unfairness......
By qtfrog99
@qtfrog99 (279)
United States
May 1, 2008 1:35pm CST
I have a 20 month old son and my fiance's sister has a 3 year old daughter. We find that his mom and stepdad treat her daughter better than our son. Do you guys have this problem within your family? I understand that she was the first grandchild for them, but my son doesn't understand that, and there is a lot of jelousy between the cousins when it comes to my fiance's parents. I have confronted them on several occasions about the situation and they just say that it is because my son has 2 sets of grandparents and a father in his life and she only has 1 set of grandparents and her dad is gone. But again my son doesn't understand that and her mother should of thought about that before she laid down with that man. One instance that still plays back in my mind is this past easter my mother-in-law to be bought the kids easter baskets, she gave my son one with a bunch of cars in it and her granddaughter one with dolls and spongebob. So the kids opened them and she started to cry she wanted the cars so they literaly grabbed them out of my sons hands and gave them to her. I was very heated, I did call her a spoiled brat that day. So later that day when it was all forgot my mother in law tried to give me back my sons present I told her he didn't want it. Do you think the way I act is uncalled for or is it verified? I know one day he will be old enough to make his own decisions and decide that he doesn't like them because they treat him worse than her, but until then am I wrong to try to keep him away from her as much as possible? I really am at wits end here so any advice would be greatfully appreciated.
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@Psyclown (131)
• Venezuela
3 May 08
That happened tome when i was a kid, my dad family give money and presents to my other cousin but for my and my sister they never had attention, so when we grow up we forget that family, and now when they're all they try to make us near they because my cousin let they behind, and we can recover that relation.
@asereht1970 (424)
• Philippines
3 May 08
I totally understand your predicament. When we were kids, my relatives from my father's side really favors my cousins. They would serve them foods different from us. My Mom told us that it was because they were the real nieces and nephew, since my Dad is only a step-son. Even though we were young, we have learned to accept the situation. Now, i have a niece and a nephew courtesy of my sister and my brother. Eventhough we try our best to treat them equally, there are times that we favor my nephew. Our explanation for this is because my nephew live with us eversince he was a baby so he was kind of attached to us. I also understand your parents-in-law. They were just making up for what is missing in their granddaughter's life. Your son is lucky, he has you, his Mom and, as you have said, two sets of grandparents. The poor girl only has her Mom and 1 set of grandparents. It was not both the kids' fault so i think it is not good to keep him away from her. You were only making things worse if you do that.
