Would you go back with a guy or girl who once dumped you?

ctrymuziklvr I am only responding because I wish you the best I was only married to one man and stayed married hrough the good and the bad years and several times I would have given up except we had two children but we did make it eventually. I have sensed that you really love this man and would not have taken him in to recuperate if you had't strong feelings for him. People can change really and sometimes they do. Ihad some cousins who were married and whatever was wrong they would fight get divorced and then remarry later and as far as I know the second time hey were really very happy. If he is really interested in getting back together why not try it? if it doesnt work okay but you tried.

I was never really in a serious relationship before this one, so I have not been dumped and taken back. I think that I might do so though. If I still love him, and he loves me. Why the relationship ended might play a part though. Your mans reason would not put me off. had he cheated or left me for someone else I might not have considered a new relationship though. I wish you both the best of luck and hope you figure out the best thing for the two of you

I believe that sometimes things happen in a relationship and if people split up, doesn't mean they can't go back together. If two people want to be together, they should. He said he needed some space and it was probably true. Sometimes people need that in order to find themselves. Ultimately you think, well if he wasn't happy with me... etc. But sometimes is not even about the other person. If you would stay together, maybe you would split up later than sooner and it would be even worse. But this is all maybe ;-) If you still love him and he loves you, than see what happens. Its about you two. NOt about anybody else. Me and my husband split up for a year. I left him. Well I didn't need my space. But I felt unhappy in the relationship, because he wouldn't open up to me and he didn't really say he loves me. It was the hardest thing I have done. I actually even left the country. But then Im not from UK. We kept in touch and worked on things. I was seeing somebody and he was seeing somebody and one day I realise, I better hurry up before it's too late. He did hurt me a lot (he left me on my own on xmas day and went to his parents to have dinner!!). But if you are prepared to forgive, it's your life. We got back together and it's been 8 years now. So although I didn't get dumped by him, I felt like I am, because he left me no choice, but to leave. Anyway the point is again, you do what makes you happy. My motto is never say never ;-))) Good luck

Ok, this might sound a bit harsh and I apologise but I would never, ever, go back. I was dumped many years ago by a guy I adored, he used me and then dumped me. A year or so later he turned up on the scene expecting to pick up exactly where we left off, and was surprised when I told him in no uncertain terms that it would be when hell freezes over. I feel it is a big mistake thinking that you can pick up where you left off, and no amount of promises can really make any difference. Perhaps it is because I have been badly hurt in the past that makes me so cynical now, but I would be very wary of getting back with anyone who dumped me.

Well, since I did just that. I suppose my answer to your question is yes. My husband and I have been married for 3 years now. But, back when we were dating he broke up with me because I was controlling and he kept everything bottled up instead of talking to me about it. It only lasted a month, but it was a miserable month for me. He realizes now that he probably went about things the wrong way but it is what it is. I was completely innocent either. Actually that time apart made me grow a thicker skin and be a little more independent. I was scared that he was going to leave me again in the beginning but obviously I got over that. I hope it all works out for you!

One of my weaknesses is i can't say NO to the person whom i love with. And that thing is NOT GOOD. Coz, they will just easy to FOOL YOU. But to GIVE LOVE is NOT asking of any RETURN. You feel pain but just be glad that you feel that love. A true love is difficult to vanish. Sometimes you can't blame yourself to feel that way and we have the right to feel on that way. I guess for me it's depend on the situation. If i still love the person and sincerely asked forgiveness then i will not feel any doubtiness or any confusions to accept him again. It's depend on you how you take it..

I would neer ever go back to someone who once dumped me. If that person didn't want me beore, why would they want me now? Being dumped is something that I reuse to forgive. I can't trust a person who dumped me.

no, i think i will never go back. its actually will make me more sad. onece when the heart is broken by that person, i think it never can be memnded. so no for me.

I have never given anyone the chance to dump me,i always dump them...I don't know if i would go back to someone who dumped me or not..If I was in love with the person i might go back them them,it really depends on Why I was dumped...You also have to take a chance of getting dumped again...if you really love this person it could really be hurtful...

