Things we do to help us to listen to others better...

I have difficulty in paying attention to other people when they are speaking. I always kept thinking about my next topic I would throw out after the speaker finished, for I am not good at chat.

Very Good Post! You are right, when we are upset it really becomes difficult to concentrate on what other are saying. It depends, who is saying what? But we need to be 'patient listener' even if we are tired, because, if we do not listen to our near and dear ones, who will listen to them and they also would not listen to us. It is a two way traffic, because we should keep in mind, that there may be few occasions, when we would like others to listen to us. So we are required not only to listen to others, but we should also see that we 'understand' what the other fellow is saying and wants us to 'understand. I give a patient hearing to my better half and kids, even if I am tired, I listen to what they say and come out with my comments little later.

This is a very pertinent post for me since I am getting this kinda blues recently. Such are tough situations for even though you can manage with your family when they assumingly understand you but it's indeed very difficult to cope with workplace. My job requires intent hearing of the patients and counsel them by sensing their psyche. So you can imagine how bad it gets when I am upset. I can manage with tiredness but not when I am upset. Still I try to focus by concentrating totally, almost giving 100% to my job. This kinda helps forget the thing momentarily. On other occasions when I am free, I try to go on long drive alone all by myself. But ultimately I think its only TIME that can help. Time is certainly the best healer.

I look them in the face for some reason that is the best way for me to listen have to look at them. Grand daughter jabbers all the time I hear wht she says but alot of timesdont answrer unless her mom says I aint paying attention to her lol

Usually I would try to respond with something that would turn our focus away from those things that had made me upset. Talking other topic that absolutely had no relation with things that made me upset, usually would help, a bit. I would always remind myself that those people had no guilt towards things that happened to me. If I just couldn’t stand it, I would respond at least with some short words and tried to still speak politely towards them, and later tried to ‘steal’ a chance to leave the talk, telling them that I had a promise with someone and was waiting for their call or something like that and that I had to go.

this is interesting... i tend not to listen or say..the other persons voice doesnt enter my head and however hard i try..im lost.Sometimes it helps if i look straight at the other person's face n try n give my hwole attention, however this is tough...listening to someone esle when my own head is filled with anxiety

well it depends i first check out for the priority...and than i check weather asking to excuse as i am tired,anxious or upset than i give it if it didn't work than i just simply give him in small words telling this and listen what he is saying and respond accordingly and also i am safe if he says my response is not as god as expected than i have already mentioned the reason before only