The first of My stories
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
May 1, 2008 9:21pm CST
I did a discussion here asking people if they would like to read my stories and I got positive responses. I have these stories all published on another site and I retain copywrite on them.
I will publish the stories daily, some stories may need a bit of background which I will place at the beginning of the story and I will place a discussion question at the end.
Here goes:
This story centers around when I went back to school in 2006 for french classes I was looking for a job and since I live in MOntreal, Quebec the employers were saying my french was not good enough for the business world.
Now for the story:
A Single Fig,
By Me:
She sat beside me on the first day of French Class; she smiled though she did not talk very much. Like me she was older than most of the students. I wasn't sure of her age, I knew she was a bit younger than me, yet I could still see the quiet wisdom in her eyes. As with some many other new landed immigrants in Canada, I felt that perhaps she was just shy, feeling bewildered in her new country; so far away from home.
Mina did not talk very much but did ask a lot of questions and it quickly became apparent that she was a hardworking student. During the class introductions I learned that she was married with no other family here except for her husband and mother-in-law. She left behind her own precious family in Iran to come to Canada; her brave new world. I marveled at the way immigrants could leave their birthplace and voyage sometimes from the other side of the world to a new country, culture and way of life. I know that I could never do it, but then I never had to.
As the term progressed, I learned that Mina was anything but shy; her lack of conversation was due to the fact that she believed she could not speak French very well and was very self conscious when she spoke. She looked at me as an example of how well she should be speaking. I had to point out to her, I lived in Quebec all of my life. I am a native English Montrealer who has a French family. My mom and sisters speak French. It was not nearly as hard for me to learn French as it must be for a person who spoke a language that did not even use the same alphabet. Iranians speak Farsi, a Persian language that is not Arabic but can sound like it to an untrained ear.
Even with the language barrier much to the delight of the class, we found Mina to be very charming, caring, and a natural born comedian. Her jokes about her mother-in-law, whom she does not get along with, amused us. Most of the class did not realize that this lady hid her pain very well. She longed to feel a part of her husband's family; she needed family in this strange new world. It was the mother-in-law who would not accept her. Mina could not understand it. She told me how her own family embraced her husband with open arms, and she was brought up to believe that all families did the same.
I asked her why she had chosen to leave Iran and her beloved family behind. Mina gave me a matter-of- fact answer. She left her homeland to follow her husband's dream. I still wondered why Mina did not talk much about her family and her life in Iran. It wasn't that Mina had problems speaking French because by this time, three months later, Mina had improved tremendously and she was gaining a lot of self confidence in this area. Still, her self confidence was perhaps lacking elsewhere.
Normally, people easily open up to me and within no time I know their life story. I soon found out that Mina, on the other hand, believed that no one would be interested in her life. She was surprised to find out that this Canadian woman was very interested.
One day when we were talking about the emperor Darius, the first emperor of Iran, Mina asked me if I knew anything about the fast of Ramadan which lasts the entire month. During the month of Ramadan, Muslims all over the world, fast during the day time and eat only a small meal with family or friends during the evening hours.
She went on to explain that during Ramadan, only certain people are exempt from fasting; for medical reasons such as sickness or pregnancy. The laws are very strict, so much so, that if you are caught in Iran eating during the period, you are jailed.
Mina surprised me that day as she opened up to me like she never had before. She told me about her personal experience just prior to coming to Canada.
She was driving around getting things she needed for her departure. It was very hot and she felt very drained and lightheaded. Of course she had not eaten all day for she was a devout Muslim woman. However, since she wasn't feeling well, she was afraid of perhaps having an accident at the wheel so she took a small fig from her glove department and ate it.
While she was eating she had noticed a car parked and a man starring at her. She thought nothing of it at the time, yet no sooner had she eaten the fig; she was stopped by the police who accused her of breaking the law. Mina tried to explain that she was not feeling well and it was but a small fig. They were very rough with her and took her down to the police station where she was interrogated for hours and left in a jail cell over night.
Mina was terrified; she had no one there with her to defend her. She had never felt so vulnerable in all her life. The following morning she was to pass by the court officer to prepare for trial. She just could not fathom that she was about to be jailed for breaking Ramadan, a very serious offense, all because of a small indiscretion. She had eaten a fig!
Mina gathered her wits about her. She could not afford to go to jail. She could not afford to be branded as a common criminal the rest of her life. Her chances of immigrating to Canada destroyed right before her eyes. Yet, no amount of crying and begging for mercy was going to help her. She did the only thing she knew to do. She bribed the court officer. She offered him all the money she had in her purse; three hundred dollars, to let her go. A practice she says is done quite often in Iran; pay the court to look the other way.
Talk to Mina anytime about Iran and her eyes light up. She loves her country and her family back home. But behind the smile is the wisdom in her eyes which tell a tale of injustice and despair and the longing for a better life for her people.
Mina came to Canada to make a new life for herself in the land of the just and the free. While I am so thankful that freedom and justice is all that I have ever known.
