I swear I added someone as a friend and they accepted..

@dizzblnd (3073)
United States
April 29, 2008 7:55pm CST
now, they are not on my friends list anymore I will not name anyone, because I don't want to put anyone on the spot if they decided to delete me. Has this ever happened to any of you? Do you request to add them again, or just let it go. It really bugs me. I don't think I did anything to make this person WANT to delete me.
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15 responses
• United States
30 Apr 08
If you were only friends for a short time, I would let it go. Sometimes, some is added or asks to be added in hopes that they will be compatible in the types of discussions they start or respond to. But, then, they find out that this is not the case and they delete that friend. I sometimes do that from time to time. But, if you were friends for a while and then they deleted you, I might request them again one time. Sometimes, people get deleted by accident or if they haven't been active for a while. Then, after that, I would let it go.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Apr 08
you make a good point with the compatibility issue. That was one aspect I hadn't though of before now. I, too, have deleted people just because we responded to the same discussions past the 2 or 3 we met each other in to begin with. I might have to go back and review some of their discussions before I request to add them again. This will probably clear up a lot. Thank you
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• United States
30 Apr 08
I think its the blond syndrome at it again! LMAO no I don't think I have had it happen to me, but then again I might not notice if someone drops off of my list :)) Unless of course you are someone I answer to often LMAO then I would miss ya :)))
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Why was it you?? Did you delete me?? LOL Just kidding. I know it wasn't you. It was probably accidental.
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I'd just let it go. Sometimes people go through deleting friends who are inactive. Not saying you are, but going by the notices in their inbox. I myself have realized my friends who are still on my friends list are writing discussions and I don't always get the notification about it I just recently went though mine and deleted the members who have 0 and 2 and 3 discussions and checked their profiles and they have not been on in a few months or since the day the signed up. lol I wouldn't worry about it too much. There'll be more members and more friends to make
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I know it.. I am just bummed out. I think I will request to add them again to see what happens.. like someone else said, the worst they can do is deny me
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
1 May 08
Yes it has happened a lot to me lately that a lot of my Friends new and old seem to disappear of my Friends list Of course I would accept them again for the simple reason I did not let them go in the first Place I am sorry this has happened to you as well as it is recently happening to me I have just changed my Password again and hope that will stop it
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Yeah well I just deleted my own dad so accidents can happen lol. If you just added them it was probably just an accident. Id say send another invite whats the worst that can happen they decline it oh no. Ill still be your friend.
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Apr 08
lol I thought about you and your dad when I posted this.. lol.. Thanks for staying my friend :) Maybe I will request to be their friend again.. maybe it was an accident and they didn't mean to do it Thanks
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@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
30 Apr 08
i think that i would just try and let it go if it were me because honsetly they might not have meant to or they might have just done it to be doing it...i don't know why people delete others the only time i delete is if someone just doesn't ever doanything like never logs in or anything like that and then i will do that sometimes...but don't worry im sure that you didn't do anything!
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Thnaks I hope I didn't do anything to upset this person... I am really a nice person
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
1 May 08
Well, it happens. Maybe in the long run they didn't like your discussions. Honestly, if I get deleted I don't care. If they delete me I am sure they have give a good reason.
1 May 08
Accidents happen and I have deleted a couple of friends by mistake. I just went back to find them and added them again.
• United States
30 Apr 08
I usually add first ask questions later. So it is very possible for me to add someone as a friend then a couple of weeks later decide that they are cluttering up my inbox with their nonsense they call discussions and then delete them. I keep my friends to a minimum on every site I'm on. I don't think you did anything in particular to lose a friend. Some people just like the minimalistic look that I do.
@gemini_rose (16264)
30 Apr 08
Well I have not noticed if this has happened to me or not as I do not check it very often, but I guess it might have done!! All the friends that I am in regular contact with are still coming up when they start discussions so they cannot have done!! I think if I noticed that someone was not on my list anymore, then I would just assume that they had deleted me for some reason and although I would be a bit miffed I would probably just leave it.
• Australia
1 May 08
I wouldn't take it personal. speaking from my own experience, sometimes when I don't hear from a person or I don't communicate with them very much, I will take them off my friends list because it's hard to keep up with everyone and I would wind up with a hundred friends if I didn't edit from time to time. You could always PM them and let them know that you're not upset but you wanted to know if you did anything to upset them or anything. That way you can put your mind at ease...
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
30 Apr 08
hello, i think it is just best that you ignore who ever that person is, they might have deleted you by accident but who knows. if you will ask them again to be on your list it is ok just dont have a high expectations on it an dont get upset if they deny you or ignore you. some people may have just preference on adding a friends and they realize in the end that you dont belong there or they are a bit confused. if you really want to know the answer go ahead and PM this person and hopefully he'll be honest with you, if not just move on. it wont hurt you and it is their lost not yours anyway. i have deleted some people on my list coz they are either not active or they just seem to post so many discussion without giving a dang look and response to the response you give to their post, so i just get tired of that and move on. there are so many fish in the ocean and i dont want that fish to bother me if it is not worth my time. anyway, i wish you all the best and there are so many great people out here who will appreciate you to be on their list so just try to eye for a good one. takecare and have a good one
• United States
30 Apr 08
I only have 3 friends on my list for I only started friday night. In my opinion I think if someone has way too many friends they forget who's who but I could be wrong. It would be nice of them to let you now first. What can you do ya know? not much.
• United States
30 Apr 08
Aww I wouldn't worry about it hun :] But no it hasn't happened to me because I just signed up today haha
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I would not think too much about it! You never know why it happened or if the person even realizes it! Sometimes we just hit the wrong key!