when can you say enough is enough in a relationship?
By qt_dsy
@qt_dsy (85)
Philippines
April 26, 2008 11:04am CST
- you are supposed to have a date this evening, but he called and said something came up.
- you caught him lying about a business trip, and found out he's just at home with a "friend".
- he's becoming a pain in the neck after a major fight.
really when can you say enough is enough. do you run at the first sight of inconsistency? do you try to understand his shortcomings? how long do you stay in a relationship, from which you are almost always the one who initiate to fix the problem?
2 responses
@foundmyangel (607)
• United States
27 Apr 08
the only advice I can give you is think of what you can put up with and decide if it is real love you feel for this person or what is the attraction. You are the only one who can say enough is enough. My advice is to try to set a guideline of what you can put up with in a relationship and stay to it.Now each person has their own flaws and little quirks it is up to you what you can and cant put up with.The next person you find may be even worse....weigh out the pros and cons wirte them down and really search your heart for the answer... I wish you the best and hope if its worth it things will work out.
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
27 Apr 08
Little inconsistencies and flaws are what makes us who we are, and often what makes us love our partner, but when you discover that your partner is not only keeping secrets, but lying to you, I think it's time to have a serious conversation, if nothing improves after that, or it turns into a major argument, then I think that is becomes time to call it quits.
People aren't perfect, but we shouldn't be in a relationship based on lies and half-truths, when honesty and trust is so vital in our lives.
=)
Have a great day!
Mal.
