What will you do if you find out that your best friend is gay/lesbian?
By darshikie
@darshikie (58)
Malaysia
April 30, 2008 9:55pm CST
A very dear friend of mine since high school, just admitted to me that she is a lesbian and she had this thing for me for ages and only have the courage to tell me only recently. She was a friend I go to whenever I have problem with my boyfriend, my parents, a place where I gossip about anyone!
I really dont know how to react! She pour out her feelings to me saying that she wants to be with me and she will look after me. But... I dont see her my old friend no more. I'm scared, but I love her as a friend.
How would you react? what will you do? I've tried telling her that I am straight, but she wont give up.
Not discriminating lesbianism or anything, I'm ok with the tot, but I cant accept it from "my friend".
3 responses
@qdietz (244)
• United States
1 May 08
try to talk to her and tell her that you do not share these feelings with her. Tell her that you do not think it would work out. It is going to be hard but try to take care of her at the same time (not easy, as you will have to hurt her...)
good luck with it!
@darshikie (58)
• Malaysia
1 May 08
Talking to her doest work. I tried. She insisted for the "relationship" to evolve to sumting else. Should I just pretend that she is not a lesbian? Pretend the whole conversation I had about her about her having this deep feeling towards me didn't happen?
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
1 May 08
i don't think that i would do anything but support them because they have bene my friend for that many years and that wouldn't change my opinion of them or anything like that i mean you might be a little more uncomfortable or something like that at times...but i would just support them and tell them that it wasn't a big deal to me because honestly it woudln't be...
@darshikie (58)
• Malaysia
1 May 08
My feeling towards her as friend has not change, just it very uncomfortable to talk to her, since I know that she was and still into me. I do support her being a lesbian and all, but there is a small part of me gets a little scared. I know it is not a big matter to be scared and all, beside, she is my close friend and she knows nearly everything about me, but this was totally unexpected. I just want to know how should I react towards her, naturally.
@snakequeen (1299)
• India
1 May 08
Hi darshikie! I have not faced any such situation so far hence don't know how my reaction will be,which will be based on many factors! Coming to yr problem, you say not discriminating lesbianism or anything, ur ok with the tot, not willing to accept it from your friend! Sinc you say you still love her as a friend, i feel u can accept her request for the present, and then decide about your course of action later, if you do not like it. This may be the best option in the given situation.
