Saying "I'm sorry" when and how do you do it? Talk about your experiences...
By whiteheron
@whiteheron (4222)
United States
April 29, 2008 12:32pm CST
Some people say that "love is never having to say you're sorry." But the truth is that even if we love each other we can make mistakes, hurt someone's feelings or do something that we regret enough to feel a need to say "I'm sorry."
And, some of us also say we are sorry when we hear that someone else is suffering even if we did not do anything that we know of to cause the suffering we see or hear about, like when someone dies, stubs a toe, etc. (I have been accused of using "I'm sorry" too much.)
When do you say "I'm sorry?" How do you say, "I'm sorry?" Are there times you have refused to say "I'm sorry?" Do you wait until the other person says "I'm sorry" to apologize? Do you purchase flowers and other gifts or cook special dinners to say, "I'm sorry?" Do these get well received? Talk about your experiences here...
And if you want to tell about how you feel when someone else says "I'm sorry to you," you may share that too.
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5 responses
@ckimkimkim (214)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
i'm not that kind of person who really says sorry.. i don't know why i'm like this... i try to push myself to say sorry but i really can't. even the word thank you, i seldomly say that words...
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@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Wondering what you do then when you are feeling those feelings of regret or even of gratitude...
How does the other person that you are relating with know what you are thinking or feeling if you do not express it?
Wondering if you perhaps have other words or show how you feel or think in other ways?
@dawnald (85139)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Apr 08
It is important to not only say sorry but also to promise to do better next time. And to make the effort to do better. Flowers and candy and dinners and so on are nice, but if it's just going to keep happening over and over again, it ends up not meaning anything!
@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
29 Apr 08
You are so right... resolving to go forth and to do better is necessary. Doing the same bad things over and over again points either to an addiction or to a mental health problem which needs some treatment or to a lack of a desire to improve. Such a lack of desire to improve negates the apology.
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@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
2 May 08
Seems like you try to remain strong and do not like anyone thinking that you are not...
Do you have a hard time asking for help when you need it or receiving praise from other people?
@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
30 Apr 08
So you use it when you want to tell someone that you are feeling sad they are going through something painful... or that you wish that they would not have to go through the experience but not that you have done something that you regretted or hurt them in any way and when people tell you, "I'm sorry..." you get uncomfortable... wondering what it is that makes you feel uncomfortable?
@Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
1 May 08
I think weall at times goof and we do need to say
I am sorry and mean it. my hubbywhen he was alive
often said I am sorry by cooking me a special meal
and at a time when he knew I would really appreciate
it.he was a commericial cook and a very good one. I
would often cook his favorite dish which I myself did
not much care for with a hug and a sorry too. I loved
the way my hubby and my son said I am sorry as they
meant it. I had one friend who thought it her duty
to make semi insulting remarks that stung without
being quite mean like aren't you putting on weight pr
is it just that dress? when I would get insulted
then she would say oh I am sorry I didn't know you were
so thin skinned, just kidding around. yeah right some
kidding. Finally one day I had had it I said I am sorry too, sorry you are such a thick headed jacka**. she left and
I did not see her for months.lol
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@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
1 May 08
It is a good thing that your husband and children knew how to appologize appropriately.
That friend of yours sure did not... making the people whose feelings you hurt wrong for being hurt by your unkind comments sure is not nice and is not actually an appology either.
I am glad that you did finally say something...
wondering if she did ever learn to speak to you more kindly...
@vivienne720 (3)
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1 May 08
once i quarrel with my mom via the pohone then i hang up the phone i am so angry in fact it's my fault after few minutes i sent the message to my mom to admit my mistake but when i was writing the message my mom called me back then she comfort me and satisfy my request i was sad ,and with the tear on my face .
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@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
2 May 08
Isn't it great to have a parent who reaches out to you even when you make the mistake...You start to reach out to her and she reaches out to you... Sounds like she loves you and you love her and that is a good thing.
