Were you happy as a child?
By gabrielle47
@gabrielle47 (1219)
Philippines
May 1, 2008 10:07pm CST
It is prevalent in news today that a lot of children are depressed and are violent. Some are forced to peer pressure and the results are not good when one is already and adult.
Some clinical studies of troubled parents today are due to the fact that they have an environment which was not good fro growing up. Most are growing in broken families and it is increasing today.
I cannot say I am perfect but I am ok and so glad I grew up in a close knit family and although we are poor as compared to my playmates, I am happy in the way I was brought up. I can still remember the happy years with my dad, mom and siblings but of course not everything was perfect as the way I wanted to.
How about you? care to share your growing up years if it were a happy one or not? Thanks for having the courage to share it here friends.
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30 responses
@fizanali (478)
• Pakistan
2 May 08
Well i was happy as a child overall though i had by bad times when my parents used to fight but still i grew up in a large family system with my grandma uncle and aunts who were (and are) very loving.I also spent few years of my life out of my country in britian but i enjoyed those days as well.
I wish i could be a child again.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
2 May 08
Hi Fizanali. Thanks for the response and it is good to hear that despite your parents fighting, you have a very supportive relatives around you. I too wish that I could be a child as well and bring back those memories. BTW, welcome to myLot!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
2 May 08
I was not happy as a child, because as a grade school kid, I was ostracized because I was always fat, as a teenager I never got the boyfriends that others had, and so on, after I divorced again my weight was an issue for so many men. It took 23 years to find my life partner and I have him now for 8 years.
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@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
2 May 08
Yes I was happy during my child hood .
I always think to go back in those times , which I have spent in that time . But I Know its not possible in this life .
Again to live in childhood . I will have to come again in this crazy world ....
thanks !!!
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@mkchaves (530)
• Canada
2 May 08
Hi gab.. well its a 30 - 70. 30 happy because i was provided with a place to stay, with food to eat, school to attend to, and with toys as well. but 70 sad because i grew up not having my mom around. she split when i was about 8 or 9 or 10. so.. it was terrible to have no mother. :(
@airukongqi (17)
• China
2 May 08
I think i am a lucky girl.I am a happy girl when i was yong.I have lots of friends then.My families were very kind with me.Although we were poor,we were happy.So i think
money is not so important at the face of a happy family.I have got much benefit of the environment.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
3 May 08
I was very happy as a child and had the most wonderful time growing up. Sure there are always a few things that don't go the way we would like but those are also an important part of growing up.
I had a very caring family - both close, extended and even biological-.
I grew up within big family gatherings were everyone was accepted and minor feuds forgotten.
I had the opportunity to experience life in many different places and cultures and learned that people are people, not opinions, colors, ethnics or life choices.
I was able to learn both in school, at home and by visiting places and things that made us who we are.
Was I happy? I sure was, except for the few sulky teenager moments every here and there LOL
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
2 May 08
i would say i was...
i was the only daughter...
i remember my mom being 'a bit' over-protective of me.. always being told not to do things, or not to go anywhere without 'chaperon'..
i luv'd books - story books, even 'schoolbooks'.. and my dad would never say no if i said i wanted to buy any new books...
we did come to some financial difficulties after that.. my dad was not able to maintain his 'good' income... but i dont recall any hardship... guess my parents tried their best to still provide for us, without having us see their own hardships..
well, all that has made me appreciate my parents a lot.. and i do luv them dearly... and i am trying my best to make their lives a bit more comfortable..
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@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
9 May 08
Yes I believe I was happy when I was a child. I have a very loving and supportive parents and wonderful siblings. I would say varied experiences during childhood were not all happy monments. There were a number sad monments as well but in general - my childhood days were the moments i would still go back to if given the chance.