Discussion questions: Do you know friends from other countries that have told you some pretty horrible stories about what happens in their country?
Do you think Mina (real name concealed) was wrong and broke the law and therefore should have been treated that severely?
Was she wrong to give the bribe to those people, as it is done there all the time, or were they wrong in taking bribes for such offenses?
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16 responses
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
2 May 08
What an interesting story! How sad for her to leave her country, I hope her life in Canada is wonderful.
If the law provided for illness, she didn't break the law. The authorities were wrong! Normally I wouldn't condone bribery but this is the rest of a woman's life and she had to do everything she could to get on with hers. And they are wrong for encouraging such a practice!
I'm glad she wasn't jailed. I hope her mother in law comes to accept her.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
Oh she broke the law, she would have to have been pregnant to be except.
Thank you for liking my story. She does like Canada a lot.
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@ellie333 (21016)
•
2 May 08
Firstly, thank you for sharing Minas story with . I do not know people from other countries who have been treated badly personally so have no stories to share, but I don believe she was treated unfairly in this instance. In these countries however the law is the law. I personally being female and being allowed to eat whilst pregnant would have used that as a reason, I would have said was in early stages and felt ill but then they might have done a test and if she was not would have been punished more severly. Medical conditions are exempt, the fact that she felt ill should have got her off. The officers were wrong to take the bribe but at least she was left with her freedom. I sincerely hope she has now adjusted to her new life in Canada and can put this behind her. Ellie :D
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
I had asked her about that but she said they would not believe her unless she produced evidence from her doctor and to lie would have gotten her into more serious trouble. Yes the bribes are common place in Iran and that is how people stay out of jail when they are not quilty and you can pay they even if you are guilty for really serious stuff she said everything is corrupt and is centered around money,
but then look at OJ Simpson in the States he payed a fortune to his lawyers but they got him off from a double murder charge.
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@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
2 May 08
My brothers were both in the Navy and stationed in many different countries. They have said more than once people in the United States have so many rights and are very lucky. One country both brothers they were always worried about just going outside, as the country wasn't safe. I'm quite thankful that I can walk outside and say whatever is on my mind. We can all see I do this quite often.
@Aingealicia (1905)
• United States
2 May 08
Rose,
What a touching story. Thank you for sharing. I believe Mina did the right thing. How else could she have been there to give you her story to share.
Ainge
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@Deea48 (1166)
• United States
2 May 08
That was a interesting story about your friend Mina. I myself work with a man from Ecuador, he does not speak very good English, so it is very difficult to understand him. Although his wife is with him, his children are still in his home land. He is working here while they are building a home for the family there. As far as them arresting her for eating a fig, well that is nuts. I suppose I do not understand their laws, even so. It was a fig for pete sake. As far as the bribe goes, I say she was a clever girl and used her head in such a ridiculous situation. I enjoyed reading your story Winterose, look forward to more.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
thank you so much Deeca, we are so lucky we do not have such strict laws.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
2 May 08
Thanks for writing your story Winterose!
I enjoyed it alot..
Very sad to have such a police state over eating..whether its a fig or not, people shouldn't be deprived of eating..yes fasting is good for you, but not to this extreme.
I had a friend that has long past on that lived in Poland..when all the wars were going on way back then..they weren't to kind with her kind..she was branded, tatooed with numbers, and they cut off all of her lovely hair..and this was just the stuff i could mention
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
yes it is awful nazi germany was one kind of hell and live under such strict rules in middle eastern countries can be another kind of hell as well. We are so lucky in the west.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
2 May 08
Hey this is a great story. Thanks for posting it winterose. I am so glad that we don't have such rules here in the states. I am afraid they would be broken all the time. A month that is a long time to fast. But I see her Mia as doing no wrong she felt lightheaded and faint that could be she was dehyrated when fasting your not supposed to really do anything but take it easy yet she was out doing her errands and in the hot heat. I would have personally done the same as her but maybe I would have hid in the floorboard of my car as not to take that chance of being seen. If it is somehting that happens often in her country and she knew it would get her off without it being on her record(I bet her mother in law had a field day with this) then she was just doing what others do and offer the bribe to get off. I know I would if I had the money to do so. Do you still keep in touch with this Mia(or whomever her real name was)? It must have been great to leanr about her country and the things they do or don't do. I know I wouldn't last but a week on my fast since I have tried it but not eating anything ieven in the evening. I have heard that fsting such as this is not healthy for longer then 2 days But to do it like their religion for a month and only partaking in a small amount of food still sounds unhealthy. Some countries have some strange things they do in their religion and I guess they think we do as well. They probably think we are all to lienateing in ours.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
2 May 08
Sorry about the name, It seems Mia was stuck in my head when I was posting instead of Mina. So please forgive me on the mistake.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
when you fast for a month you eat your one meal at night I think she said, so you don't starve, like if you were only fasting for two days then you don't eat anything. No she was not sure she would get off she was terrified of going to jail because if she had a record she would be barred from getting into canada.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
7 May 08
but even with partaking of the small evening meal they probably aren't getting he nourishment their bodies need to thrive on. I am hoping that they aleast take a multivitamin during their day fasting.
