How many kids do you have?

@ozzeth (940)
Philippines
May 2, 2008 2:53am CST
I am not married yet and i have no kids. I just want to know if how many kids do you have. If how much you attached to each other. If where the girls are more closed..to the father or to the mother. Is it hard to raise a child? how you balance the time for your self, for your husband, and on your job if you have. Being a mother and a wife is not easy. You should do your best for them. Taking care of their needs and wants. Give them the best of everything...
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
2 May 08
hi dear i have 2 kids one boy 3 yrs one girl 1 yrs well both are equally lovely and are impirtant to me so far raising them is easy not much problem, just need a bit patient LOl Take care
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
3 May 08
HI dear so far no plan but i wont mind if i get 1 or 2 more just want to have enough gap in birth of next kid Take care
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
4 May 08
well, good to know that! take care too.
@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
3 May 08
Do you have plan to add another one? One boy and one girl i think that is enough. what do you think? I guess patient should be there in raising a kid.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
2 May 08
I have three kids. It is not hard, unless you make it. It just gets rough sometimes, especially, if you don't have things balanced out like they are supposed to be. I think the hard part in raising my child now is is school. The schools want a child to be at their level, but they have too many guidelines for my child to meet. I as a parent am responsible for teaching my child things at home, so that when they go to school they already know what to do. Most of the time, I am very tired and I get frustrated at times. I can be a bit moody, but I try not to show it. It can be a lot of work, I will say. I will make the best time I can with my husband. When the kids are asleep that is when I take time out with my husband. We spend quality time together. I will tell you that I work hard and I stay very busy. I would love to take a family vacation this summer!
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
3 May 08
Yeah, i can see that cream! so better have a vacation and take some relaxation. Three kids is enough for a family, i guess?
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
6 May 08
For now it is. We have plans to have a fourth later down the line...
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
4 May 08
I have two children, both boys and they'll be 20 and 21 in a few months. We are very close, even though I moved back to my home state and we're not living near each other right now. Their dad was never much involved in their upbringing, he worked a lot of hours and when at home he laid on the couch and watched tv, rarely interacted with them, so I'm their parent. You put yourself last when you have children. If you have time for yourself, fine, but you'll have plenty of time for that when they grow up and move out. You're shaping a life, the most important job on earth, and you'd better pay attention because there's no going back and changing anything! You forget about your own needs for a few years. If you plan on having children, get all your partying done and prepare for 18 or more years of devoting your life and efforts to your child. It's the most rewarding experience you'll ever have but it's a lot of hard work, heartbreak and joy.
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
2 May 08
I have survived raising three children who are all married. I have two daughters and one son. I have to say raising them was the most challenging job I ever had. Those years we spent together are now my precious memories. Balancing everything in my life taught me skills I use today. I didn't worry about giving them the best of everything. I didn't have the money. I did read to them every day and all three kids are avid readers. All my kids turn to me for help, love and advice. They have a really crummy father. If anyone wants children, make sure you are 500% committed and then hold on for the most incredible ride of your life.
@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
3 May 08
Glad that they are all married. I am proud of you that you raised them successfully. 500% committed??I will put it on my mind anawar! great adviced!
• United States
2 May 08
You already know the answers to many of these questions, but I'll share with our fellow mylotians. I have four kids, 3 girls and one boy. We are all extremely close, although we have our share of battles. My littlest girl is very atatched to her daddy, but mom is no chopped liver:) My boy, I think is a bit of a momma's boy, however he does love the attention he gets from dad. The other two, well it just depends on the day. They love dad, but they are more comfortable to sit and talk with mom. Dad's the one that takes them sledding and fishing, and stuff like that.Mom's the one who reads to them, does most of the cooking, and comforting when sick. Balance is important, yet I am still trying to find it. I just realized that my boy needs a little more of me than he used to. It's not an easy job, don't let anyone try to fool you. There are up hill climbs as well as down hill coasts. But it is all worth it!!!! I wouldn't trade a single day of my motherhood for anything else in the world.
@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
3 May 08
Yeah, Motherhood is make a woman more sense in this world. Being a mother is not that easy even being a wife is not that easy too. Time balance is one important thing in having a family especially if you have a lot of kids to take care of.
@pau_79 (790)
• Philippines
4 May 08
I have 3 kids-all girls and raising them is downright tough...but it has its perks. When my youngest turned 2 I know its time I work again, but after a while I resigned because I got pregnant again and its hard to commute daily, I chose to stay home and take care of the kids because the maid cant help my eldest with her studies, so I can say that moms really sacrifice a lot for their kids.
• United States
4 May 08
I have one child and he is grown and married and has three kids of his own now. We moved around a lot due to being in the service so he had a hard life growing up. But all things considered he did very well and I did the best I could helping him grow up. He is doing a excellent job raising his kids. He has a 10, 12, and 13 year old. He homeschools them and stays home with them. His wife goes out and works. It is a hard thing to raise a child especially in these day and ages.
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@cmelton (160)
• United States
2 May 08
I have a 9 year old daughter (don't plan to have anymore). We are attached way to much to each other. I won't know what to do with myself once she starts getting away from the house more. She is close to both of us in different ways. She tells me things she won't tell her father, like boys she likes, problems with friends, and things like that. But he is the fun one, he takes her to do all the fun stuff and she loves that. It is hard to raise a child and find time for yourself. I couldn't imagine having more than one. But I have a wonderful husband that takes her and gives me time to myself. Parenting is a wonderful, but trying, experience!
@Anne18 (11029)
2 May 08
I have four children, a girl of 19, a boy of 10, and a set of girl/ boy twins who are 8. I think girls are easier than boys, but have friends who have boys and girls and think there girls are harder work than there boys. My 10 yr old is very demanding and can be the work of four children and him and his 8 yr old brother are very good at winding each other up and picking on each other these days. Makes life very hard work. love all four children to bits. I think that I am close to them all , but in different ways. I think they can come to ask me anything and they are always asking for kisses hugs and cuddles. Being a mum is very hard work and sometimes you always come last in the line of somethings, but i really wouldn't want to have it anyway, as I love being a mum, wife. We don't have much money in our house but we have lots of love time for each other. When I get time to myself I like to chill on the pc, with a book or art and craft. I think my hubby and I am close to all the children and are attached to us the same amount. Sometimes they do favour one of us more, but it is normally when the other one has told a child off for something