Would you give way for love or fight for it?

well.. its quite a complicated situation.. but i don't think letting go would be the best option (at least in my opinion). i think it would be better if both get on with it and let the other person choose who he/she loves. its complicated, in a sense, that it becomes a competition. but it doesn't necessarily need to become a bad rivalry. instead, make it a healthy competition. both siblings can learn from each other, from their mistakes. if one of the siblings isn't selected, then he/she can apply what he/she learned from this situation and become a better person with it. who knows.. that person may already be the one "made" for you, and you gave up because of sibling rivalry. c",)

I think that I would give way for love if my sibling and I happen to love the same lady. I would bless them and look for another one that is worth my love as my partner in life.

it depends if that person i am inlove with is inlove with my sister (if i have one). of course iw ill not do anything that will come between them and break them apart. but... if that person is in love with me and we have a relationship and my siter(if i have) loves this person too.. i guess i will continue with the relationship. why will i give up a person who loves me and give him to others who he doesnt love or have feelings for.

Hi Gabrielle It depends on the circumstances really. Firstly I would be a little bemused as I only have a sister so if we were to be in love with the same woman it would be a surprising revelation (I'm sure my sister's boyfriend would be shocked too). I will relate it to a best friend as I don't have a brother. If we both loved the same woman, but neither of us were with her I suppose it would be her decision who she wanted to be with. I could easily say 'OK mate, you go for it and I will step aside', but she may not like my friend and would probably decide against being with me, as she could perceive that I had thrown her aside like a piece of meat. After all she would be a person not a possession so it is tricky one. She may not like either of us at all. If I were with her and in love with her, but discovered my friend loved her and she felt the same, I would stand aside and accept their love for each other. There would be no use getting angry and fighting my friend about something out of my control. I remember watching a documentary about the late Beatle, George Harrison and it described the time when Patti Boyd (who was with George) and Eric Clapton revealed their love for one another. George remained calm and smiled, wished them every success together and accepted the change and moved on. Despite his love for her he allowed her to be free, knowing they had shared a time together, but knew the time had gone. He remained friends with both afterwards. I think it shows real courage to be able to act so selflessly and respect the choice of another, however it may affect you.

I don't think that this situation would ever come up where I would have to choose to give up my love for the sake of a brother but something similar did happen to me which involved 2 sisters who were involved with me. It turned out that nothing transpired because one sister, my girlfriend at the time was all too willing to give me up to make her sister happy and there was really nothing between her sister and me so, that's that.

i'll fight for it.. whatever it takes.. i mean, what the heck??! i love her and if she loves me too then i'll fight for it. because for me, letting go the one you love and loves you is a stupid thing to do.. duh? get it?

first of all in america and canada it is right for sisters to love the same guy, they one who has him first is the way it is to be. If my second stole my boyfriend from me I would have nothing to do with him or her again. Because it is wrong.

I think that I would give way for love if my sibling and I happen to love the same lady. I would bless them and look for another one that is worth my love as my partner in life.

I havent been there also. Just cross the bridge when I am there. In a way I can give up if the person my sister or brother is in love with, if I am not much in love with the guy. If however, I love that person and that person loves me, I wont give it up.

I would like to raise my hand. lol! I was in that situation before, but it was not my sister but to the person I treated as a friend. Well, that person befriend me because she knows her ex-bf likes me, so to be assured that I will not give the guy the chance, she really get close to me, as in calling me every night, fetching me from my place so that we could go to school together, lunch and snack together, study time together, go home together. I did not knew then the reason why all of a sudden she became so nice to me but I gave her the benefit of the doubt and treated her as my friend and do whatever she request me to do - including talking to her ex-bf about their past relationship and patching things up again. Well unfortunately the guy stood up and pursue what he wants - he told me everything, all everything. I asked her about it and she told me she knew that the guy likes me all along - and she was asking me now to please dumped him for our "friendship". At first, I said sure, I will. I will give way for her. But then she became so dominating and all - thus, i was so getting pissed off to her push over attitude. I ended up with the guy, I just followed my heart and choose to believe the guy instead of her. Guess while my trust in my friend is deteriorating my trust and for the guy grows because of his genuine care. I am still with the guy right now, and we are on our 5th year now. =) i guess its easy to be heroic and righteous by saying - i will sacrifice for my friend or sister, but once you are in that particular situation already, its not your mind who will decide - its your heart.