No way, no how, not a chance. To me, this is asking for trouble. Now I am not saying that this guy has not turned over a new leaf since having the surgery. But when he recovers fully, will he still be around. A lot of people do rash things when they are afriad. Then when they think that everything is alright, they go back to their old selves. I would never give a man the opportunity to do something like that to me twice. It's not about pride, it's about self-respect. If I went back to him, he would have to do something different like marry me.

Philosophically, I suppose anyone deserves the second chance, and this story is a good example when you might really try. A friend in need is a friend in deed, and you proved you were such a friend. It might be of importance to your partner...

Hi, in fact , I quite understand your status. For I once experienced that. I was dumped by one guy 6 years ago for he fell in love with another girl. I still loved him though he hurt me. Later, he apologized and asked for forgiveness. I accepted him again without hesitation. Good days lasted very short, he dumped me again. From that moment, I came to know that this kind of guy couldn't be forgived! I made up my mind to desert my unpleasant past and started my new life. Now, I succeed! Wish you all the best.

For your first question... I would honestly say: Yes I will be willing to go back to someone who has dumped me... but... only if she's my recent ex... why? cause she means so much to me I can't ever let her go... yes I'm still hoping we'd get back together though that's very impossible at the moment... we're still best friends though... but if one day she tells me she wants me back in her life more than a best friend I'd honestly probably fall for her all over again... I've spend so much time and effort just to win her heart at first... and when finally I did... she still eventually fell out... but I still put so much efforts in trying to win her back... although it didn't work... but if one day she'd tell me she realized that she was wrong to hurt me and let me go... I'd welcome her into my life with open arms... and tell her... "Didn't I tell you 'I will never leave'? I was with you all along... you just never turned your head... but I'm glad you finally did..." This is stupid as others may say and judge... but for a heart that loves truly... everything can be forgivable... and there's always a new beginning...-drsparkle314

That is just really a tough one to answer to be honest. I have been with few not so good relationships, and I have learned a lot from it. I've got dumped enough, so if another guy did it again, and realized that he had made a mistake, it would really take a lot of convincing for me to get back to him. My perception will always be, girls should never experience to get dumped, at least if they should, it would be far from the dumped thing. And if guys try to dumped girls, they should really think hard on doing that, cause not all girls are the same, having a soft heart to get back to someone who just dumped them and later regret by doing so.. And it's not far that they can do it again in the future.

um it depends. There have been times when I got back together with someone who broke up with me. But that was when i was younger right now i don't think I would get back together with someone who brok e up with me

i had a boyfriend who dumped me but it's already 10yrs ago..he cheated on me..he makes me fool while i'm still hoping that our relationship will be forever.. after a few years, he's been around again, but i dont have love for him anymore..i dont hate him but for me, it's all over..he already done a painful thing to me, then why should i go back to him again? it's foolishness for me..i need to move on then find another person who will take care and give a pure love to me..

i dont know that i would be as brave as you because whose to say that he wouldnt do that again? i guess the old addage is true, once bitten, twice shy...Best of luck!

I might if I was single again. It would depend on which one it was though as there is only one that I would or might take back if I was on my own again. How are you ctry?

While I wish you all the happiness that you deserve, ctry, I would still advise you to go slow this time. I have always said that nothing beats a failure but a try, and I believe that. Look within and search your heart for the things you know to be true about this man. After all, you were with him for 5 years! Think about what you want and expect to receive from him if you start a new relationship with him. Also, you should ask yourself if you are just trying to remain in your comfort zone based on your previous familiarity with him. The reason I point all of these things out is because I've been there before and done that-and, no, it didn't work out the second time around because we were essentially the same people as before. Good luck.

a man or a women can have more then one love in their life. i have been married three times but would not go back to my ex wives for a few reasons. one it seems to never work out for me. there is an initial attraction and then there is always something that comes up to cloud up the issues and makes more problems for me (or her) then it is worth. this last wife is not perfect either and neither am i but you need someone who stays the course and is willing to understand your personality and live through the good and bad times without breaking up. being the bi pass out comes apology...this is classic..and then you moved in together...you played the "nurse"..and you know he was in a serious relationship prior...so you still are in limbo..? no, God Bless your trusting heart. There is to many issues with this man to depend on him sticking around "forever"..but its your life..it will be a gamble