@ryzach (1544)
• United States
3 May 08
Actually no. my family had many issues. I did enjoy the times when everything did go well and the time I spent with my grandmother. She was the one very stable thing in our family. We were close but so many issues
I learned to be very independent and remain that way today, many times prefer to be alone than with a group of people. I am very lucky that today I have my own family and we are doing great. Spend alot of time together and very happy.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
8 May 08
We were happy then, in fact it is one of the topic for discussion that I opened up. Most of the kids are happy during their days. But when everyone grows old, the closeness sometimes was lost.Each one have their own families and of course they have to tend to them. But in some occassions they are seeing each one and they are as close as before. I would say I have a happy days during my younger years.
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
3 May 08
I was not happy as a child. Not at all. I wanted nothing more than to grow up and forget my troubled youth. School was really troubled time for me and I wanted out. I was more depressed than violent. Well, from the ages of three and seven, I acted out physically, only because I couldn't express my feelings the way I had wanted to. As I got older I'm still faced with internal challenges that try to bury me.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
2 May 08
Generally I can say that I was happy in my Childhood despite all the sacrifices and trials my family went through! It made us all stronger and tough life, more patient, open-minded, hard working and very concern to each other even until this time!
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
2 May 08
to be honest..i wasn't...i learned life the hard way since i was a child...and saw the real like at a young age...i am 23 turning 24 but always been dreaming to go back to being a child on which i can portray the real role i had to play being a child...
when i was a child i was already workin for our livin...i started a very young age at 10...i didn't experienced what other kids experienced...i didn't play with dolls and playmates next door...i took care of my siblings and i didn't have the chance to go through stages...i was like 23 years old child when i was just 10...so its not that happy experience...but i never regret taking care of my siblings...i just wish that i had experienced once to be a kid..coz once an adult cannot go back to being a child once again...
@sissy15 (12300)
• United States
3 May 08
For the most part I did have a happy childhood. My parents didn't have a lot of money, and I didn't get a lot of the things other kids did, and my parents were older and couldn't do a lot of the things other parents did with their children, but my parents did their best to make sure me and my brother had what we needed. Plus my much older siblings would sometimes help out. My parents also took us places like taking us on walks and picnics, things that didn't really require money. Although my parents had some fallings out when I was much younger, I don't remember much about it, because they did their best to shelter us, sometimes thinking back I had it rough, but I didn't know it at the time, because they didn't make us worry, they just let us be kids. Which is all any parent can really do for their children. I was 12 when my parents finally seperated for good, but my dad always did his best to play an active part in my life, and it really didn't get to me. I am pretty well adjusted, and I as often as I joke about having many issues, I really don't. My parents always made me feel loved, and never made me think less about myself. I have never been easily influenced, and have always marched to the beat of my own drum, and all the friends I had growing up were my friends because they liked who I was and they always stuck by my side. I'm still friends with some of them. So I guess I'm one of the lucky ones.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
3 May 08
I think I was pretty happy as a child though I was shy and did not have a lot of playmates. but I was raisedon a farm and there was always so much to do. also I always had a dog and at least two or three kittens and all sorts of room to roam and hike and play in . i remember the summers with lots of sweet watermelon and canteloupes and strawberries,strawberry shortcakes, and iced tea. my mom always had a pitcher of icey koolaid, and my best friend would come to play with me. we would take picnic lunches and eat under the trees in one of our orchards. we had lots of squirrels in our trees and loads of birds.itwas great growing up on a farm.
@creative_genius (992)
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2 May 08
I'd say I was a happy child, I was very happy until I was about 9 or 10 then I became introverted and changed. I remember not having much money while growing up, but it didn't matter as everyone was in the same boat.
@vendettagirl (12)
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2 May 08
My parents went through a messy divorce, the court hearings lasting from when I was 2 to when I was 8. During that time, I don't think I was particularly happy because my parents were fighting and me and my mum were left homeless for a while.
When I was 10 I had to have spinal instrumention surgery to correct severe scoliosis, so that was quite a stressful time as well.
Nevertheless, I know my family love me, and that I have people who care about me and whom I care a lot for. In the long term, that's really all that matters to me.