discipline

Taking away the electronics works as a great incentive with my nine and eleven year olds. The threat of having the Ipod or Gameboy taken away works magic most of the time. In other cases, like breaking something, the perpetrator has to do chores to earn the money to replace the item.

I prefer time outs or taking privileges away. I have and will spank if I feel that it is necessary or they are doing something that could be very dangerous like reaching for the stove or running out in the street. In general though I don't like to spank and I don't feel that it is effective for long term results. You spank a child and that's that, there is no really talking or thinking about the behavior and it's just doesn't leave a lasting impression, that is what I have found with my oldest child any way. My other 2 are really too young to really understand right from wrong although the middle child is getting there at 19 months old. Also I find that it is easy to spank out of anger or as a knee jerk response and I don't agree with that. Time outs allow for time to calm down and think and talk about the behavior without the child being distracted by the punishment as much as they would be if they were spanked.

Hello there..... for me children are friend for me. We set together and talk anything that we would like to talk. But sometime I show my anger to my kids, but for some reasonable reason. More time you spend with your kids more things you gonna know about them. It depends how old is your kids, and I am sure that you gonna do a best job for your kids.

i agree that you shouldn't punish a kid if their not old enough to know what their doing but i think that whenever they get to a certain age you should really try and teach them wrong from right and i know that you arne't suppose to spank a child but i think if they did something bad enough and nothing else would work a light smack on the top of the hand wouldnt kill it