Abortion: How mad would you be if your parents forced you to have one

As a father, I feel that there should be some say from the father of the child. The mother obviously has her rights to either choose to have the child, or terminate, or offer the child up for adoption. But where are the father's rights?Parents forcing their children to have either an abortion or give the child up for adotion is outside of their scope of rights. No parent can force their child to do either action. Parents have inherent rights over their children, and making a decision such as that is not one of them. How would I react if a parent forced that on me? Well, being that I am not a woman, I can not respond to that exactly as you are hoping for. I can answer it from the father's perspective. I would fight for that child until I was blue in the face. A potential grand-parent should not interfere with this issue. The only time that a potential grand-parent should have any input on a matter such as this would be if a) the father is not in the picture, b) the mother came to them and asked for their opinion, or c) the mother is a rape victim. Still, the overall choice is LEGALLY the mother's (and maybe someday soon, the father's too). Would I be able to forgive my parents for forcing either an abortion or an adoption? An abortion, I would not be able to forgive them for. That is stepping over the bounds of parenthood. The courts could even deem that as a form of abuse. As for the adoption part of the senario, I would harbor negative feelings towards my parents for a great deal of time, but I wouldn't feel the distain and discust for their interference as I would with the abortion issue. With the adoption, I would probably be able to forgive. Abortion, definitely not!

I am a little confused as to if her parents made her have an abortion how did her son survive to be looking for her?

i think even with the best intention to their daughters, parents are wrong to force them to abort, and it is not only for the fact that they are killing an innocent baby(if 2 months or more, under 2 months if i am right the baby is still not considered to be formed enough to be considered as a person). The real problem is someone who is forced to do something traumatic against her will, will never forget it and will always recent the ones who forced them to commit that act. so the parents are making enemies of their children. i have seen some cases and mostly it finishes by daughters leaving home earlier or hating their parents so much that won't even call them by phone.

I wouldn't allow my parents to force me to have one. I would move out and go live with someone who understands and supports me or I would go to one of those houses for pregnant women. I would never allow my parents to do that to me because that's something that could affect me for my entire life, even scar me.

If I am very young and can't take care of the child, neither do my parents then I would agree for an adoption so that the kid would have a better life but if my parents can support me until I reach the right age to work on my own and for the child then I would never ever like to have my baby adopted. Supposed they forced me to have the child adopted, yes, I would be hurt but sooner or later, it will be gone as long as I know that my child is in good hands then maybe.. someday, I get to know my own angel and nothing can ever stop me from doing that as long as my kid wants to know me. :)

i think abortion is a terrible thing period. i am a bit confused by your post though because you say they forced their teenage daughter to have an abortion and then you say her son is trying to track her down. that makes no sense.

This is a very tricky subject - adoption, because we cannot judge it in black and white terms. There are always so many factors involved which are known to only the people they concern. Most people would be deeply unhappy at being forced to give away their child. But we must put this in context. Depending on how old the mother is now, the times she grew up in, when she was a teenager, were very different to our modern day. Back then it was a stigma and acute family shame to have a child without being married, especially if the mother is barely a child herself. So the obvious action at the time was to give up such children for adoption. It caused a lot of pain and hurt to many mothers who were at the mercy of their own parents and the authorities, but very few pregnant youngsters could escape that fate. The aim was to pretend there was no pregnancy and life was supposed to carry on as normal. But for that young girl who had to give away her child, life would have been anything but normal. Contacting the child is another matter. It should be entirely up to the mother and child in this case. They are now adults and free to do what they wish relating to one another so that's a good thing. I suppose the older parents are probably worried on two fronts: what to do with the guilt that will come out of seeing such a reconciliation, and perhaps worry that the meeting might not go well and hurt the mother even more. So there are lots of emotions riding on this contact and it is natural that some people involved, especially the older parent who instigated the adoption, would feel very anxious about the whole thing. As to the mother, it is her life and it is her birth son. If he wants to see her, she should welcome the opportunity and see how it goes, without too many expectations. Just for her own peace of mind for the rest of her life, and the possibility that she could still be a kind of mother in his life, they should meet, and good luck to them.

I'm a grown woman with my own children now, but if I were still that age and my parents forced me to have an abortion I think I'd be very sad. If you wanted to keep your child but your parents forced you to get rid of it in that manner, that would be very heartbreaking. Adoption on the other hand, is a bit more hopeful. The child is at least still alive and living a good life (hopefully). Plus there is the possiblity that you would one day see them again. I think her mother is wrong in thinking it a bad thing for the girl to meet her son. If both parties are wanting to meet (for right reasons) then it can be a very joyous and life building thing.

i would have tried to run away to b able to keep the baby if that didnt work i dont know what else i would have done. i would have def been really pissed you should be able to make your own choices, and being a mother is not a choice your parents should be able to make 4 u.

tjades, I think that the lady took a strong stand for having the baby and not getting an abortion. To many women that I know have had abortions. They live with the sound of those abortions everyday. Those women blame their parents for having to get the abortions. This grandmother and grandfather needs to leave this woman alone. She did the hardest thing in life,when she gave her baby up for adoption. Every child wants to know who their biological parents are, at some time in life.It sounds like this mother and son need each other and love being around each other. The grandparents need to grow up. There daughter has grown up and she needs to be able to see her son now.