Stop Giving your Power Away (my Gift to all of my wonderful mylot friends)

momma, no one took any power away from p1ke. He got pissed off and made a decision to remove himself from this site for a while, but he's no victim, and I assure you, his world is far from ending. And whatever his feelings are, they're completely valid and reasonable and it's not up to any of us to judge him as a victim or suggest that he's had any power taken away from him, as if anyone could in the first place. Look, I understand where you're coming from here, and I know you don't mean this how it sounds to me, but I had to step in here and speak up and I really hope you can understand where I'm coming from, momma. If it were me, I would be very unflattered by this discussion, honestly.

I knew I must have missed something while I was away for the weekend...that always seems to happen! I am sorry he is gone. We didn't cross paths often but I enjoyed seeing him around. I agree with you though. I am here and will be here as long as I am happy. I don't agree with everybody and I know not everybody will agree with me....but that's ok. If I leave it will not be because 'someone got to me', it will be because I have chosen to leave for myself.

We all need to take your advice momma, thanks for the great wisdom...Godspeed!

I am so very sad to see P1kef1sh go too. He messaged me earlier to say goodbye and it brought tears to my eyes. He was a real good guy and always up for a laugh and always with a listening ear and his posts always made me smile. He was very upset over this friend being verbally abused and attacked. I think it was very unfair of these people to do this too. I have been away for a few days myself as this sort of thing was beginning to affect me but I am now back refreshed. You are so right we all have choices. Thanks for posting. God bless. Ellie :D

I also didn't know he left here,mylot too :( I am really sorry to hear people are leaving this site because of other users. It makes me afraid of the people around me. It is really just like a reflection of real life. The same stuff is also possible in real, however sometimes there's no where to go in real life and then the words you mentioned prove themselves. We are all human as you have just said. We are all human and we are all both good, and bad. Because human makes mistakes! It is possibily the best thing that a human could do: Mistakes.. But some mistakes cost a little more than others. Nobody has the right to make someone feel unconfortable here. If you really agree some idea,you can say that by your words and if you disagree, it is also possible to mention that without offending the people. However, I really know how people make it harder for you and I know it is sometimes really hard to bear againist how others act you... But this doesn't mean we should leave the field to them.

momma that cannot be I just answered one of his discussionslast night. this is terrible what on earth happened. he is oneof the nicest people on mylot. I hear what you are saying. we can stand up to these meanhearted people and take away their power. good for you. I just cannot belive pikefish would let someone do that to him, thats almost more than I can stomach..I am so glad you posted this discussion as it is something we all should read and respond to and choose to follow.I also have received some nasty things but I refuse to be chased away as I am having too much fun.poor pikefish.thats just dreadful.

Momma with all due respect, he was angry, and all he has done is step away before he loses his temper..... I think that is gaining power and control. Not the other way around.... It takes a very big man to walk away from a fight , not engage it. Free will means doing what you feel is best for ones self, thinking for ones self... Not following the mass to slaughter. I admire his choice and I do not believe he would be very happy to see anyone discussing his decisions in the open forum like this. Happiness is a choice and Pikes choice is to leave the lot before he blows a gasket and that makes HIM HAPPY!

Is he really gone? He was one of my friends and a very funny character. I will sorely miss him. Anyway, I know exactly what you are saying girl. It is so important not to let anyone have our day or that much control over our lives. I am learning to be happy no matter what else anyone says or does. I am learning to give things to God, leave it with him and let him handle it, without getting in his way. A little more than a week ago, someone made a comment to me that had me up all night. Even though I knew the comment was not true. It was dealing with one of my biggest fears. I allowed that person to take almost 24 hours away from me that I will never get back, because I wasted my time being angry with her. You go girl. Your recent topics have been wonderful.

I learned a long time ago that you can't allow the words that a person says to you, to turn you against yourself and turn your back on your friends. If someone says something to me that I disagree with, I will say so and if they don't like it, that is too bad! I am sorry to see him go as he had several good things to say on here and I think that he had several more reasons to be here than some people do.

Very well written 34momma! Our Lives are what we make them, not what others say or think! We are free to create our lives minute by minute. Our lives are our creations, and to allow another to influence us negatively is wrong. Live life to the fullest and remember~ If its not fun, don't do It!

Momma, though I appreciate what you are saying so much - life is not that simple. What our dear P1ke felt was compassion for someone he loved, who was terribly hurt by the comments made to her. We can't choose not to hurt. We can't choose not to feel for those we love or care about. It is HOW we handle those feelings engendered in us that are the real choices. Our dear P1ke choose not to take the apathetic path, and so removed himself from the scene in protest rather than get into a pissing match with the nasty poster. That would have been counter productive for him and the lovely lady maligned on that thread. Mylot is full of people like that nasty poster, and backlashes can be brutal. I for one don't think P1ke gave his power away, I rather think he held onto it hard and fast, and when the dust settles, he will return here stronger in spirit and more powerful than ever. Of that I have no doubt. As I said, it is HOW we handle our feelings that are the real choices of happiness in our lives. P1ke handled his like the gentleman he is. We should give him kudos for that.

