DO you find its easier to FORGIVE or to FORGET?
By manya_pearl
@manya_pearl (1901)
Singapore
April 29, 2008 6:38am CST
I find it easier to forget. If someone hurts me, its difficult to forgive him/her... since he's already left wound in my heart...waks? yeah. Forget doesnt mean forgive... for some reason, you cant admit what she or he did to you, and cant forgive them. Anyway, its depends on how bad he/she treated me...
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@yang_peralta (73)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
you cannot forget if you will not forgive. for me i have to forgive first the one who caused me pain and as time goes by the pain will be healed and will be long forgotten.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I often come across ppl who think that one needs to forgive in order to heal and though this may be true for some ppl its not for everyone...I have healed from the traumas in my life but I've not forgiven all those who are responsible or guilty ya know...
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I NEVER forget and quite frankly anyone who claims they do is full of it...When someone causes you major pain how CAN YOU "forget" it....HOWEVER I can forgive ppl PROVIDED its either not a big issue in the first place OR they TRULY ARE sorry for what they did to me...But if a person who has done me harm DOESNT care then no I don't forgive..why should I? Does that mean that I harbour it for the rest of my life? No not at all....For example, I'll never forgive my parents for the yrs of abuse...but that doesnt mean I still carry hatred or pain etc etc...I actually pity them both over anything..
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Oh just to clarify...when I say ppl who claim forgetting are "full of it" I'm not trying to insult anyone (sorry it sounded that way) its just that its impossible IMO...Take you for example..if you TRULY "forgot" you wouldnt have said
since he's already left wound in my heart
see what I'm saying..if you truly forgot there wouldnt BE a wound in your heart and it would all be a none issue..Make sense?
@Springlady (3986)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Hi manya,
I find it much easier to forgive than to forget. With the Lord's help, I can forgive, just as He has forgiven me.
It is really hard to forget when someone has really hurt you. But you can get over it and move on. You can't dwell in the past.
Forgiveness helps you to let go. Anger and bitterness can ruin your life and cheat you out of many blessings.
As a Christian, I am commanded to forgive and with God's help, I can do just that.
God bless!
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
29 Apr 08
hI Pearl, Its not possible to forget thing any thing wrong /good done to me or done by me. The only thing i can do is forgive myself for the worng in have done and forgive the person who did wrong to me.. If i cant forgive it will eat my head and i will be tense, trying to search the answered to the questions. its better to leave the issue and feel the happniess which is in your heart.
@kezabelle (2974)
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29 Apr 08
Forgiving is easy, but letting go and forgetting the hurt and pain no thats a lot harder.
@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
29 Apr 08
Its not easy to forgetting any one by me .
And I can't forgive too ... If its come in term of cheating.
thanks !!!
