ask yourself if you have not made a mistake,,thanks for this short but straight to th e point response,i wish you a happy anniversary in advance
@cathyt1557 (173)
• Canada
27 Apr 08
I married young (19) and was with him for 18 years. Then he cheated on me. I never thought I could trust a man again. Then I met my second husband and I truly found out what love was. I've been married to him for 8 years and couldn't be happier. We had both been married previously and knew what made a good marriage and what made a bad marriage. We don't regret our fist marriages because we have our children, but having gone through the first marriage makes me appreciate what we have now.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
27 Apr 08
thats a different angle to it and i am truly happy for you guys to have had a second chance at enjoying true love,i wish you longer and life longstay together
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
27 Apr 08
i cant wait to hear the wedding bells ring but at the same time you can learn from the people who are experienced in the marriage thing already,wish you luck
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
27 Apr 08
i hope you guys will not just stay together but also get married and stay together till .........cheers