Your words are words to live by and I was feeling down in the dumps today over pretty much the same thing. Its strange how we let someones hateful words get to us. I am glad I came across your blog.........I needed it......thanks

I agree with this! There are other forums and discussion boards that I have participated in, in the past. Sometimes there just was a lot of drama started and disregard for other people and differing opinions. I think there's a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that says something about 'nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent'. I too wish people would remember that and STOP FEELING INFERIOR just because some jerk they come in contact with had a bad day! People allow all sorts of things they really shouldn't... I see people bend over backwards for bullies, let others take advantage. I'm not suggesting people start shoving each other but it shouldn't be taken without a comment. The best 'revenge' is living well, the best revenge is continuing to be happy when those who wish you were miserable are trying hard to make that happen! Rather than give them that satisfaction, brush them off, keep on keeping on!

He just disappeared with no any info. Sad to know about it. and i agree with you..Why we allow someone to beat us. I don't know the whole story why p1kef1sh gone but as for me it can't affect my mylotting. So, hoping p1kef1sh will come back.

i agree. But!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We cant rebel, we are all sheep we all follow and do as we are told, what you suggest is far too scvary because it asks us to think blessed be

Having read through this entire discussion, I can see what you're trying to get across here, in that we shouldn't let others rob us of our happiness. I have allowed too many to do this to me, for a very long time. I've finally decided, to really work on this, and to not let it happen. I'm speaking here, of a personal choice I've made. I admire another 'Good' friend of mine, who's making the same choice, and also love the quote by 'Eleanor Roosevelt' that's been mentioned. For me, this doesn't mean that we can't have compassion for a friend who's been genuinely hurt, or stand up for them as needed, as I'm definitely a very caring person, and having these feelings don't make us a victim. I view these two issues as totally separate. Take care.

thanks for this info, It's sad to know about his decision! I hope he will be ok soon and decide to join again! I agree with you, we have to be tough here and never allow any words or comments by others to destroy ourselves! We can't please everyone after all!

Hi momma. The idea you are expressing is one said with a deep understanding of who you are, which not only shows who you are, but where you are. It shows you not only have compassion for others, but shows you have a desire for others to know who they are, to understand the power they have within them selves, if they choose. It also shows the level of your security within yourself. When people allow others the kind of power I know you are talking about, they are, in essence, being what used to be referred to as 'co-dependent'. In short, that means they are depending on others to not only to make them happy, but they are giving someone else the 'power' to control how they feel. While I'm not saying that's what happened with p1kef1sh, I'm saying, I understand what you are trying to say. To allow anyone or to give anyone the kind of power you are talking about, is something people do without realizing they are doing it. It is certainly a choice, but people who are 'co-dependent' don't realize they are making that choice, let-a-lone, have the ability to make the choice on their own. If people realized they had that kind of power within them, to make their own choices, to establish their free will and make their own decisions whether or not to continue to be happy or upset, they might begin to realize they have choices in other areas of their lives. I commend you for trying to make a very good point. Those who understand that freedom and those who have it, will also understand your point. Those who don't will undoubtedly, not get it, which is another choice they make. It's not just here at mylot where people have such a choice. I would say people at mylot have a more distinct choice because of the aminity, the cloak that is between mylot and reality. The choice to establish the kind of power you speak of is a choice we carry with us throughout the day, throughout our lives. the sad part of it is they don't realize they have that choice. Even when they recognize they might have the choice, they don't know how to put that choice into action. It's easier to blame others for how one feels or to justify it or to excuse it, rather than taking charge of one's own life and taking action to make it better. Some people are comfortable where they are. It's easier to complain about an issue than to try to put out effort to change. I applaud you for making the point. I hope it turns the switch on in someone's head and lets them realize what you are trying to say. No matter what the issues are in someone's life, "People, please, for the love of yourselves, WAKE UP!!!!Wake up and stop allowing yourselves to be the victim of someone else's ego!!!Take your power back today. Love it, hold it, treat it like it's the gift God gave you!!!!" Very well said my dear.

We all have our opinions and sometimes they are not in tune with everyone elses, thats what makes mylot so interesting. As long as we do not go out to upset anyone with our remarks then it would be a pity if we could not be honest with one another after all we are all friends

Hello momma, I read pike's post about his walk thru the garden the other night. He was talking about leaving but I was hoping he wouldn't. I really enjoy reading his posts. I think he should understand by this day and age that no matter what there will always be people who are mean rude and cruel . There are always going to be those who say things we find either negative or unacceptable. When I read these kind of responses I try my best to just move on to something more positive. I think maybe there has been 2x that I have expressed how cruel or heartless someone was in their response to a dicussion. Other than that I have just moved on to another dicussion. I'm not here to argue, be abusive or to be made to feel bad about life in general. I also do not wish to inflict these feelings on others. I will miss pike's dicussions as well as his responses and seriously hold hope of his return. I am awake Momma....Mamablaze!!