Can he ever forgive her?

Truly, there is absolutely nothing that you can do. It is their marriage, not yours. Your friend made a huge mistake, and it will take a long time for the husband to forgive her and trust her again. Honestly, I would not hold your breath, they will probably end up getting a divorce. If the husband is drinking to dull the pain of the fact that his wife cheated on him, then he is not dealing with the issue, he is just trying to "get by and forget what happened". If I were you, I would take a huge step back, because by becoming too involved, you could actually make things worse. Couples need their privacy, and this will take quite some time to heal, if it can heal at all... They need to get into some sort of counseling, if they have any chance at all of staying together.

It is possible for 'a man' to forgive his wife who cheated on him. My friends are in a similar position and the husband forgave the wife but unfortantely she didn't want his forgiveness and left anyways. I don't think its posible for 'this man' however to forgive his wife.

threats that he is going to kill her, and the other man I'm sorry but that right there in combination with his drinking is enough IMO for her to end it with him...If he is that hurt (rightfully so of course) and bitter then at this point there is no fixing it...MAYBE if he laid off the booze and they went to counseling there would be hope but from the sounds of it at this moment in time there isnt any hope and it could turn into a very bad scene

You can't help them. All you can do is to be there for your friend. As for forgive and forget. I think he can forgive her if he wants to. I don't think you can ever forget. My partner cheated on me (one night stand) and it took me a year to get over it. And we split up for a month. But I wanted to be with him, so I decided to get over it. It wasn't easy. Cheating is not nice. But if you want to give somebody second chance, then there is nothing wrong with that. At the end of the day, if two people want to be together, they will. As for the drinking. If he is like that, does she wants to be with him? Perhaps separation would be best and then see what happens. Take it slowly? I don't think he is ready to fix anything. Sorry I wasn't helpful. Good luck ;-)

I dont believe I read your previous post about this. I dont really have any advice for you. For me, if my husband cheated on me sorry to say there is not forgive and forget crap. He is a grown man as is woman your talking about she knew perfectly well what she did was wrong. I would just have to pack my stuff and go. I couldnt handle the face that they cheated. I would be too afraid that it would happen again. I hope this guy does the right thing and hopefully leaves.

try marriage counseling put him into AA and have the wife every night say that she loves him and he is the only man for her... then she should get intimate with him to show she still really loves him (and men like that)

Well, I think he can never forget or forgive her . Yea it can be he will not take any revenge if he will get fear for his future . But from his heart, he will never forgive her .... this is really a very drastic situation ....

Unfortunately there isn't much you can do in this situation, except be there for your friend and make sure she isn't being physically abused. Its her choice to stay, and his choice to keep threatening her. There's nothing you can really do except to be the best friend you can be to your friend. It hurts to see our friends in situations like this, but they have to come out of it themselves in one way or another. We can't do it for them, all we can do is support them in times of need.

that kind of relation is become sick, they sure need professional help if they plan to stay together. Serious help is needed, otherwise one day they could just kill each other.

I find that in my relationship I've had some rough spots, times when i've been less than faithful. However I was completely honest with my husband, and after time was forgiven and eventually trusted again. Some relationships don't have that quality, because one time or another the "cheated" on party will feel jealous or paranoid. You have to completely trust and want to begin to love the person again before they can let the wound heal. Some people just cannot get over the fact of what happened and will always be controlling and jealous afterwards. Thats just the way some marriages end, if they are really meant to be together they will be. If she loves him truly and won't make the same mistake again, she needs to keep trying and hope he forgives her. If he can honestly tell her he will always be that way, they need to part and let bygones be bygones. Its not worth putting each other through hell for a losing battle.

I don't think there is anything you could do to help on this one other than just be a shoulder to cry on and a sympathetic ear. I do think that a man could forgive but it would be very difficult. I think your friend needs to decide whether or not it is worth it to stay in the relationship at this point. Sometimes councelling helps or even a temporary seperation. If my husband threatened to kill me, I 'd leave.

i mean yeah its possible but still i doubt it , if he neeeds to drink his worries away and is prone to threating people and killing them like that id say no , he might as well let her go now before he gets locked up and regret what he has done

I find this one as a very hard situation wherein only the concerned can really make a good decision or solution to the problem. I hope they could get away with this problem soon. Though its very hard to forget this kind of thing, cheating is not a simple mistake. But theres always a room for forgiveness and acceptance, if they really love each other, everything is possible.

if my husband cheated on me i could not forgive him and vic versa. if he cheats once then he will cheat again and i can't forget about the fact that he did cheat. so we would never be happy again. there is really nothing that u can do until one of them wants help. and from the sounds of it neither one wants help right now. and even when they want help there might still be nothing that u can do.

Forgive? I believe that most things can be forgiven within reason. But forget? In my opinion it would be next to impossible to forget something like this; and there would always be that little voice in the back of your head telling you to look for the signs etc that it may be happening again. This couple sound like they have no chance at all under the current circumstances. She cheated to fulfill something she felt was missing in her life; as per usual, she probably realized very quickly that the grass isn't always greener! Without knowing anything whatsoever about either of these people; the only thing I would suggest is a possible "intervention" of sorts in that you and friends try to steer them towards seeking help from someone neutral like a counselor or something. If both of them refuse to do this; all you can do is be there for your friend when all of this eventually comes crashing down. And if nothing changes and it becomes REALLY bad in terms of the husband towards your friend; then you may need to help her get the heck out of there!

i think it depends on taht person. if he can forgive, it is possible. it can also fix the marriage. but not all are like this.

It's hard to get forgiveness from men, especially they are a solid tangible creature, I mean their emotional. When their emotional agreed you're wrong, it'll be 100% even though he said "I forgive you". It's not lying, they just find it hard to forgive themselves for something is really 100% broken. They mention out the word for not hurting the woman, worst woman find they are lying on this. Men needs longer time to heal themselves in such dramatically situation. They'll forgive by their emotional decision if they feel the situation had concluded by their emotional agreement. When it's the time, they will back 100% to forgive. Because basically, an absolute Yes or absolute No is their nature for every details in his life. So, try not to hurt deeply a man's heart. They'll really has fixed values on all emotional judgment. The same with how they use their brain, when they court a woman. Target locked means 100% concentration on the object. The same with when a man cheated, they had decided 100% the emotional security was not provided anymore at home anymore. Then they tried to find from outside woman who can share the emotional. When they found it, it's hard for him to share the one at home. Unless he lately faced an unsecured condition from that woman, like she's pregnant. Knowing what the cause is the key of prevention. Share a time with your man, learn what he wants, brings the conversation into a deeper phase communication, even though it brings an emotional overwhelmed circumstances. But when he feels loved, he'll pour more and More love to you in return.

Be her friend and tellher if he threatens to kill her she needs to contact the police as he could easily be a wife abuser and she doesn't need that. it looks to me as if this marriage is doomed as the man is not forgiving her nor forgetting either. bestfor her to give it up.

uhm in this case i think its better for both of them to attend any guidance counseling or a retreat