A man who is mad to death to his bestfriend for getting engaged to his ex?

Yes he is jealous of them. Plus he has kids, I suppose it is normal to feel this way as he has once been with her and now someone else has her. Maybe he would feel different if he met someone else.

hi checapricorn, this is a heart case, and it is complicated and cannot be stopped lawfully... emotionally, we do not know what's the story behind the divorce, and his bestfriend's intention and his ex wife's plan.. it is complex, digerati

Well darling it is this thng called respect you just don't do it to your friends how would ya feel if it was ya in his shoes that is just the way I feel

I do not thnk i would like my best friend to marry my ex if we had a child together..He probably feels like his best friend has stabbed him in the back so to speak....I have a friend that was married to her husband for 15 years and they had 2 children,well she left him and they got a divorce...Her husband tried to date me after they divorced,but i would not date him..#1 he was my best friends husband#2 i did not see him as a man i would want to marry because i knew him to well as a friend...I think this man has a right to be a little upset..

I guess it all depends.. if i was the person who was getting married, id think it was stupid that the ex was mad at me for that.. but yet, if i was the ex, id probably be mad and feel like it was justified just because its my friend and they saw what i went through when we divorced.. its a tough situation.. probably the kind where you only think its reiduclous if the odds were in your favour.

To be honest yes he might be thinking that they were having affair when she was his wife and doubt that she take divorce coz of him Just think by that point of view and tell me ur comments

I dated my friend's ex husband but I asked her first, if she would have been uncomfortable with that then I would never have done it. I know I don't like when my friends date my ex's I can't stop them but I don't like it either.

I think there is this unspoken rule (or maybe even spoken), that you don't date your friend's exes. I would never dream of even think of my friend's partner or ex in that way. I know you can't help yourself how you feel, but... I was once in a situation, where I was with a guy and his best friend started to chase me. I was 19 at that time. I did fell in love a bit with his best friend, because my then bf didn't pay me attention and this guy did. However we both agreed, that it would be wrong to persue anything further. We remained very good friends for years. Ultimately you want people to be happy, but still I couldn't imagine my best friend dating or marrying my ex.

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I guess it's okay if significant time has passed after the breakup and clearly there is no more possibility of my ex and I getting back together. But soon after the breakup there is always a possibility of reconciliation. When hot heads have cooled we usually realize our mistakes and feel that we still love each other. In that case friends should stay away from my ex because it could just be a temporary "break".

It's just so ridiculous. He was the first one to give up his love. So he shouldn't complain anybody. His marriage is already over. So why not be generous and give his ex blessing. This man is so mean and narrow-minded.

I found it somewhere in this discussion about the code of ethics thing. I say it's true, it's the code of the gentlemen to never date/marry whom the other man let go. Well that happened in the traditional sense, but I believe it still is true today. One thing comes into my mind when I hear this type of code. It's like, why do you need to pursue someone your best friend dumped? I mean, yeah, she is still a woman but can't you find someone else and let them be? There are so many women in the ocean, why fan the fire between you and your friend? I think that is usually the case for people that's why there are conflicts. People are overly focused on themselves that they fail to see that they are hurting or insulting the other. Yes, they're divorced, but that's enough for you to stay away. They had problems and you knew both of them, so leave them alone and find someone else not 'involved' in your friend's past. Unless you want trouble or you want to lose a friend. I had a similar experience before. My friend had this boyfriend she had been with for a long time. Suddenly, their relationship went on the rocks and the guy sooner or later confided with our friend (another friend). They started talking on the phone etc. Until, the guys says he liked her better than his girlfriend. She confounded to me that she had fallen for the guy but wasn't sure what to do. I told her to simply ignore and never to talk to the guy anymore. I told her that no relationship would last if it started wrong. It's wrong for her to be talking to the guy so intimately because that guy is my friend's boyfriend. Regardless if they're on the rocks or something like that. So she did stop. Now a few years after they broke up, and the guy approached her again. And this time, he told her that he's really serious. Well, she didn't pursue. This time she understood our point. Past may be past but there are hurts in the hearts that would never really heal. Experiences and memories that the two of those friends of our had. Regardless if they're together or not. There's a code between friends to never be with a person the other had a relationship with. Find your own guys. The man isn't the only man in the world. And if your friend dumped him for a good reason, bet that you'd dump him again for the same reason. Why? well, birds of the same feather flock together. =)

It is hard to explain but even though you do not want to be with someone anymore, you just do not want to see them with anyone else. I had a boyfriend once that I was with for about 2 years, the relationship came to a natural end with us both not wanting to be together anymore. But when he walked in the pub one night with a new girl on his arm, I freaked!! I was fuming and I made the girls life a misery, actually it turned out she deserved it because she was one dirty you know what and well she was horrible, so maybe with me it was instinct that I knew she was bad for him. But anyway back to what I was saying is that I did not like the fact that he had moved on, especially seeing as I had not and even though I did not want him, I did not want anyone else to have him either!!!

I strongly believe that people should not date their friends ex's out of respect for their friend. It is just something you don't do. Maybe if she was an insugnificant girlfriend he dated years ago it would be OK, but if it is an Ex-wife, then it is wrong, unless maybe several years have gone by. It is just a matter of respect, not to mention it will be difficult to still be friens with someone who has your ex around all the time. Not to mention, couples talk about old relationships, there may things she will tell her new boyfriend (his friend) that he does not want his friends to know, personal stuff. Plus there is the whole comparison issue. It just is not a cool thing to do.

He cannot fault his best friend now that his ex is his ex. He is probably consumed by the green eyed monster jealousy to the point he is not thinking clearly at all. If I were in his place I would wish my ex the best and move on with my own life. Jealousy does nothing good for anyone at all.