do you have any favorite among your kids?

When my first son was 6 years old, I had my second son. The oldest asked me one day which one of them I love more. I told him I love them both the same. But he still kept asking but which one I love more. So, I knew that he and I both absolutely love his grandmother's mashed potatoes. So I said: "You love Gram's mashed potatoes, right?" He said "Yea!" I said "Well, if Gram made a great big pot of mashed potatoes, and took some out and put them in a bowl.... Which ones would you like better? The ones in the pot or the ones in the bowl?" He said "I'd love them both the same!" I said "That's how I love you and your brother the same... You both came from the same pot!" Lol! He understood then!

Hi,dear checapricorn,For me I don't have child either..In my point of view if I have children one day I will treat them equally rather than have the most favorite ,since I do know that they all my children and part of my life.For most of the things in my daily life I can divide them into good , not really good and bad but I as for the children I raise I will treat them equally;-)

I only had one child. But my grandmother instilled in me from very young never to favour one child over another. It just leaves the favored one feeling special and the others, unloved or painfully left out.

Hello checapricorn, I think when we have more than a child, it tends to happen without realizing it. I have a son and I can't give a good comment about this but I want to relate it to my mother. She has many children. We can see that she loves my youngest brother the most and in fact in the eyes of all the daughters, she loves her sons more than us. But whenever we approach her and ask, she will say that she love the last two - my brother and I. The most pampered in the family was me and I can assure you that, when you ask any of my siblings which child my mother loves the most - they will point harmoniously at me! *laughs*

I think that every child should be treated equally. I have spent my life as the least favorite child and it sucks. It ends up making the child feel like they have done something worng and they spend a majority of their life trying to figure out why they are not loved as much as their sibling. What is wrong with them in a sense. And as a mother myself I can honestly say that I love both of my children the same. They both have different personalities and I love them each for who they are.

i think its unfair if we gonna practice that favoritis. by the way, i only have 1 child. so i didnt experience favoritism. but just the same if i hve more that one child i wont do that. it would be unfair to others. i will treat them fair no matter what.

I have two daughters and i try my level best that none of them have the feeling that i am inclined to one but on some instances i elder daughter who is nine now does say that you love the younger one more. Actually i feel that the elder one should now be more mature and excuse the younger one for her minor mistakes if they have a fight so in such cases i get this comment. I then try to explain her that she is grown up and should rather take care of her younger sister. But this does not always works and i am very much hurt that my daughter feels that i am discriminating between them.

Nope I love both of my kids the same but ask me in about 6 months after the new grandbaby gets here that might be a nother story

I could never love one of my kids over the others..I mean HOW COULD a parent do that ya know...My kids are very different in many ways but I love that fact right there ya know..Theres no way I could love one over the others...I'd hate myself if I was like that...

I have two babies and I love them both fairly.. :)

I have three children and i love them all very much. I don't love more then the other. I am close to all three of them. I have a 18 year old son, 12 year old son, and 3 year old daughter. I can not look at them and love one more then the other. when i see them, I see three amazing gifts, and i love them all as such

Hi i have one boy one girl both are equal to me may be some times i get irritated by non stop Naugtiness of my son but it never mean i love him less i am sure kids are all wqual to their parents its not how u r attached with them, its how u feel when they are sick (God Forbid) Take care

Hi Che..well ive got three kids,and i love them equally .But they are all very diffrent in their ways.The eldest my son is a clever ambitious man,who i see very little of ,he phones to check if all is well ,but he leads his own life ,and he intends to keep it that way,never the less we are very very proud of him and his achievements.My first daughter,the eldest of the twins is also fiercely independant,she has strong views and sometimes feels that im a softy!!but she has done well and is in a good relationshi,thank god.The youngest twin is soft and gentle,so loving and kind its beyond belief,she is totally unselfish in any way,she puts her family before everything,she and i speak everydsay and we enjoy to keep up with the gossip.Maybe thats is where your friend is coming from Che ,that although yes she loves them equally there is maybe one that she feels a little closer too.

I love both my children equally and I would never choose one over the other. I would anything and everything for both of them. At the same time to do have a favorite though. My littlest one has sweeter nature and loves to laugh. I would never pick him over the other one for anything. I just like his charater more than the other one. And I most definatly would never tell my children I have a favorite.

I have 4 children. I love them all the same. They are different but I love their differences. The baby gets the most attention right now but that doesn't mean I love her more than the other three. I couldn't imagine loving one of my children more than another.

I have two and I love them both with all my heart. You don't have favorites, however, I am easier on my son than on my daughter. It could be their characters as my daughter is a tough cookie and he is the most loving trusting kid I've ever seen. I seem to be easier on him even though when I find myself doing so I toughen up on him as well. As for love, once you are a mother you'll find that you have enough love in your heart for one or for fifty kids. You will love them all equally.

I do not understand anyone that can say that they have a favourite among there children I think it is just strange. I have four kids and I can honestly say that I love them all exactly the same, when I think of my children I do not think of one more than the other or think to myself that a certain child is my best. They are all so different and unique and they all have completely different personalities, but they are all special in their own ways and I love that about them. I know someone who has a sister and she always says that her sister is the favourite and she tells me about things that happen and I think it is really sad that she knows or feels that her sister is the favourite, I would be heartbroke if I thought my kids thought that I had a favourite.

I don't think that any parent should ever say that they have a favorite. They especially shouldn't let their children hear them say this. As a parent, I don't think it's about having a favorite, it's more about recognizing each child's unique attributes. One child may be your favorite to take to the store because they are the one who behaves the best while in the store. Another child may be your favorite to cook with because they are interested in the kitchen, where the others aren't. All of our children are not the same. They are each unique. And, I think it's ok to deal with your child based on their own unique attributes. You may be able to let one child watch scary movies, but can't let the other because they'll have nightmares. As long as all your children feel loved by you, no one more than the other, than you're doing good.

Ouch! Hit a sore spot. Unfortunatly I must confess, I have always favored my youngest child above the rest. It is difficult to admit, and does create many guilty feelings. I do of course love all my children with all my heart, but for some reason my youngest is closest to my heart. I began to notice this when my fourth child was born. Prior to that I'd had twins, and never noticed myself favoring any child over another. However when my fourth child came along I found myself having slightly less patience for the older ones and preferring to give more attention and affection to the baby. I noticed this, and of course took steps to hide it from my other children, and when I became pregnant for my fifth child I began to wonder if it would happen all over again. I was unsure if my change in feelings towards the older kids was due to their age or due to the fact that they were "replaced" by mommy's baby. When my fifth child was born I became aware that it is Mommy's baby syndrome. Apparently I just have a soft spot in my heart for the baby of the family. I know this all sounds rather bad, and as I said, I do feel guilty about it. I do love all my children with all my heart and do everything I can to make them feel equal amongst each other, however each has their own personality and pros and cons, so it is easy to feel as if one aggravates you more than another. It doesn't change the way you love your children, it just changes the way you view your feelings.

hi checapricorn, i have five kids, three boys and two girls. they are all pre teens or teenagers. i think it is normal for me to feel closer to the girls because they want to spend more time with me than the boys do. the boys are into hockey and that is just something i can not relate to. one of my girls had a great since of humour and going places with her is a lot of fun, she skips, is care free and joyous. the other daughter is more moody and quiet. there are no favourites here but i like to laugh. i hope she does not feel i am picking one over the other. all kids are different and they all have different qualities that we can relate too..