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
2 May 08
When Jesus and his disciples were passing through a grain field on the Sabbath, the men were hungry, and took heads of wheat in their hands and rolled them to remove the grains to eat. The Pharisees accused them of threshing, and breaking the Sabbath. Jesus said "Sabbath was made for the man, not man for the Sabbath." The Son of God did not find them guilty, and he did not have to be bribed. I would like to think that Mohammed, who is said to be a great prophet, who founded the religion for which Ramadan is celebrated would also be great enough to value the common people.I think he would have been more compassionate than the police. She was ill, and should have been permitted the fig, a very small thing. Bribes are wrong. They should not be given or accepted, but that was the expedient way to not be branded for life. I have known people who had to do similar things, in the case of "traffic tickets".
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
mina didn\t qualify for sick, she would have qualified only if she was pregnant she told me, remember she is supposed to be a healthy young woman so the police would not have believed her, the rules are very strict about religion in Iran.
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
2 May 08
I don't know any friends personally from other countries. My husband used to work at a restaurant that had cooks from Iraq. They were very nice men, both struggled to get to the states. One showed the scars on his back, he was shot, burnt, and stabbed when he was caught trying to leave Iraq. Once he got to the US, he couldn't call his family in fear of phone tappings. If his family was caught talking to him, they would have been killed. The other guy, somehow managed to sneak his wife and kids out safely, but fears calling rest of his family. After seeing the scars, I felt really bad for him. We have people complaining about the so called war in Iraq, but those men are very happy. They can call home now and visit when ever they want, without the risk of being killed for coming back.
For Mina, I think eating a fig isn't enough to be punished for, but in her country, laws are different from here in America. What if she was pregnant and didn't know it yet. I think it was sad that she had to bribe the judge to stay out of jail for eating a small piece of fruit.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
yep it is very strict that that country is rule by muslem rule, just a fig, it is awful. But fasting is fasting. She got out too that is the main thing. My boyfriend is from Iraq.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
2 May 08
I can not even imagine being jailed for eating a fig. We really are gifted. I think Mina did what she felt she had to do, and in the same situation I think a lot of people would have done the same thing. For most of us we have never felt the need to leave our country as you said and I agree with you, I don't think I could have done it either. Good story by the way!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
thank hon, I have written well over 300 hundred stories.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
20 May 08
Winterose this is a truly wonderful story. It is so unbelievable that a person can be jailed like a common criminal for such a simple thing as eating one small fig....and although I can't give any specific examples, I've heard that Muslim law is indeed very strict, and may seem even barbaric to us.
A story like this makes us realize just how lucky we are not to be living in such a culture that can be viewed as harsh and cruel
For instance, even though many Catholics or other Christians observe Lent and meat isn't allowed, surely no one would be jailed for breaking this rule, would they? No
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 May 08
the difference between catholics is that here in america we live in government run states, or countries, so the law can reflect some religious doctrine, like killing is a criminal offense but not others. In muslim countries were the religion rules the land like Iran, they are both tightly messed together.
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
14 May 08
great story rose. i think that we are very lucky to live in countries with such freedom.i would have done exactly what mina did,so i would not go to jail.i don't blame her one little bit for doing it,so she could start her new life in canada.cheers sue
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
2 May 08
It is just unbelievable what some people have to endure in their lifetimes, things that a majortity of us know nothing about. I mean I know the basics about certain religions but not how seriously the breaking of rules within a religion are.
I do not think that she should have been treated that severely at all, to me it seems ridiculous, but then again that is the laws of their land and so to them it is a serious matter.
I think that I would have tried to bribe them, if I thought it was going to get me off then I would have done so for definate, I guess she was just really lucky that she had some money on her at the time. I have never heard a story like that before.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
I am sure that I would have done the same thing as well. We are very lucky in the west.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
2 May 08
That is a very interesting story about how hard it is for a immigrant to come to a new land. No one here but her husband and a mother-in-law that would not get along with Mina. That was a very harsh punishment and I think it was way to hard. She wasn't eating just to be eating. She was concerned that since she wasn't feeling well she could cause a accident. As far as the bribe goes I don't think she was wrong for giving the bribe. It is a acceptable thing to do in her country. Great story. I look forward to reading more of your stories.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 08
thanks sweetie, I was very moved by this story myself.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
24 Apr 13
. Thank you for sharing this story. It is very interesting. I am an immigrant and I have to abide by the law of the country I am living in. Do you any other stories?
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Apr 13
I am a writer I have written two books, and published nearly three thousand articles but this site does not want personal publishing here.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
24 Apr 13
Wow. That's great. I am an aspiring writer but just wrote them in my blogs.