Am I bad Wife?
By tigger_k
@tigger_k (62)
United States
August 18, 2006 7:44pm CST
My husband and I just bought a new house. We have been doing a lot to it here lately. I get home from work go out and help him and then we come inside and ask each other "What's for dinner?" We have been eating out every night. I feel I am being a horrible wife because I am not cooking for him. I haven't done in grocery shopping for several weeks. I am just so tired and don't feel like doing anything. What can I do to balance all this and make things more interesting instead of fastfood everynight? Any easy recipes that don't take a lot of of time?
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16 responses
@batool9 (111)
• Pakistan
19 Nov 06
oh yes u can deal in pastas perpare a sauce in advance and add a little olive oil to ur jar to store em for longer top it with fresh vegetables or fried chicken and sea sood
@rainbow (6761)
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21 Aug 06
If you are working you are both responsible for the home chores. When we renovated I cooked until I only had a microwave, toaster and kettle. I had a 4 year old and a 6 month old at the time. I got excited when I got a bit of wood on the kitchen wall to put the kettle on. YOU ARE NOT A BAD WIFE renovating is stressfull and dirty. Try and do as much as you feel you can, don't worry your husband feels as bad as you do. Shrek hated struggling so would instant noodles and chocolate. Eventually my step-mum took pity on us and either plated food up or more often invited us for tea. we offered her board money but she and my dad just did it to help. You are tired because it is so stressful. We still get busy 2 years later and if I've had enough I order chinese delivered, it is a treat and an evening off! Don't feel guilty if you are doing your best.
@rainbow (6761)
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21 Aug 06
If you are working you are both responsible for the home chores. When we renovated I cooked until I only had a microwave, toaster and kettle. I had a 4 year old and a 6 month old at the time. I got excited when I got a bit of wood on the kitchen wall to put the kettle on. YOU ARE NOT A BAD WIFE renovating is stressfull and dirty. Try and do as much as you feel you can, don't worry your husband feels as bad as you do. Shrek hated struggling so would instant noodles and chocolate. Eventually my step-mum took pity on us and either plated food up or more often invited us for tea. we offered her board money but she and my dad just did it to help. You are tired because it is so stressful. We still get busy 2 years later and if I've had enough I order chinese delivered, it is a treat and an evening off! Don't feel guilty if you are doing your best.
@amiksinha (1960)
• India
5 Oct 06
its not just easy recipe, you have to get your energy back to hellp out ur hubby
@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
22 Aug 06
I dont think you are bad wife at all. You guys just boought the house, you both work, there are things in the new house need to get done. Im sure your husband will understand. I dont work so I try to cook for my husband. But even I get lazy from cooking. Other day I just cook the rice and rinse the lettace and got the soy sauce out and told my husband to wrap the rice with lettace and dip in the soy sauce and eat. My mom used to do it when she didnt have time. My husband liked it. It easy, all you need is cook the rice, wash the lettace and have little bit of soy sauce.
@Sunset50 (1397)
• United States
24 Aug 06
I think if your hubby really minded you not cooking and helping him instead, he would tell you to go cook when he gets hungry. He evidently feels you are a big help to him with fixing up the new house and enjoys you doing that. No matter what all these comments are, ask him, and follow his opinion! I wish more wives were like you, marriage is not about one or the other person, it's about being helpmates to each other. If he is happy, then don't feel guilty, if he says he misses a good home cooked meal, then pick a day or two out of the week and fix one for him. Help him work three days, cook the fourth etc. I am proud of what you are doing and I feel you are a credit to the females out here!!!!
@Maveteran (16)
• South Africa
21 Aug 06
You are just a candidate for divorce. I cannot believe that your husband has been eating food cooked by other people's wives or husbabads for so long and he still does grumble. A man likes his wife 's food for your own information. Thank God you arenot my wife. I will be single by now.
@classicaljazz (1628)
• United States
19 Aug 06
In the town that I live in we have a place called Main Dish Kitchen. There are many meals to choose from, you put the meals together and then freeze it for later. They are homemade meals. This was great when I had my son because we were so busy. Do you have something like that near you for this busy time? www.maindishkitchen.com
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Aug 06
Don't feel bad! You don't have to cook a meal for him every night. Heck he can take a turn. We have a system in place where I cook 3 nights a week, my fiance cooks 2-3 (usually on the weekends) and we eat out the other nights. I don't feel bad and we can afford to do so. It is nice eating some place else besides the house. I am sure with all the unpacking and moving, you need a break and you should take one!