How do you feel about couples............................

I think that if you dont live together until your married how are you supposed to know if you can cope being around each other all the time. In all seriousness you can have been with someone forever but without living with them you dont know whether they have annoying habits etc that can end up putting a serious strain on a relationship when you are dealing with them day in day out. I think that its a good idea to spend some time living with someone before you marry them. I could be wrong of course but then from personal experience, however strong a relationship may be it doesnt mean that it will survive under the strains of being together all the time

I feel if he is good enough to move in hes good enought to marry. People shouldnt live like they are married when they are not. People want to make sample commitments. If you can not make a full commitment with marriage then move on. You said you were going to get married so why can you not wait till your married? The way it used to be was so so cool. People would get married and before the marriage takes place the man would find the place they would live and thats when they would live together and marriages would last back then to. Now people move in together have babies and then move on to someone else, its sad.

I can only speak from experience. I have a friend that lived with her boyfriend for 18 years! Then they got married, lasted 1 year! My sister was with hers for 14 years, then got married, lasted 6 months. I have been living with mine for 3 years. I wanted to get married before, he obviously didn't think it was necessary, so I am working on making enough $ to live alone! It just doesn't feel right. so I wouldn't recommend it. If you should be together, then get married. This gives you security.What if something happens to him? Do you realize you are entitled to NOTHING.

I seriously do not see what the problem or the big deal is about living together. I think you should. You get to know someone far, far better living with them than just seeing them through social encounters. I don't see how anyone can decide to ultimately commit to someone without knowing them fully well.

I really don't think it matters as long as you are happy together. getting married or not should be a personal choice between the couple. My aunt and her boyfriend lived very happily together for over 35 years before both passing on within a few months of each other.

me and my hubby lived together for almost two years before we got married. Nobody like the fact that we moved in together and were not married but most of them got over it. Just don't let what other people say discourage u or get u upset. only u and john know what is right for u and what is in ur heart.

I know the bible says it's wrong, but this day and time you don't really know someone until you live with them. I believe that it's fine to live with someone before you marry them, this way you know it's what you want and you are more sure. There are some couples that have a great relationship until they start living together, then they find out that they weren't right for each other. My husband and I lived together for four years before we got married.

I don't see any problems with couples living together before they get married. My mother and step-father, along with my father and step-mother, my sister and brother-in-law, and my husband and I all lived together before getting married. My mother and father didn't live together before getting married, and in my opinion, they probably should have.

Well, if you move in together you'll be committing to a serious, loving relationship, right? Well that's the same as a marriage only you won't have that piece of paper from the state saying you are 'married'. Which matters more to you, the feelings you have for one another or the permission slip from the government?

Linda_ HI. Everyone must decide what is the right thing to do with their lives. We all make choices and decisions, some good, some not so good. If you're asking for a personal opinion, I think it's okay to live with someone before marrying them. It's awesome to profess before your g*d and your family, how much you love your partner and want to be together for life. But, for me, it's okay to make a promise of love to each other without a ceremony. People who use the expression (shack up) are not talking about the kind of living together you are. It's a bit of nasty slang for casual, brief interludes. Living with a person makes the beginning of a marriage a little easier because you've shared the same toothpaste. You know your partner's quirks and habits and you agree to accept them when you marry. I don't think the 'amount of time' we live with someone we truly love makes much difference in the morally 'right or wrong' scenario. I think for you, it feels like it's (not so wrong) if you're only living together for a short time before you are married. If you're not comfortable with your boyfriend moving in before marriage, then you already have your answer. Living together outside of marriage is not okay for you. Don't let anyone pressure you into changing your mind or comprimising your values. After you read through some of your responses_ you'll receive more insight about your situation. You may change your mind or your opinion. You might continue feeling what you feel now. Listen to your heart and trust the answer. Take some time before you share a home. Make sure you're doing the right thing for you. And once you decide that, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I wish you confidence and peace in the path you are walking. Love well and true. Be at peace with yourself and who you are. Everything else falls into place.

My fiancee and I are living together right now. We just felt nothing wrong about doing it because we're going to get married anyway. We are on the process of absorbing every realization thst comes in while we are lving together. That way, we now know what life would be like when we get married. And we have't got any serious problems so far.

Im happy for you Linda.You sound as though you are a committed couple,so move in together and be happy together

I am okay if people living together before married. This way, you will know each other first. Are you compatible with each other. After a while, if you still love each other, you can get marry. One of the benefit if you don't mind what people think. Its easier than if you get marry first and then find out you are not suitable and get divorce.

Yes, the bible says it's wrong...but you know you cannot interpret the bible literally. God's words are applied in different situations and may have many different messages to guide us. It's wonderful to live together when you're already married but there some situations that causes living together outside wedlock and I know for sure God will understand and will still give his blessings...

Heh *wry smile* it's no secret I don't put alot of stock in marriage in general. It's a much bigger test on a relationship, in my opinion, to see how long you can live together. It also gives you a chance to work things out before marriage, which later might've been much harder to resolve and possibly be a much bigger deal then. My Mom detests this, but this is what I think...and people tell me I give pretty sound relationship advice so..*shrugs* heh.

I did not live with my first husband before marriage at all. It was quite a shock when we did move in together though. I lived with my current husband for 2 years before we got married. We have been married 3 years now.

My husband and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. I think it is actually a good idea to live together before you get married as then you will know what it is like to live with the person before commiting yourself to them.

I live with my fiance of the same name (different spelling) and I have been for 8 months now. Nothing has changed but we have grown to know our own habits and have conformed to those habits that the other one possesses. I am easy to conform in that sense, and do not make a fuss because of it. Living together does help you understand your mate, and lets you know what their habits are so that you can prepare yourself for them.

My husband and I lived together for about 6 months before we got married. Though that was not a long time it was still difficult for us because our parents were very conservative. Our faith do play a big part on how we feel in this situation. However, I think that because you know that it is not right and want to make it right says a lot about how you want things to happen. You still hang on to your beliefs and are already 'sorry' that you have to do this. Isn't that what's important? So I say go ahead. Just always pray to God that things will get better soon (financially) so that your union will be blessed.

BAAAAAD idea. Very bad. there's no sealing of the committment before God, family & friends, no taking one's rightful place as part of one's community, & worst of all, it actually does NOT help couples stay together. Most such arrangements end in disaster. But if you want to ignore this advice, at least don't have children. They would be devastated when you parted. Why _play_ house? Wait 'til you're more mature, & then do it the right way...for REAL. If there's real love there, you & your partner CAN do it. If not, no harm done. Maggiepie