Background check behind your loved ones back? Power of good or evil?
By lisado
@lisado (1227)
United States
May 2, 2008 1:36am CST
I was watching a TV show earlier and it got me wondering. If you had the power (say you worked for the FBI, the police force or some other company where you could dig up dirt on someone's past without them finding out about it and without having to actually go out and hire someone because you could do it yourself) to get a background on some involved with someone you cared about, would you do it? The story (for those who missed "Without a Trace" tonight) in a nutshell is that one of the FBI agents is pregnant from a one night stand and has decided to give the father to be a chance to be in the baby's life even though she knows almost nothing about him. Someone else in the office is checking into the guy, without her knowing it, to make sure he's okay so she doesn't get hurt or burned. You know if and when she finds out (and I'm sure they'll work it into the storyline that she does) she is going to be furious, even if he's scum.
So, would you use your power for good or evil (depending on your point of view) and if you DID get the info, would you tell the person what you found out, good or bad?
2 responses
@Adelida2233 (1005)
• United States
2 May 08
I would think anyone who has the authority to do background checks would, at some point, use it for personal use. My boyfriend is a cop, and Im sure he ran a background on me at soem point in the past 2 years. There are a lot of reasons that they can lose their job, and being involved with someone with a history if criminal activity would jsut be stupid.
If you have nothing to hide, then it shouldnt bother you. If they did confront you about something that you did, you have no right to be angry. First of all, you did whatever it was in the first place if its on your criminal record.
@lisado (1227)
• United States
5 May 08
Would you be upset to find out if he did? To find out if what you had told him about your past, at least legally, was true? Granted he probably can't get ahold of the stuff someone in the FBI could probably get their hands on, but he could still take a peak into your life in the way that a "normal" person couldn't. Would you trust him, or if the show were on the other foot would you check his info out just out of curiosity? Or would you choose to trust him? Do you think he would get mad at you if he found out you had checked him out without him knowing, if he weren't the cop, I mean.
@Adelida2233 (1005)
• United States
6 May 08
You bring up a good question. I've been totally honest with him from the beginning, and it had nothing to do with him being able to check up on me. I just think thats how you should be in relationships, it makes it much easier all along. So even if he didn't have the job that he does, that wouldn't change how I am.
@Adelida2233 (1005)
• United States
6 May 08
It took me so long to answer that, I forgot the second part of your question. I'm sure if I were in his position, where I could look up info on him, that at some point I would have looked up info on him. Now, there's not much point, we have been living together for 2 years, and tell each other everything.
You do bring up a good point though, while we totally trust each other, there are many other relationships that are not like ours. We have a common thought that there is no point in being together if you are going to cheat. And if that becomes an issue, you should have the respect for the other person to just break up with them rather than cheat on them.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
2 May 08
Hi there Lisado!
I think I will use it for good. And for me good means taking good care of my loved ones so I will definitely tell her the truth.
