What do you think makes a good friend?

My Fiance and I are currently dealing with a situation with her friends. It seems as if they are not proving to be great friends as she once said they were. She no longer wishes to even associate with them as they have proven to not want to associate with her. We live in a county twenty minutes away from them and they do not wish to come to us, yet we always seem to go to them. We do not even see them that much anyway, but every time we go to them. Her friends think that this county is "small". I have lived in it my whole life, and have managed to entertain myself, and trust me, I get bored easily. I also, as well as she, feel that her friends do not like me. For one reason, we believe it to be because I have "changed" her when no one has changed her except for herself. Another is because of my habits as I do dip, and they don't seem to like it. I'm also from the country, I have an accent, and they don't like it. My Own fiance has the same accent as me, although she had to re-learn that as her friends are all from the North and have a different dialect. We kind of feel like they are being unfair. I only have a couple of good friends myself, and I've met them mostly through school. I've known one friend for ten years and one friend for four years. A good friend would be someone who is willing to see past other's differences in opinion and yet still calls them friend. Someone who understands that people change and that change is inevitable, yet still loves their friend for the change. I know some change is bad, but you have to learn what is truly bad and what you feel is bad. What you feel is bad is just something you don't like.

I agree with qtfrog99 .. I think a true friend is obligated to be there for you through "the thick and the thin" so to speak. They should be very loyal towards you and not be afraid to tell you what they think of you .. And should help guide you through some important decisions. I know forsure that I have 1 true friend .. I would say I have probably 3 though. They have been my friends for around 6 or so years now and they are great people. I met them in the end of elementary school or the beginning of junior high/middle school.

Hi Dee, i don't have any friends anymore, by life is in pieces. i'm from southern ca. which turned really evil and mean, and people just use each other here, and that's a really hard to swallow reality, but it's true. this is no place for friends, or family. people are subhuman here. if you're nice you will be badly abused. that's why i have to move far away. i do miss having lots and lots of friends though.

To me a true friend is one who would be there for you no matter what was going on in their lives. Someone that will listen and give "Real" advice, not just what you want to hear. I do have 2 really good friends and everyone else is just an acquaintance. I have had my true friends for about 16 years now.